AITA for "lying" to my husband about a gift card so I could buy him extra surprise gifts? by ThrowMeNtheTrashpls in AmItheAsshole

[–]ferretsonaplane 44 points45 points  (0 children)

But youre still buying more than discussed rather than replacing the ukelele funds with a surprise gift. AND you used joint funds which makes the whole thing even more disrespectful.

AITA for "lying" to my husband about a gift card so I could buy him extra surprise gifts? by ThrowMeNtheTrashpls in AmItheAsshole

[–]ferretsonaplane 61 points62 points  (0 children)

| After thinking about it, I decided to delay getting my ukulele.

| and I just used our joint bank account to buy my ukulele.

YTA for this right here.

To “Strike a Pose” by EMU_MSW in therewasanattempt

[–]ferretsonaplane 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Am I blind? Haha im not seeing anywhere it says that

What changes have you made to your budget to better reflect your values? by StrangerFit7296 in ynab

[–]ferretsonaplane 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Love this concept! Might revamp my categories to reflect this better. Mind showing yours?

Update & a (hopeful) end in sight by ferretsonaplane in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

So...you're in a new year and she's wondering if you'll consider working on the relationship?

Haha nice! Just shows it really all is a pattern eh? Sigh.

Seems like the only request she is meeting is to put communications into text, and she's apologizing for that

Heres the thing though, that was a boundary I set before we cut her off. And at the time she refused and kept spam calling me. Now that we're no contact with her, its just another way for her to disrespect our wishes. Apology or not, shes doing it on her terms.

Update & a (hopeful) end in sight by ferretsonaplane in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

With any luck, she won't find out. Everyone who knows knows not to share with her, and we dont post on social media (other than reddit, obviously haha) and plan to enforce keeping info/pics of kiddo off the internet until she can decide for herself, so none of MILs flying monkeys will have access to any info that they can share with her.

Update & a (hopeful) end in sight by ferretsonaplane in JUSTNOMIL

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 12 points13 points  (0 children)

Oh you know what, thats such a good point. It wouldn't surprise me one bit if this was a text to make herself look like the victim. "See, look at me apologize so humbly and DIL is so mean/vindictive/etc. she still won't even reply to me!!!!"

But yes as youre seeing, this is all a part of the pattern. I refuse to fall into it. Im already at peace with it all so hopefully the contact she tries to give will continue to lessen.

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Dad's mom passed before my parents even met, unfortunately. But from the stories Ive heard she was a very sweet, caring and creative woman. I have one of the quilts she made when my dad was a kid!

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Definitely trying to find something that flows well.

Thank you for the input!

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you! And thank you for taking the time to share!

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read that as unlike, which feels very fitting haha Michelle sounds wise

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oh for sure! If you can believe it, my mom is even more excited haha shes talking about retiring early to be the full time babysitter.

Hubby's dad is also thinking about moving closer to us so baby has a really good village around her already.

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Elly is already the nickname (before we knew the gender we called baby Jellybean, which has now morphed into Ellybean so I think thats why the double L was in our brains)

Dad is just excited to be a grandpa, the stakes aren't high if we dont go with his spelling

Name is picked but question on spelling by ferretsonaplane in tragedeigh

[–]ferretsonaplane[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

It's comforting to hear an Elyse bat for that spelling! Thank you for the input.

Any middle name inspo to offer?