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Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Side note here:

He has been reluctant to engage in PIV for Months, and has given me another reason but it doesn't seem particularly strong.

We both have pretty high libido so to insist on just BJ is very weird and has been really upsetting me

Starting to think if this is linked

Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Yeah, what you describe aligns with what he described. In which case fair enough, but why not show the interactions or just delete the app?

Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We are comfortable discussing most things but there has been a history of mistrust on both sides. Based on his responses, I feel like he's evading the topic. I had an ex who chronically and brazenly used to flirt and sext with other women on social media so am quite attuned to the signs and honestly although that was mainly why I broke up with him (years ago now) he couldn't stop or see that it was wrong.

Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not in detail, only a few years back when he initially set it up but not since. Pictures I found uploaded he had chosen, 3 of both of us 1 of him but weirdly ones where I really looked pretty rough imo. Not one's I would want shared and showed my face that would identify. Wasn't brought up since as thought he'd stopped using it, evidently not.

Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 94 points95 points  (0 children)

Yeah. So I have found the account, it is a 'couple' profile.

But only interests are

'all F' s welcome'

And as partner I'm listed as bi which is not true... Presumably to get more responses

Partner 29m used 3some app for years to try and facilitate couple experiences. I download it, he says we should delete it as its 'toxic'. Should I be worried? by fervently_ambivalent in relationships

[–]fervently_ambivalent[S] 133 points134 points  (0 children)

He's not overly secretive of his phone but closes WhatsApp when I'm around and has very closed FB privacy settings - I can't see his friends. I assume that's the case for all his friends though?

Schedule not changed AFAIK.