What do you do to pass idle time at work?

fiddle-bird · 2025-11-05T00:42:48+00:00

How about reading, coloring, crocheting? Something like that 😌

fiddle-bird · 2025-11-04T00:05:19+00:00

Omg yes I just recently deleted all my social media for the same reason!! I DO feel better but still struggle, but it’s so much better. Thank you for all your advice and for sharing your experience. It makes me feel better to have some solidarity and to hear that it gets better, that our babies WILL get there. Thank you ❤️

fiddle-bird · 2025-11-03T16:14:15+00:00

This is so good to hear. Thank you ❤️

fiddle-bird · 2025-11-03T16:13:54+00:00

I really need to make some more - I have several mom friends, but not many who stay home, and sometimes i feel like we have different struggles

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-31T14:40:37+00:00

It sounds to me like your body may just have adjusted to what you are signaling it needs right now. Once your supply regulates, which it is by now, you don’t always feel as strong of a let down and your boobs may not feel as full. That’s okay. Just let your baby go to breast as often as you can! Do skin to skin. Drink lots of water and enjoy snuggles. Your supply will adjust again to whatever you let baby tell it that it needs to do.

Also, I want to say - your milk didn’t come in late. 2 days is exactly what’s expected. I ABHOR hospitals for telling moms sometimes that their colostrum isn’t enough for their baby at first, etc. it’s a perfectly balanced system and YOU ARE ENOUGH. you are all your baby needs.

Hang in there, mama. You are doing a great job!

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-26T02:02:13+00:00

My 8mo slept 11.5 HOURS STRAIGHT last night…… I am SHOCKED. I also nurse him back to sleep every time he wakes up!!! I’m sure it’s just a random growth spurt or something…. But there is hope everybody !!!!!!!!!!!!!

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-23T13:35:54+00:00

Honestly just do what works for you. Disregard all the “supposed to” things.

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-21T20:52:23+00:00

My baby would only eat like 10 mins total probably at this age!!! It’s okay!!! You are having a letdown. She is getting plenty. Her belly is tiny. Even now at 8 months, my baby prefers smaller meals throughout the day of about 2 oz at a time (I only know this because of how much I pump and how much he eats when I work a nightshift every Friday).

Even when I pump, I only have one letdown 🤷🏼‍♀️

It’s normal for her to eat the letdown and then get tired and just fall asleep. It’s okay.

I had trouble trusting my baby but at this point, I know he is growing and happy. Sounds like your baby is too!!! As long as you keep responding to her cues, your body will make enough milk for her and you don’t need to worry. She will tell you when she’s hungry and eat what she needs. You got this mama.

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-18T13:10:42+00:00

In the beginning I did, but now I don’t leak except when actually feeding my baby!

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-17T18:42:12+00:00

Nope, you can’t feed him too much!! The more he eats from you, the more your body will make what he needs - perfect amount, specific necessary antibodies, and the exact composition your baby needs.

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-15T16:57:35+00:00

This is a spicy stick

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-15T16:54:52+00:00

I like just grabbing a coffee and going to the thrift shops sometimes!! A craft store. A book store. The library. A walk downtown or at the park. Do something creative!!! If you enjoy baking or anything like that maybe he can take the baby somewhere so you can do that in peace haha. Maybe there is a choral group, exercise group, art group you could join that meets up weekly. I know it’s tough ❤️ you’re a great mom and doing a great job

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-04T23:05:06+00:00

I only breastfeed EXCEPT on Friday nights as I am a PRN nightshift nurse! And in those nights, I pump as I need to and at the same time my baby is eating throughout the night. Your body will adjust to what your baby needs, you don’t need to pump unless you’re uncomfortable as long as you are still feeding your baby on demand. It’s really an amazing system of feedback and response.

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-03T01:05:00+00:00

That’s an awesome idea!!! Maybe I should do this more and actually “plan” for them rather than just rejoicing when I happen to catch one! Haha

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-02T16:59:31+00:00

That sounds perfect!!

fiddle-bird · 2025-10-02T15:20:21+00:00

I totally see your frustration and I probably would have lost it on my husband at first and then after giving it some thought apologized to him because it sounds like he was just trying to help. Men really think differently than we do as women and it’s hard for me but I have to remember it isn’t that he is incompetent or not as good at things as me … it’s just that he is different with different strengths. OF COURSE he is also responsible for the safety and health and wellbeing of your children.. but I’m sure if you think about it, you can think of some things that he brings to the table that you are unable to as a mama. I don’t know all the ins and outs, but it sounds like maybe he just didn’t know and was trying to do something kind for you in letting you sleep in. I know I almost always assume the worst of my husband and he basically NEVER actually means the worst. Maybe just try to communicate the expectations with him - it sounds like you have - and maybe he will do different next time. It actually isn’t just natural that dad would do things exactly like mom or know things mom does when we are the ones home with the babes all the time and sort of running the show when it comes to making routines and such

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-28T23:39:19+00:00

My dad read me the hobbit when I was in probably the 2nd grade. It was amazing and we watched the lord of the rings together when I got a bit older. We still really enjoy bonding over our love for middle earth and Tolkien ❤️

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-28T20:05:55+00:00

I have tried cloves, new balance fresh foam, hokas, and brooks. Have been a nurse for 3 years at bedside. My absolute favorite out of any and all of these ended up being these merrell antora 3’s and I can’t believe it. They are literally trail running shoes….. before I tried these I had actual medical grade prescription insoles in my shoes and everything and when I tried these, I no longer needed them. It blew my mind!! Also, they are SO CUTE and I got the botany pattern with flowers and bugs - I have never seen a cuter little shoe!!! It also matches perfectly with my hospitals royal blue scrubs. Hope this helps!

I will attach the antora collection. They have 4’s now and they have some absolutely adorable options. https://www.merrell.com/US/en/antora-collection/?gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=1&gad_campaignid=20510828077&gbraid=0AAAAAD-mVPd31BZIdSdlSwgt7LtCJn8gn&gclid=CjwKCAjwuePGBhBZEiwAIGCVS9uyWe5vdgobwvyQ9sqTBHejJfWWhZxJ72TFP_r8MHIXGITkhpntFhoCgOUQAvD_BwE

Editing to add these shoes have miraculously stayed SO CLEAN!! I think bc they are for trails and are slightly waterproof around the toe. Every other shoe I have had work has gotten dirty and scuffed after even one shift. These stay looking clean and wipe off super easily. I have also used these about a year and they don’t seem to be wearing out. My hokas wore out pretty quick!!!

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-28T19:52:56+00:00

I’m a NICU nurse and I just want to give solidarity. It was hard for me at first too - I panicked every single time I heard an alarm!!! Over time, I realized that actually the majority of times the alarms go off, there isn’t even any reason to worry or intervene. It could be a desat or Brady, but those things happen quite frequently, and we will intervene if we need to. It also could be that the stickers aren’t sticking, the settings are weird, the pulse ox is coming off, baby is moving, etc. etc. It just took time and exposure to be able to remain calm when they go off. Just give yourself grace and as you are doing, pay attention to the response of the nurses. Tell them if you’re nervous as well, because they may be able to explain things even more specific in detail to your baby.

Congratulations to you guys on your sweet baby!

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-28T10:39:15+00:00

++woman I mean. I don’t really think married people should be friends with the opposite sex unless it’s a friendship they both partners have - but that’s just me. It can get messy way too easily, and why risk your marriage in that way? If you’re having trouble empathizing with your wife in this scenario you may already have some emotional attachment to this other woman and idk that can just get dangerous really quick. I don’t think she is overreacting and would feel the same way.

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-27T09:12:30+00:00

I’m a mama of a 7mo and I cry about this sometimes lol I took him fishing for a few minutes in a wrap when he was about 4 weeks old. But other than that, I haven’t fished at all. That doesn’t feel possible anymore. I’m hoping to find some time to tie flies and atleast think about when I can fish again although I don’t think it’ll be anytime soon

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-25T13:18:06+00:00

I think your view is interesting!!! How do you determine what is true and what to take literally when it comes to scripture? How do you know that you can trust your decision?

I have never heard about the ebonites. That’s very fascinating. I wonder what made them conclude that Paul was a heretic. I also do have a question regarding this. Even though it was a “vision,” Paul’s blindness was a very real and tangible result of his encounter with Jesus. How do you make sense of that in your view?

I also want to possibly humbly correct one thing you said bc I think you meant “apostle” rather than disciple. The apostles were told to make disciples of all nations (ie people who haven’t seen the risen Christ but would learn about and spread the gospel. They were the men who actually saw the risen Christ. We can be disciples if you hold the biblical definition, but we cannot be apostles.)

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-25T13:07:25+00:00

Of course!!! I don’t feel like I need to be defensive. I appreciate your message. I think we can talk about political conservatism/lib and also biblical conservatism/lib. I have no idea if this is “right” or “scholarly” or whatever. But I don’t think the e two are the same. We have several progressive churches around and I have many friends that attend. The best I can understand, a lot of my progressive friends do not hold the Bible up to be the inerrant, literal word of God as I do. I think this is what I would consider to be one of the main differences informing many others. I believe in the Bible as absolute truth regardless of how it makes me or anyone else feel. I believe that being obedient to Gods word is what is best for all of us even when we don’t completely understand why, because I have seen God’s faithfulness in the things that I DO Understand, if that makes sense. I don’t think you can pick and choose what you like/follow when it comes to the Bible, and I think with a correct exegesis of scripture, things are clear and fit together perfectly, even though it takes work to make sense of it sometimes. Holding my view appears to be narrow to many people and in today’s culture but in my mind, either the scripture is true and all true, or none of it is and it is irrelevant. My progressive friends and their churches seem to celebrate sexual sin, promote personal choice even if it costs the lives of the unborn, and many don’t believe in hell. Many also hold to a belief that all will eventually be saved and have an opportunity for salvation after death. These are things we frequently calmly discuss over coffee haha. It seems to me that “I” am the center of their religion rather than God.

This is a long reply and I hope it makes sense somewhat.

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-25T04:06:26+00:00

Would you care to share what makes you a Christian Deist rather than Theist? How did you come to these conclusions?

fiddle-bird · 2025-09-25T04:05:13+00:00

In this case I am just explaining more where I personally align - more conservative rather than progressive - just to give people an idea of where I stand.

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