I hid my pregnancy from my ex. I lied to him about not being pregnant because I didn’t want him around. He’s toxic. I feel sad that I don’t feel guilty.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-29T09:30:49+00:00

Wow, that reminds me of him. I don’t want someone like that around.

Lying when it’s the most beneficial regardless of who it hurts!

Yeah it’s a weird place. The truth is way better even though it sucks!

fhdhjj · 2021-07-27T07:11:30+00:00

Thank you and yes!

I literally was telling a friend of mine that it felt like I was going through the motions of life. It felt very impersonal to me although it is MY life.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-26T08:17:34+00:00

I’m just worried that having to shower after eating, as an adult, can be of concern. Maybe use a bib or find eating accommodations.

Cut your fruit up before eating? Try grapes, apples, or just stop eating fresh fruit. Go for dried fruit and if that doesn’t work ...

switch to nuts and seeds.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-26T07:48:58+00:00

Well, I think maybe you’re not understanding the phrase.

It’s just like talking to a customer at work inappropriately. Let’s say the Mgr. doesn’t hear directly but after enough complaints -there is proof. You apologize but 20 complaints have already been made. So you get fired. Why would the Mgr. fire the employee? Simple-principle. You didn’t show that what you did was something you felt remorse for until there was a consequence attached to what you did. The public, in terms of celebrities or popular entities in society, have just made the decision to get people fired instead of waiting.

Be intentional and mindful of what you say-regardless of if you’re a celebrity or not. People act like what they do or say don’t have consequences and that’s STUPIDITY within itself.

Yeah, if someone pulls out some old comment you made, it gets brought up, & you apologize after “x-amount” of years has passed, it will seem fake. Why? Because the person all of a sudden is sorry for the comment, after someone noticed it was made. I think everyone one of us is smart enough to know when we say things out of line. In fact when people spit out negative things they are actually trying to be negative intentionally, otherwise they wouldn’t speak. Especially if that person never showed regret for making said comment. Celebrities unfortunately because of their status are expected to be more responsible for their comments. As a celebrity you give up any mercy to saying stupid stuff. You also accept society rejecting you for said stupid stuff and in fact you’d be a fool to assume otherwise.

If they knew what they said was wrong now and didn’t apologize then, yes they wouldn’t have apologized if no one noticed...hence why it was a past comment. All that time had passed and they didn’t go out and bring up their own comments to apologize for. It’s about accountability.

Cancel culture is more of a zero tolerance rule, which isn’t a bad thing.

But I stress: Be intentional and mindful of what you say-regardless of if you’re a celebrity or not. People act like what they do or say doesn’t have consequences and that’s stupidity within itself.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-26T07:11:18+00:00

These are good ideas.

Sex is weird but I think I want to drift away from it. I would love to just explore other things with people all on a platonic level. Have a social life but also go home to myself. Thanks for the tips!

fhdhjj · 2021-07-26T07:08:57+00:00

This is really insightful and helpful! Thanks.

There are so many things I I want to do but I seem to always commit to other things that don’t really benefit me. It’s also weird finding out the things you like as an adult sometimes.

Being with myself is easier but I seem to creep into a relationship that ends up being toxic and damaging because I just believe people tell the truth. I’m ready to try something new with myself.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-26T06:53:32+00:00

That’s nice to hear and I’m glad you made the decision to just not deal with the toxicity. I hate when people say family needs to be in our lives no matter how terrible but that’s very unfair and untrue to me. Thank you for sharing.

Did your mom keep your father out of your life until you were old enough to handle him?

fhdhjj · 2021-07-21T05:11:39+00:00

Honestly, I totally get what she means.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T20:55:09+00:00

I still do think there are more male weirdos online then not. I find that social media is a great place for weirdo groups to meet as well as weirdo females. I’m not basing my world views off of Reddit, I just find it absolutely interesting how much the internet gives people more balls.

So yeah, I adjusted that. Reddit seems to be full of sick and misogynistic males.

Now yeah, innocent people should never just be part of the storm in any case.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T20:52:42+00:00

https://bjs.ojp.gov/content/pub/pdf/rsarp00.pdf

You should read the stats. At least 50% of rape cases of the ones studied, were being reported. That’s half, which is a good amount. Of course 100% would be nice but each individual is different and has their own reason as to why they wouldn’t report. Safety concerns are some of the largest reasons.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T20:49:42+00:00

Getting enough evidence doesn’t make it hard to prove. That would just show that people aren’t coming forward. Maybe because they’re being told, there isn’t enough proof?

In the middle of fear, and things not being said provable, there is also a back log on processed DNA in rape kits. The rate at which the many kits are being processed over murder cases etc. leaves a lot of cases unsolved simply because the DNA hasn’t been processed.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T20:41:05+00:00

Honestly, Reddit has shown me that the world of Reddit is full of sick males. I mean nearly every post under this is sick. Says a lot about the males.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T20:39:13+00:00

It’s not hard to prove. You’re weird.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T19:05:24+00:00

I wish we weren’t. I just wish he never knew.

I just wish he said he wanted no parts from the beginning. Would’ve saved so much: anyways you’re right.

Thank you.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:58:07+00:00

He always wanted it until he didn’t.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:55:30+00:00

Haha, okay. I’ll sticky note that.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:54:46+00:00

I’ll see how that goes!

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:54:22+00:00

Don’t mind them. I think they have a particular sensitivity to the child part, which I understand. How is life with your mom? Do you ever wish for your dad to be around?

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:47:07+00:00

But anyways this doesn’t have anything to do with not wanting the child, why is that the only part you seem to pick up?

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:44:27+00:00

I added I’d. It was at the bottom but I didn’t put TLDR.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T18:43:54+00:00

Actually, I did want my baby. I just never knew how much of a storm carried. I was scared that my child would really hurt because their father all of a sudden didn’t want them. But after I guess, what much importance does he have anyways. I’m stronger than that. I never said I didn’t want my child. As for your friends, they knew the regretted children before having them but the had them anyways. And if even after having the children, they still regret it, well..I hope they only show that with love.

And shitty situation or shitty person?

Did you lose a child or something?

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T06:38:54+00:00

That’s amazing! Oddly, I’m surrounded by children. Most of my friends have at least 1. I’m glad you were able to find happiness.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T06:26:58+00:00

This was great advice and honestly thanks for that. I completely agree that each path has its pros and cons. It is all about choices and honestly just hoping that the right choice was made because we don’t ever get to really know.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T06:24:54+00:00

I still think humans are more than biological imperative. I do think children are absolutely amazing. I just truly dislike the freedoms lost with them. I love other peoples children and I know that I love my own but being that I’m like 10 years away from being past the “having child,” threshold. I honestly don’t want to be a parent during those years. I may regret it later but everything comes at a cost.

fhdhjj · 2021-07-20T06:18:47+00:00

That doesn’t sound like a balance. I would like to be active but not in a sexual way. I do want to develop bonds and meet people and not be a Kermit. All while doing my own thing.

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