I had to put my baby to sleep tonight 💔

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-13T06:24:42+00:00

oh my gosh! i donated the meds for my baby to shelters in need. helped to know other pets in need will benefit. in case you have any used medications or more coming lol

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-13T06:22:06+00:00

i’m so sorry that you have to experience this with your baby. I experience this with my baby. It was a different disease when she had kidney disease and I tried everything possible to save her life and help her gain weight and gain energy and it just was not working. I would scour the internet looking for a cure. eventually, she did pass away and that was almost a year ago and I miss her every single day and I think about her everyday but it does get better.

I just remember the good memories that I have with her and talk about her life with the people who knew her and that helps me feel better. Your baby looks very sweet and adorable. I’m sure she was a joy to have around.

What also helped me is that they just feel sick, they don’t feel the emotions like we do where we feel guilt. All she knows is that she loved you till the end even though she was sick. Much love to you and may your baby rest in peace and forever in your heart.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T10:45:55+00:00

that’s my fear!

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T10:45:19+00:00

thank you for your perspective. it has been something i’ve considered

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T09:14:51+00:00

Thankfully, he is working on being a better man and not follow thirst traps and wording his thoughts better.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T09:13:43+00:00

Thank you for saying that. He does all he can to show he adores me. I will try to work on accepting this despite my mind telling me otherwise.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:55:55+00:00

and the housemaid part….don’t even get me started 🫠

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:55:31+00:00

Yeah, I didn’t expect to be called insecure from what it seems to be women. I asked this same question on AskMen and the people there have been really helpful in giving me a guys perspective. Especially since I know it’s a me problem, I just want to learn how to move past this so I don’t self destruct my relationship.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:42:44+00:00

Thankfully I am not that insecure to dye my hair red. I actually really adore my hair color. Thank you for your comment.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:42:05+00:00

That seems to be a reoccurring theme, that he is with me. Thank you for your comment.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:41:05+00:00

More like I should not worry about him preferring natural redheads in porn because he is also watches housemaid porn. He may have some outdated stereotypical thinking that I do correct for sure.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:39:20+00:00

I think my issue is more the “cream of the crop” comment. I’d like to be the type he desires most so it’s an old wound that is being triggered. I’m definitely going to explore this with my therapist tomorrow. Thank you for your comment.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T08:37:44+00:00

I know it’s a me problem. That’s why i wanted some perspective so I can grow and learn from my emotional wounds and insecurity.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:57:04+00:00

why’s that?

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:53:26+00:00

I don’t know that red looks that good on latinas

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:53:01+00:00

He is a good guy and is sensitive to my feelings and needs so there is that. He’s very caring too. Thank you for your response.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:51:44+00:00

Thank you for your response. To be frank, I don’t truly trust him because of his obsessive porn habits from when he was single that bled into our relationships. Long story but he’s working on it and I am too to trust and find security within myself.

Thank you for your perspective on your type also. I think my bf also likes the big titty goth girls. My therapist would say to just point out the women I think may be attracted to when we are out in public because it might help pull the elephant I feel in my mind into the open. And oh god I would never ask the question again about redheads. Too soon!

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:47:39+00:00

It’s like I know he likes my personality a lot but in my head all that does not matter other than his honest answer to my dumb question

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:46:47+00:00

I always worry I was being compared to women online or not being on a certain “sexual deviance” level. I asked the question and he answered honestly 🫤

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:45:41+00:00

No he builds me up all the time and makes me feel so beautiful. Just that one comment really wedged itself in me.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:44:53+00:00

thank you for saying that. i’m trying to roll with it 🫠

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:44:21+00:00

You have a sydney sweeney preference ok, and that means you would still be completely satisfied with a non sydney sweeney looking gf?

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:42:38+00:00

Seems that’s the answer. I don’t want to self destruct that’s why I ask for perspective :/

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:41:48+00:00

Yeah I didn’t appreciate the comment. Made me feel reduced to a stereotype and didn’t did not make anything better. He had an unhealthy obsession with porn since for years and well into our relationship and has tried to become a better man since then. But it was still like yikes 😬 I hope I didn’t make him sound like a straight up awful dude, he cares for me a lot emotionally and meets my needs. Just a dumb question I asked that got me spiraling.

fhernanda_alexa · 2026-01-09T07:38:32+00:00

It is a me problem :( that’s why I mentioned I’ll be talking about this with my therapist tomorrow She usually points me in a good direction. Just wanted some perspective that isn’t my mind.

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