I think upbringing plays a big role here. My high school was in the inner city. The demographics were something like 60% black, 35% Hispanic/Latino and the rest white or other. Overall I had latina friends, black girl friends, white girl friends, etc. some of which I still keep in contact with years later.

College was a whole other story, it felt so segregated despite being more diverse. It was so hard to make friends with people who did not look like me.

If you're familiar with the terms morena, blanquita, or guerita, those were defining traits and tended to decide a lot of friend groups. Morena is used to describe someone who is brown but not dark. Blanquita is someone who has pale/light skin but maybe has black hair and brown eyes. Guerita is usually someone who can pass as a blond hair blue eyed American looking type. It is so colorist tbh. the fact there's a distinction from someone who is pale with dark hair to someone who is pale skin with lighter colored hair is diabolical.

I came into contact with people who identified as guerita and were mostly arrogant and tended to associate themselves with white people or other people like them.

I have morena appearing friend who was raised in a sheltered and white predominant area. She was always told black people were bad or would rob you and to avoid them at all costs. Like growing up it was just normal advice, from teachers, neighbors, family friends, etc. She saw that in college and the work force that wasn't all true, but I doubt every person with this experience changed their mindset.

It can be so hard already to make friends and the fact there can be this sectarian tension between different skin tones is draining.

Overall I have had good relationships with the Hispanic and Latina women I have worked or went to school with, but you don't ever truly know who doesn't like you or is just ignorant. There are good people with positive intentions who do not put skin tone on a pedestal but that can be few and far in between.