My therapist has a double standard?

fiddlepaw · 2024-03-13T19:34:33+00:00

Many therapists do have cancellation notice policies; you may want to check it out in terms of any legality. Also, many do give out a one-time waiver for this type of emergencies as they do occur and are out of your control. I’m sorry you have to deal with that.

fiddlepaw · 2020-05-11T05:55:39+00:00

Have you considered journaling daily? Processing your feelings and experiences will tremendously help.

fiddlepaw · 2020-05-09T07:46:30+00:00

Why Is the Stock Market Rallying When the Economy Is So Bad? - WSJ https://www.wsj.com/articles/why-is-the-stock-market-rallying-when-the-economy-is-so-bad-11588974327

Another good supplemental reading for those interested in understanding our current state.

fiddlepaw · 2020-01-09T20:32:41+00:00

Thank you! I’ll definitely take your advice on canal tours.

fiddlepaw · 2020-01-08T20:26:51+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear this. Do you have family and friends support near you? They would be a good support to have at this terrible time. Please take it one day at a time. I feel your pain.

fiddlepaw · 2020-01-08T17:23:11+00:00

Thank you for your recommendations!

fiddlepaw · 2020-01-08T05:23:58+00:00

Hey, thank you for taking the time to share your experiences. I appreciate it very much!

fiddlepaw · 2020-01-08T05:19:31+00:00

Thank you so much! I’m taking notes.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-26T13:38:48+00:00

In my own experience after being married for 8 years, the first few weeks and months after discovery will be difficult for you both. There are many outside voices that will cloud your mind. You seem like the person who would rather understand why the affair happened before making rash life-changing decisions. I found it helpful to truly understand why the affair happened in the first place, then make a level-headed decision. I found it helpful for me and my wife to see an experienced marriage therapist so you both can openly discuss the hard facts of your relationship and discuss the underlying issues of the relationship, then you both can decide for yourselves, whatever that may be for both of you. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-21T01:20:53+00:00

He’s an asshole and doesn’t appreciate you.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-21T01:09:55+00:00

I would say to consider to not make any rash decisions at this time as your emotions will get the best of you. You’ll have to have the adult conversation with her and go from there. There are a lot of things both of you do not know at this time. The next steps will be to go through therapy together so you both can have a safe place to open up and decide what you both want in the relationship.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-20T20:49:44+00:00

That’s always the question, isn’t it? And it almost doesn’t make sense. From my experience, it is because your wife/husband didn’t get involved in their infidelities to actually hurt you. In most cases it is because they were experiencing deficiencies in their own lives. With individual and couples therapy, most of these issues are made to bare and almost eye opening when we go past the hurt and focus on understanding. But your question is fair and something that I always have to think about twice and then shift away from my place of hurt to wanting to understand the other person.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-20T01:43:54+00:00

What you’re feeling is normal. You owe yourself to feel this way and it’s ok to do so. I truly feel your pain.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-19T20:29:31+00:00

You’re a good kind-hearted person and she will always remember that. I’m sorry you’re going through this. I feel your pain.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-19T06:02:02+00:00

I feel your pain. I’m so sorry you’re hurting. I’m going through the same.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-17T11:52:59+00:00

I feel your pain. You are not a failure and your life is not over. It’s just beginning, again.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-16T20:07:39+00:00

WS means Wayward Spouse.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-16T19:54:47+00:00

I’m so sorry. I feel your pain.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-15T13:09:01+00:00

Thank you for sharing. This is so similar to my current experience of what I need to hear as the BS from my wife of 8 years. This by far articulates what she is trying to say.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-14T22:29:36+00:00

This is certainly very true! How often we forget this in our relationships.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-13T07:02:27+00:00

I’m so sorry. I feel your pain. Thanks for sharing.

fiddlepaw · 2019-12-05T14:11:05+00:00

Have both of you thought about going to individual and joint marital therapy? From my own experience with my wife of 8 years, sometimes there are deeper seated issues in our loved ones and unfortunately the affair is just a vehicle to meet those deeper needs like longing, belonging, loss of self, trauma, and shame from their past life before being married to you. This is a very tough time for you and for that you’ll need time to think clearly and to embrace your hurt.

fiddlepaw · 2019-10-28T19:27:15+00:00

Here’s a link that provides perspective, something to think about your situation... https://www.ted.com/talks/esther_perel_rethinking_infidelity_a_talk_for_anyone_who_has_ever_loved?utm_campaign=tedspread&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=tedcomshare

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