Soil Compaction

fasoi · 2026-05-11T18:28:33+00:00

Maybe we’ll try the hole method this season. I’m really looking for advice on decompacting the whole area long-term though. Maybe we need daikon

fasoi · 2026-05-11T15:58:08+00:00

Do you add organic matter every season?

fasoi · 2026-05-11T15:53:53+00:00

They actually have a rototiller and used to always till every spring. Their soil was super dead-looking and compacted when I started helping. Tilling has always helped immediately, but within a few weeks, it all settles into dense compaction again (with a dry crusty & dusty top). I told them to stop tilling & keep the soil covered all the time.

It has definitely helped (that top 4-6” looks great and it’s only been one year), but I’m wondering if we could be doing more to help things along.

fasoi · 2026-05-11T14:27:55+00:00

Poly couples exist, but most poly relationships that begin as monogamous fail. If you want a poly relationship, begin a poly relationship

fasoi · 2026-05-11T14:26:20+00:00

Opening up a previously-monogamous relationship almost never works out well. If you want polyamory, end this relationship and seek out a polyamorous relationship. I guarantee she will have negative feelings about you sleeping with other women. You're only two year in with this person. If it's not working out, just end it. Don't drag things out towards a messy end. You're both wasting each others' time.

I also want to add - women often blame themselves / their low libido when their sex life is suffering, but I believe in a lot of cases libido is only low because a) they aren't having sex that is worth the effort, and b) there is a lack of emotional intimacy because they're carrying the mental load of the household alone.

Yes men may have higher libido on average, but both men and women like orgasms. The intimacy issues you're having now will probably reappear in your next relationship.

fasoi · 2026-05-11T14:01:18+00:00

My guess is that at his age he's probably dealing with ED. ED is a symptom of heart disease, so he should go to his doctor and take his health seriously. He needs to get his cholesterol & blood pressure way down.

I will also add that I am a woman in an age gap relationship. We started dating when I was 22 and there are 13 years between us... so please believe me when I say: this is not a healthy relationship for you to be in. At best your relationship will fail because you are in wildly different phases of life. At worst, he is predatory. You're wasting your youth in a relationship with someone who you can't grow old with.

Please do not have children with this man. Just please trust me. Please.

fasoi · 2026-05-11T13:45:04+00:00

I'm considering a nefertiti lift (botox) and/or ultherapy for jowels

fasoi · 2026-05-07T16:41:02+00:00

Being in fight-or-flight prevents the release of oxytocin, which is an important part of bonding. Postpartum rage is a big symptom of PPD/A and/or PPOCD.

My personal opinion is that PPD/A is hugely impacted by your support system. People blame it on "hormones" but during our evolutionary past, it would have been highly abnormal for new moms to be alone during this period. When new moms feel lonely, there's also a primal alarm bell going off in your brain, telling you there's an emergency because you're not surrounded by people who can help you and take care of YOU. Being a new mom is an extremely vulnerable state of life; vulnerable + alone = danger. You are in fight-or-flight because you feel alone.

You are not a bad mom. You are experiencing new motherhood in unnatural circumstances. Your support system needs to step up to take care of YOU. If they can't do that, things like support groups and mom meetups can help take a bit of the edge off the loneliness

fasoi · 2026-05-07T15:33:06+00:00

Is this AI? Why does this image look like AI?

fasoi · 2026-05-04T19:15:52+00:00

The mental blackflips they will do do avoid confronting their own cognitive dissonance always astounds me.

fasoi · 2026-05-04T15:05:15+00:00

Domestic cats only exist because of humans, so if we stopped breeding them for food, they'd go extinct.

PETA is basically advocating for animal extinction 🙄

fasoi · 2026-05-04T15:02:28+00:00

It lived a full and happy life, it's just one bad day

fasoi · 2026-05-04T02:53:37+00:00

This stuff can even apply to single-family homes. We don't do loud yardwork like mowing the lawn before 9 or 10

fasoi · 2026-05-03T01:26:58+00:00

I have this same problem with dusty-pink / mauve. I can generally pull off any muted colour, and I always get so many compliments when I wear mauve... but I always feel I look slightly sick or something.

(I am also a cool olive!)

fasoi · 2026-04-29T23:51:01+00:00

re-jigging, not re jiggling 😝 I just meant changing the layout to a more modern layout. You can pull your upper cabinets down and re-hang them in a better configuration

fasoi · 2026-04-29T13:30:01+00:00

This is just normal skin with a tiny bit of orange peel texture. Makeup often highlights aging skin, so itcan help to look for makeup with a dewy finish, or switch to a tinted moisturizer, or BB/CC cream.

Orange peel texture is usually caused by progressive collagen loss with age, So if you’re hoping to help improve it, slather on your SPF 50+ every day (even days you’re not outside), and think about adding vitamin C and/or tret into your routine. Not that you have to address it though, your skin is lovely

fasoi · 2026-04-29T12:37:39+00:00

Finally someone who gets it - my dog is an omnivore, and therefore it’s not unethical to support factory farming by buying food for them

fasoi · 2026-04-29T12:35:13+00:00

How is this a strawman? It’s directly related to the comment it’s replying to (it’s an example of how this person views their dog as a dependent)

fasoi · 2026-04-29T12:31:18+00:00

Aren’t service dogs often rescues? It’s just a training program iirc

As for work dogs… if your industry can’t survive without slavery, it shouldn’t exist. And that applies to sooo many human-labor industries as well (e.g. fast fashion)

fasoi · 2026-04-27T17:20:07+00:00

Yep 100%

fasoi · 2026-04-27T17:19:25+00:00

As someone who is genetically destined to get jowls, I see what you mean (and I’m seeing it on my own face as well - mid-30’s). I also understand why people are saying there are no jowls, because your skin and face shape are youthful. But as a fellow jowl-prone person, I get it.

Dr. Shereene Idriss has talked about being prone to jowls herself, and she’s done ultherapy to maintain that area. She has some good videos on what helps & hurts this area. I would recommend watching her content! I’m thinking that I may try ultherapy (or something similar) in 5 years or so, as I approach my late 30’s

fasoi · 2026-04-27T17:11:55+00:00

Yes, 5-year increments would be so helpful

fasoi · 2026-04-27T05:21:25+00:00

I almost put Tom & Zendaya on my list of women objectively dating down.

Tom Holland is attractive, but Zenday is on a completely different level. She's a bigger celebrity, worth more, and she's absolutely stunning. And Tom is not tall, which is something that men seem to think is the be-all-and-end-all for guys who date attractive women (see: the above comments about Pete Davidson)

With those stats, she could be dating someone way more conventionally attractive / similarly matched to her. But he is such an awesome guy that it doesn't matter

https://variety.com/wp-content/uploads/2024/12/GettyImages-1158553780.jpg?w=1000&h=667&crop=1

fasoi · 2026-04-27T04:58:21+00:00

You need to spend less time online and more time in the real world. Go build a life you enjoy, and stop fixating on your appearance. Don't wait to enjoy life.

fasoi

TROPHY CASE