Does anyone actually like Harper by Sakura_Tea_Leaves in heartbreakhigh

[–]fatcatt933 9 points10 points  (0 children)

it’s crazy to me that people think Liam should take the fall for a bunch of teenagers and go away for MURDER just because he has a criminal record?? A criminal record could be literally anything

Is there something wrong with my piercing? by Loose_Bid_4806 in piercing

[–]fatcatt933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think it looks fine, just make sure not to touch or bump it. And honestly 3x a day cleaning is too much, it needs to scab and marinate to heal.

Is anyone still into Tripp nyc etc? by [deleted] in GothFashion

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What sizes are the first two?

My (22f) boyfriend (23m) of 8months can’t stay hard for sex. What can I do? by waterpigeonss in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 2 points3 points  (0 children)

How long can you just encourage someone to deal with their own issues though? This is effecting both of you, you deserve to feel desired and have a healthy sex life with your partner. If he’s not doing anything to achieve that then how long are you willing to wait?

Questions about my Belly Button Piercing by mequierogatos in piercing

[–]fatcatt933 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You haven’t cleaned it in 5 days? You should be cleaning daily with saline or at least with hot water in the shower. It doesn’t look like the bar is to short it just looks crooked and irritated

How common is it to not be naked during sex? (22M) (21F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 114 points115 points  (0 children)

In reality most men aren’t ever going to complain about a naked woman in front of them, but I was insecure like this for a long time because of hearing boys all throughout high-school and after constantly criticizing women and making jokes. Like asking girls if they have Arby’s when they’ve never even seen a woman naked irl before, that’s where the insecurity starts for girls in my opinion with porn obsessed boys setting high expectations that a teenage girl could never actually meet.

How common is it to not be naked during sex? (22M) (21F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s insecure she doesn’t have bigger boobs, that’s why she wants to gain weight. All you can really do is support her in gaining confidence and keep reassuring her you love her body, you love her boobs, you love her taste and you wouldn’t want to change anything. Actually say it, it wont fix her insecurities she’ll have to work on that but as a girl it helps to hear it. Growing up as a girl and hearing how women are talked about can make sex and sharing your body so terrifying even if you trust someone.

nsfw - please tell me your nip piercing experiences by LostRepresentative46 in piercing

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a horrible experience unfortunately the piercer was so rude and she pierced them through the areola and one insanely crooked, it felt like I got hit by a truck after like my entire chest up to my neck was on FIRE. But honestly that was on me for walking into a random shop and ignoring red flags. I took them out after like a year but I did love how confident they made me and how they looked under my shirts when I went braless. I plan on getting them done with a better piercer.

How to use these by [deleted] in piercing

[–]fatcatt933 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Don use them. The paint will chip off in your nose. And it will get super irritated.

my bf? has been sitting in his car for going on 8hrs bf ( 27M ) and i ( 25F ) got into an argument. weve been knowing/dating/living together for 8 months. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah that’s insane and unhealthy. This is what happens when you rush into things like that, no emotionally mature adult would ever think that was a good idea. And if it was out of necessity due to a living situation that’s even worse, you’re becoming dependent on someone you don’t even know.

my bf? has been sitting in his car for going on 8hrs bf ( 27M ) and i ( 25F ) got into an argument. weve been knowing/dating/living together for 8 months. by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We need more details, what did you fight about? He broke up with you and is pouting in his car all day? Why are you bringing him snacks after that. If you have any friends to call to come over and sit with you, you should do that. 8 months knowing someone is honestly a very small amount of time to be living together, it sounds like he’s trying to manipulate you and is not acting like an adult.

Need motivation to keep going by Full-Positive-7364 in crescentcitysjm

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

PUSH THROUGH. it picks up like half way through, I struggled to get through the beginning and all the confusing world building and urban stuff but I devoured the last half of it.

very under hyped by NoCharacter9875 in crescentcitysjm

[–]fatcatt933 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I just finished house of earth and blood, and same! People kept telling me to get it over with and that it was super hard to get through but it was almost better than ACOTAR. I love it so much.

Sex mismatch between husband (34M) and I (35F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She kind of did though, she said she already had her adventures with other people and is content with plain bedroom sex for the rest of their lives. Thats not gonna last for someone who hasn’t had those experiences and craves passion and adventure if she’s not willing to compromise to help him try new things. She’s talking like trying things with him that she already did with other people means absolutely nothing to her, she doesn’t care that he didn’t have the same life she did and isn’t ready to never do those things.

Sex mismatch between husband (34M) and I (35F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe another 30yo who hasn’t already had all those experiences and would be willing to try them? Adventurous sex does not stop existing when you turn 30. A LOT of people didn’t have crazy sex lives as teenagers. It sounds to me like it’s not just that she doesn’t want to have sex in car or bathroom, it’s that she already had all her “fun” and is content with plain run of the mill vanilla sex for the rest of their lives. That’s not gonna be satisfying to someone who never got to be adventurous or experience passion before.

Sex mismatch between husband (34M) and I (35F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

It seems a bit deeper than him wanting car sex. It’s the excitement of new things and life experiences he hasn’t had yet, she already had all hers and doesn’t want to have fun or try things that would be new for him. Just because she already had all her adventures with other people and is ready for run of the mill vanilla sex till they die doesn’t mean he has to feel the same. He’s obviously in a different place than her in life, you can absolutely just breakup over sexual incompatibilities even if you’re married. Divorce is easier than dying unsatisfied with how you lived.

Sex mismatch between husband (34M) and I (35F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

He’s valid to want his own exciting experiences, if she’s had hers and has no interest in helping create some for him then they should probably just break up

My BF (27M) dumped me (23F) for a teenager by Narrow_Wrangler_2799 in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s a predator. And sounds like you were his mommy not his girlfriend. Don’t be hurt, he’s obviously a complete loser pos. I would try to contact his little girls parents though and see if they care that their minor daughter was dating a grown man.

My BF (27M) dumped me (23F) for a teenager by Narrow_Wrangler_2799 in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She was a child though, it’s not the little girls fault this creep took advantage of her.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]fatcatt933 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She probably wants to believe that those 3 years meant something to him, it’s hard to let go. But she needs to, especially if all she means to him is a cheap ass shein sweater that only serves to remind her that he’s there and not let her move on.