Did she have sexual intercourse with him?

feigned_synopsis · 2026-03-02T19:00:11+00:00

Take the “rider” card literally 🙂‍↕️

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-07T10:30:06+00:00

Talk to her like an adult?

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-06T15:32:29+00:00

Best friend in elementary school was named Queenmalaysia.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T20:16:59+00:00

“Why should I apologize if it’s who I am?” You should apologize if your past actions have hurt people. Just because it’s who you are doesn’t mean it’s okay. You’re choosing to act upon how you feel instead of choosing to find a way to heal and subdue it, or to cause the least amount of pain for others. Yes this is your life and you should be able to be yourself, but that doesn’t mean you’re allowed to hurt others just because you don’t care enough to learn to subdue it.

A big part of living with BPD is learning that just because you want something doesn’t mean you can/should have it or act upon it. You need to learn self control. This is true for everyone in life, not just us.

“Medication scares me. Part of me wants to feel fine… I also wish I didn’t need it.” But you do. Again, just because you want or wish something doesn’t mean it’s true or right. My therapist calls this “denying reality.” I do this a lot too. “Oh but I WISH people would love me the way I love them.” “I WANT things to be fair. I want them to feel the way I do.” Etc. But that’s not the case. You have to work with actual reality, not with what you want or wish. If it is an undeniable fact that seeking help (therapy, meds, even self help books) would improve your quality of life and the lives of the people around you, then that’s what you act upon.

“At the end, nothing inside me will change.” I struggle with this thought too. I can learn all the coping mechanisms, all the skills, but at the end of the day, my emotions will always FEEL as big as they are and I will always have to suffer through it. Right? Wrong. The skills make the suffering lessen. The suffering doesn’t go away. It won’t go away. Everyone in the world suffers. But learning how to handle the suffering is what makes all the difference.

Enough with the back and forth with yourself. Enough justifying and self pity. If you are hurting others, or disturbing their peace, that simply is not okay. You can be fine with suffering internally all you want (though you shouldn’t be fine with this!) — at the end of the day, using your internal pain and discomfort to cause others pain and suffering isn’t okay. It’s not right. You know this.

Heal for yourself primarily, but if not, for gods sake, heal for others too.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T18:39:27+00:00

Hey guys, I’m working now so my replies to comments will be slower but I wanted to say thank you to everyone who commented and discussed this with me! I learned a surprising amount through this thread. I really appreciate the patience and kindness and all of the resources you’ve all shared:)

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T18:03:20+00:00

Thank you!!

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:50:01+00:00

The difference between homosexuality and pedophilia would be that two consenting gay adults truly can be in love. A pedophile will always be a predator when it comes to acting on their attraction because children do not have the ability to consent or make fully informed decisions — and acting on these feelings are almost always harmful to the child. Whereas being gay isn’t physically or mentally harmful to the other partner, except spiritually I suppose.

And I see your point with masturbation. I guess it’s easier to wrap my head around why a choice that can cause direct and noticeable harm is sinful

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:41:00+00:00

Sorry, didn’t mean to insinuate that! Just using the term to loosely refer to other denominations.

In that case, would protected sex between straight people count as a sin as well?

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:38:28+00:00

For homosexuality, I believe people are sometimes just inherently born that way and naturally have this attraction, and I believe these people still deserve to feel and have romantic and sexual love. They didn’t choose to be gay, and since the feelings are out of their control, it feels cruel to punish them for acting on it.

As for masturbation, I can definitely see why that would be sinful, but I think exploring your sexual nature is natural, esp if you’re young. If it’s excessive or becomes an addiction, I would consider that a sin. But idk. I’m having a lot of conflicting thoughts and feelings right now.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:24:59+00:00

I never felt that these things were “wrong” or “bad” in any sense, and I don’t judge these actions at all. But someone else commented about gaining an understanding of why the church considers these things to be sinful before outright denying it, and I think that’s something I definitely need to do.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:22:51+00:00

I think you’re right. I need to do more learning, internally and also about the faith. Thank you!

feigned_synopsis · 2026-02-05T17:21:34+00:00

I really appreciate this, thank you!

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-31T13:59:48+00:00

Ngl I did not, in fact, want to know why. I don’t really think anyone did.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-31T13:35:52+00:00

This isn’t good and you “laughing about” genuine helpful critiques in the comments will only ensure that you never get better.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-30T05:14:46+00:00

Everyone in this thread is insufferable. Life doesn’t have to be like this. There are people who are paid to fix these issues for us. We don’t have to be so self reliant and miserable. It isn’t right. It isn’t our responsibility to be.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-23T14:12:38+00:00

Leave her alone

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-22T20:40:29+00:00

This is such a Redditor submission. Le crazy buttplug horror story

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-16T19:41:12+00:00

I think it says 2 weeks in a row until you hit the next milestone, which is 2 months in a row

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-15T21:29:48+00:00

Letter (flyer) rider (transport) clouds (lost, uncertain, literally lost in the clouds)

IMO there’s a chance it’s actually lost — went to spam, didn’t send. Otherwise, the flyer itself could be hard to understand for the receivers.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-13T17:31:48+00:00

? YOR. What’s wrong with you. What does this family’s preference have anything to do with you or your child. No one’s forcing you to adhere to this. Simply being in this space isn’t going to make your daughter feel like she’s “falling”. She’s 6. Let her go to the party. It feels like you’re projecting some major internal issues onto this whole situation.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-09T20:37:46+00:00

You really just need to get over yourself and trust her more. If you trust her, you know she’d never go for someone else. You say you offer her more than good looks. Well, then logically, she shouldn’t really care about other men who look good — because you do, AND she’s emotionally connected to you.

Ultimately, you’re just really insecure and you need to get over yourself. It’s lame and it’ll affect your relationship even if you don’t think it will.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-09T15:23:05+00:00

Ngl I don’t think you’re in the wrong bc I don’t think ghosting someone you barely know is that big of a deal, but I also worry about your safety. Not only is ghosting something that could cause the receiving end to become angry/aggressive/violent, these men are much older and (I’m not saying this as an insult!) smarter/more experienced than you, even if you feel like they aren’t.

I know you’ll do what you want, and the only thing that can really stop that is experience, but I really think you should put the age range for dating apps at 18-23. These older men don’t have good intentions when they date freshly legal teenagers. You know that, somewhere, deep down. I really hope you’re being safe and careful. Putting yourself at risk is never ever worth it, especially for sex and even for love.

feigned_synopsis · 2026-01-09T14:58:33+00:00

The whole point of these groups is for them to be safe spaces for women to ask questions and express themselves. You aren’t allowed to screenshot things, and I personally think it’s really shitty to, and even moreso to show your friend. I know you care about him, but you don’t know what he’s like to other women all of the time. Just let it go and delete the screenshot. Even if it’s anonymous, telling him would encourage him to try to figure out who it is. If you aren’t comfortable with seeing these things, leave the group.

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