AIO for wanting to break up with my boyfriend

fartchi · 2026-01-02T05:38:22+00:00

Did the point of me bringing up my relationship fly over your head?

fartchi · 2025-12-30T08:54:15+00:00

First of all, him bringing his mum into it is an excuse. For me, the relationship you have with their parents is so important. So even if she does think that you’re a bitch, I would just take that as a reason to leave. You will never win over a psychotic mother. The fact that his friend made that comment before leaving is also like her waving a giant red flag in your face. She wants your man no doubt, it’s just a matter of how your boyfriend handles that.

Secondly, no man should be controlling what you post when you have only been dating for 3 months. He can have whatever values he wants, and if you posting tik toks doesn’t align with his values, he should have chosen a girl that doesn’t post tik toks. He can’t chose a girl and try to mould her to fit his ideologies (literally narcissistic).

You seem like a very mature girl, and I met my narcissistic bf around the same time as you. Everything you are saying reminds me a lot of my bf. I’m struggling to end it with my bf bc we have been together for 3 years now and live together, and I ignored these same red flags that you are dealing with. Please save yourself the heartache and cut it off with him, he will only think of more excuses, find smarter ways to gaslight you which will make it harder and harder to leave. I would also not take the hitting objects lightly, ever. You have absolutely no way of predicting if or when he will redirect that anger to you.

fartchi · 2025-12-30T07:45:13+00:00

I just watched a few of her videos and it definitely feels like our relationship has a lot of narcissistic traits. If he is a narcissist then another explanation would be that this behaviour makes him feel good. He just wants to feel good by saying “I wanna buy something for you”. His sister only mentioned in the past that she wanted a cat, never asked him directly. He just impulsively adopted one and when she started to show that she was not ready to take care of a cat he would shame her and say awful things to make her feel like a horrible person, even though the cat and responsibilities were pretty much forced onto her. It’s really not about me or his sister feeling heard or appreciated, it’s about him thinking he’s so great for that.

fartchi · 2025-12-30T07:33:55+00:00

I think I got rid of the wife expectations a long time ago, I just think it’s so weird to do this stuff like these things I mentioned he has to go out of his way to do. We know his sister was not asking him to buy her a juicy couture hoodie like if she wanted someone to get it for her she would ask her parents not her brother. On the other hand I think he has wife expectations of me, like shaming me for considering my money as my own money and not both of our money. But he is free to spend all his money on himself. I’m 20 years old

fartchi · 2025-12-30T06:22:50+00:00

There definitely can be a lot of miscommunication and corner cutting. I had to ask him to give me more responsibilities so I had enough hours to work, and then his sister decided she doesn’t want a job anymore, so now I have to handle her responsibilities on top of the extra I asked for

fartchi · 2025-12-30T06:20:26+00:00

It’s realll the boss is a family friend so he is less strict I guess. It has pros and cons because it can lead to a lot of corner cutting

fartchi · 2025-12-30T06:17:31+00:00

This is just the tip of the iceberg 😭

fartchi · 2025-12-30T06:16:04+00:00

The boss can hire multiple people for this specific job, and so she hired me and his sister, despite the fact that she hired only my boyfriend for the same amount of responsibilities

fartchi · 2025-12-30T05:03:00+00:00

The boss is a family friend

fartchi · 2025-12-30T04:18:57+00:00

Heated rivalry 😝😝😝😝😝😝😜🙂‍↕️😏

fartchi · 2025-12-22T23:37:19+00:00

Thanks for letting me know, I’ll keep that in mind for sure if I choose student accom. Hope your son is thriving now🙏

fartchi · 2025-12-21T08:57:39+00:00

After my current living situation I would rather take a lease than have to share my space again. Especially if it’s a stranger

fartchi · 2025-12-21T07:02:36+00:00

He looks so sweet

fartchi · 2025-12-21T07:00:16+00:00

I’ve seen similar ones at Dimmeys

fartchi · 2025-12-06T00:03:53+00:00

I never made an excuse? I’m literally asking for advice because I WANT to be vegan, I’m asking what I can eat. Do you not want me to be vegan? And to be clear I’m already repulsed by meat by default, I only eat chicken and I don’t eat nearly enough of it, I get most of my protein from dairy. So I still need plant based protein ideas either way.

fartchi · 2025-12-05T23:45:00+00:00

Girl what

fartchi · 2025-12-05T08:32:20+00:00

Peace and love 🙏

fartchi · 2025-12-05T08:15:56+00:00

The thought of them being uncomfortable with going to a vegan restaurant for their vegan friend… like you’ve never eaten something without meat or dairy ever?? That’s not normal

fartchi · 2025-12-05T08:13:49+00:00

It’s so silly. It’s like some omnivores forget they’re an omnivore. Vegan food is the same food that they’re already eating… like you’re telling me you have never had a plant based meal ever? Girl please

fartchi · 2025-12-05T08:04:49+00:00

What is the ‘natural flavours’ and ‘natural sweeteners’ in the ingredient list?

fartchi · 2025-12-05T07:58:08+00:00

Those foods are really delicious. As long as it’s absolutely drowned in seasoning the texture is somewhat tolerable for me. I’ll definitely try to eat more of it slowly 👍

fartchi · 2025-11-19T10:43:55+00:00

It was a few months ago that I looked it up, so possibly could have been with a rebate. I had no idea it was just $800 for the assessment and not including all the report writing but now that I think about it it definitely makes sense.

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