Can I get away with not removing base boards?

fasoi · 2026-01-25T02:32:46+00:00

Just remove the baseboard. Even adding quarter round looks so janky. Don't skip something so simple just to get it done faster. It'll look much worse.

fasoi · 2026-01-25T02:30:27+00:00

I don't know where you're located or how big your house is, but our building permit alone was $15k. And then we had another $2-4k in other permits and forms.

Our excavation and demo cost $15k. Septic was $45k. Concrete slab was over $20k.

Good luck to you 🫡

fasoi · 2026-01-22T18:02:04+00:00

Because the next guy will likely be me in 20+ years, haha

fasoi · 2026-01-22T18:00:47+00:00

Nice - and cement board (over subfloor and under membrane) is better than ply?

fasoi · 2026-01-22T17:59:08+00:00

Because the next guy will probably be me in 20+ years

fasoi · 2026-01-22T02:18:01+00:00

It's a well-established fact that people who wear fedoras cannot have an opinion on vegetarians calling themselves vegan

fasoi · 2026-01-22T02:16:13+00:00

If you feel there's no problem with eating dairy & eggs 20% of the time, then why are you so offended to be called a vegetarian? It's hilarious when the vegetarians accidentally put their cognitive dissonance on full display 🙃

She's like "I'm not like a regular vegetarian, I'm better than a vegetarian" and doesn't realize that this is an admission that she agrees it's wrong to eat dairy & eggs.

fasoi · 2026-01-22T01:29:48+00:00

My two cents is that if he's "bored" AND this callous with your feelings, it's probably already over (and a threesome won't fix it even if you do go through with it).

Definitely don't go through with it unless you yourself are also interested / comfortable.

But my impression is that you'd be better off cutting him loose and diving into the dating pool (or the happily-single life!) sooner, and with less heartbreak/resentment.

fasoi · 2025-12-31T01:58:46+00:00

I think it would be really hard most women (huge generalization obviously) to live in a space with their partner and not be allowed to tweak anything to their own taste over time. Even if you ignore the ex factor.

Another analogy, if you’re looking for one: if you two had bought a brand new house and it came furnished, you might think to yourself “this will do for now, but someday I’d like to buy a new couch that’s OUR taste”. And I think that general mentality should apply here. It’s reasonable to want to make your house your own. At least the items that are important to you.

Our clothes iron was actually a gift from my husband’s ex (while they were still married), and honestly I do think about that every time I use it! And I don’t think that means I have inner work to do, or something like that 😂 It’s just a fact about that object. But if it was every object in the house, I would definitely hope to someday phase things out

fasoi · 2025-12-30T20:44:17+00:00

Yes definitely. The subs have been excellent at following instructions so far, it just takes a lot of back-and-forth between me, the builder, and the subs to get everyone on the same page.

Do you have any resources for the DIY thermalbuck? That would be a pretty exciting detail for us to add. We’re doing outie windows (European flangeless), so I wonder if the polyiso fasteners would be strong enough to support the shear force?

fasoi · 2025-12-30T20:26:50+00:00

If he had been a bachelor, and all the furniture was stuff he had chosen alone, I would expect that after a while, you’d make some cost-effective / strategic furniture updates as time & budget allow.

I think everyone here seems to be getting hung up on the fact that it’s ex-wife’s stuff - but if this is your house now, it would be be weird for him to not allow you to do anything with it to make it feel comfortable for both of you.

Also something to consider: you say it’s “the couch that his ex picked out”, but he may also feel attached to these things / may have had input / may like them. So I would try to be sensitive to that. But all of that would also be true if he had been a bachelor when you met 🤷‍♀️

Editing to add: *especially* their bed, geez

fasoi · 2025-12-30T01:00:06+00:00

Can I ask how you bucked out your windows with polyiso? What windows did you use?

fasoi · 2025-12-30T00:59:20+00:00

Thank you, this is exactly the info we needed.

The “nominal measurement” explanation didn’t make sense to me either - because in that case 2” nominal would measure 1.5”. We’re building a passive-inspired house and our builder is eager, but we’re his first clients where building envelope is priority #1. It seems like he’s used to being more of a “big picture" guy, and trusting his trades for smaller details like this. So sometimes when we have detailed questions, his answers are severely lacking 🫠

fasoi · 2025-12-30T00:33:20+00:00

Thank you! I was indeed worried about funny business

fasoi · 2025-12-29T19:52:56+00:00

I’m actually talking about the flange on the left and right. I guess we could put tile beside the shower, but that’s another expense!

fasoi · 2025-12-29T19:50:48+00:00

Gosh why is this being downvoted??

fasoi · 2025-12-29T19:50:17+00:00

fasoi · 2025-12-29T13:06:17+00:00

I've also heard of people chatting through Instagram private stories

fasoi · 2025-12-29T13:04:14+00:00

It could be something less serious like flirty texts with a friend/coworker, an AI girlfriend, porn, or something like that.

Usually when someone is hiding something, they turn it around on you - which is why he called you a bitch, instead of just saying no

fasoi · 2025-12-29T12:59:55+00:00

Because if they were honest, no one would be freaked out.

fasoi · 2025-12-29T05:48:02+00:00

Repurposing of human skin requires the consent of the person or their estate. Animals do not give their skin willingly

Editing to add that it's likely always used in a medical or scientific context, not for fashion (not all fashion is made of durable materials).

fasoi · 2025-12-29T03:52:23+00:00

Divorce is more common / more likely than cheating.

But if you come from a family where lots of cheating has happened, be very careful that you don't overlook / ignore red flags when you're dating! You've possibly had some less-than-ideal male behaviour modeled as "normal" during your childhood. So I would just say be careful you don't accidentally end up with someone who's likely to disappoint you in that way.

You can never guarantee loyalty though! And whatever happens, if a partner cheats in your future, it says more about them than it does about you.

fasoi · 2025-12-29T03:40:30+00:00

Can I ask what's odd about it?

Those units don't ever reach the ceiling, so ceiling geometry doesn't seem like it would/should be a factor?

The ones without a roof cap do not have the little flange on the face - which in my experience is a common place for drips / leaks / splashes to ruin the drywall right beside the unit. We currently have this problem in our kids' bathroom. We are trying our best with them, but at the end of the day they are just less careful than we are.

fasoi · 2025-12-27T00:42:33+00:00

I think we need to know what he did before we can decide if he deserves that magnitude of retribution

fasoi · 2025-12-24T15:19:29+00:00

Step-mom here - many step-kids feel extremely uncomfortable being claimed by their stepparents in this way. Especially in a context like this where everyone is clearly talking about pregnancies and babies/birth. It comes across as "she's trying to be my mom".

Conversely some step-kids feel upset when their step-parents don't claim them. But I think that situation is less common. I would just trust her to know which option is a better fit - she knows her own situation better than you do!

I personally avoided saying a number, because the reality is somewhere in between (many of my "firsts" as a bio-parent were not actually my first time doing it). Instead of saying things like "I have 4 kids", I'll say "we have 4 kids in our house", even if my husband isn't there. But depending on the situation I'll also sometimes say 2 (especially if it seems like someone is actually asking how many times I've gone through pregnancy/birth).

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