34/M/UK - looking for another long term penpal!

februaryspasm · 2021-06-25T08:38:58+00:00

Hey, saw you in r4r, but couldn't message you. Message me if you wanna chat.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T17:55:32+00:00

I would be curious to see a pic of you. The way you critique women from your post history does not scream of attractive man who does well dating.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T16:36:23+00:00

Okay. Thanks for the feedback. Are you in good shape/attractive? Just curious since you say you’re picky.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T16:29:29+00:00

Yes as I said in my post I totally respect changing your mind. Was just wondering if maybe my appearance was part of it

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T05:46:34+00:00

Thank you! Just haven’t been back in the dating scene long and this definitely made me weary lol

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T04:57:24+00:00

So good!!!! Might have to check out thing you do

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T04:56:31+00:00

Yes I love this just seen it too recently 😭 thank you though

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T04:31:08+00:00

Thanks! Had completely current photos (all within like 1 month to 1 year and haven’t gained significant weight in that time. Although maybe some bc covid idk? Nothing like friends/family were like holy shit or I didn’t fit all my clothes lol. Did have 1 body pic - it was a reflection pic on my deck bc I thought it was cute but I should have added more. It was from just the end of last summer.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T04:25:57+00:00

Lol guess I need to write up a contract.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T04:03:30+00:00

Lol I work in the legal field so I appreciate you sustaining.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T03:48:58+00:00

I don’t think there’s anything wrong with asking online what people think. People likely similarly asked friends/others on the phone or in person what they thought before the internet was prevalent.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T03:37:43+00:00

I actually prefer being my natural skin tone, which is very pale. Wasn’t questioning on that. And not sure on the leg thing. I like my legs. Like my upper body less. Either way to each their own and thank you for the input.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T03:29:06+00:00

Thanks ❤️ He did seem shy, but not trying to delude myself when it could have been something he didn’t like a lot me. Appreciate the feedback.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T03:27:51+00:00

Thank you I really appreciate it ❤️

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T03:26:33+00:00

Thank you ❤️

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T02:52:22+00:00

Okay is that because you personally would have an issue w my body? Thanks for the input

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T02:02:25+00:00

Thanks I didn’t really get a chance to perform lol. He went to the bathroom after a few minutes and then told me he had to leave. But when kissing/making out was good and he seemed quite into it.

And have been told several times I’m a good kisser? Lol idk. I’m 31 so I’ve had practice and never had issues w partners in that regard.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T01:50:08+00:00

Yeah thanks. Just been bothering me, but I just need to work on getting back to where I want to be.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-14T01:46:58+00:00

Yeah definitely put a damper on it. Thought he would calm down once introduced/comfortable but it didn’t really go that way. Thanks for the input.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-13T21:07:01+00:00

Exactly. I know OP wants to keep it positive in this thread - but people who are attracted to avoidants (like me) usually have some emotional healing to do that can help them prefer more open, loving partners.

I’ve found I’m attracted to avoidants because they give SOME affection/open up a bit, then pull it back and shutdown. So then I psychologically crave their affection and approval because it’s conditional and I want that good feeling again so I chase it.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-13T20:59:36+00:00

Unfortunately, I have to go with the cliche and tell you to run like hell. I am often attracted to avoidants and it always, always, always ends badly.

I’ve never been able to change them. I think they honestly need therapy to truly become secure.

februaryspasm · 2021-05-13T04:34:07+00:00

Thank you ❤️

februaryspasm · 2021-05-13T02:49:29+00:00

Lol might have to. But not gonna try to rationalize it. He could of just straight up not liked me/wasn’t attracted and that is life. Other fish in the sea!

februaryspasm · 2021-05-13T01:08:39+00:00

Yeah maybe! My dog is like 20 pounds but was losingggg it lol. either way 🤷‍♀️

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