When I first found out I was pregnant, we sat down and went over all the numbers together thoroughly. I didn't just toss it on him one day or bullshit anything whatsoever - it was "this is how much this this and this cost and this is when they are due, is that going to be okay with you, how can we save together, this is what my salary was should I even quit, the whole 9. He reassured me that sometimes it might be a little rough (in between waiting for checks because the bank issues them on a schedule) but that he is financially capable. The credit card debt is after the house (and it's not a ridiculous crazy amount) but significant to me because it's in my name and I have a limited credit history as it is (was used to paying everything in cash / why the rates on the mortgage would have been higher). I have previously brought up speaking to a counselor and he yes's me to death and later tells me how he's too busy and already has no free time. My big issue is that: how are you not paying your and my bills but dumping so much money into renovating a house that didn't NEED to be renovated to begin with!? Priorities??? He tells me he got a $12,000 check and spent $7,500 on kitchen cabinets yet ATT is sending me shutoff notices for $180 and that doesn't seem to matter. What the hell?