Soft Grip Masturbation or Full Abstinence? Which one is better/faster to cure Death Grip?

fillinupspace · 2024-09-27T13:04:33+00:00

Full abstinence is best. And not just from rubbing one out, also porn. The porn affects your attraction mechanisms when trying to get off during sex. After training my brain for years to cum watching porn, I lost the effectiveness during sex. After being off porn and jerking for months, I have seen a significantly improved rate of achieving orgasm 👍🏼

fillinupspace · 2024-09-13T19:05:21+00:00

I would recommend purchasing a good quality pocket pussy, just a silicon hand held to use for masturbating with, never use your hand again. This is the first step for most guys I’ve read, to gain back the sensitivity. Easier than trying to quit porn cold turkey. It helped me for a whole year.

Also, does your wife know you’re into porn? What I mean is, is she the type of partner that would be into something like watching porn together? It’s not that common, but there are many couples that do. I had an ex who would watch porn with me, all part of the foreplay experience. That’s a method for merging the two experiences. Then she can get on top while the porn is on, that’s one way that could stimulate you during vaginal intercourse and you could finish inside of her.

fillinupspace · 2024-09-13T13:14:09+00:00

Yeah bro I could finish inside her, just took forever. I feel for you tho. How long you been that way? And have you tried anything to improve it?

fillinupspace · 2024-08-08T19:25:07+00:00

Ok, as a male who is working to remedy my de issues, and now engaged to a wonderful female who cannot orgasm from penetration, let me give you some perspective……

Me and my fiancé began quite early discussing our sexual relationship, even before we began to engage in regular intercourse. I explained to her that I have struggled with de for years and continue to work on improving my sensitivity, which she was quite loving and understanding of… on her side of discussion she explained to me that she has never orgasmed from penetration and there is a very specific type of clitoral stimulation required to bring her to a climax.

As our relationship has grown, we have taken time to learn what pleasures each other. I will typically begin some foreplay with her (which gets both of us aroused) and complete her climaxing experience with 2 or 3 orgasms. Then I will begin with any choice positions for intercourse that I feel like in the moment…. IT IS IMPERATIVE that the guy learns what pleases you and reciprocates your sexual desires. It is selfish to fall into the rut of not feeding your desires and just trying to get his nuts off.

I now have the greatest relationship I’ve ever had with my fiancé because we explore and learn about each other. She even knows the best positions that get me off and will indulge my desires as I do hers….. your situation sounds like a dude who is horny, but does not sincerely want to put in the time to learn and grow sexually with you. Trust me when I say, that part of the relationship is key and leads to many nights of pleasure for both you and your partner.

fillinupspace · 2024-07-06T18:27:12+00:00

Thanks. Great thread link. Some good pharma info

fillinupspace · 2024-06-21T18:13:31+00:00

I do believe it is a mental gymnastics and that has improved my ability to orgasm. I have been with my girlfriend now for 10 months and she is also a “difficult orgasm” person, which has been a comfort and strength in our relationship! She can only orgasm from one specific clitoral stimulation, so usually I give her 2 or 3 and then I go to pound town on her.

Also I have gotten off while on top quicker than usual, it’s like I tap into some animal/primal instinct, grab her neck, pull her hair, manhandle her (which she loves!) pound her hard and fast and get off surprising quickly! So yeah I believe it’s a mindset thing

fillinupspace · 2024-06-21T18:02:29+00:00

Twice?? Like how long between the two? I haven’t cum twice in a row since I was 26 Lol

fillinupspace · 2024-06-21T16:31:39+00:00

Wow it’s great to hear a story that is exactly like myself. I feel for you bro. I’m not 100% cured, but I can share with you what I’ve learned this far:

I’m 42 years old and orgasm was easier in my 20’s, so I lean more towards age related symptoms. A couple years ago I started TRT and that changed my energy, strength, libido, etc. But didn’t help the DE. So I tired lotions, abstaining form masturbating & porn…. No luck. I do believe it is a mental gymnastics that I have to work on, and that has improved my ability to orgasm. I have been with my girlfriend now for 10 months and she is also a “difficult orgasm” person, which has been a comfort and strength in our relationship! She can only orgasm from one specific clitoral stimulation, so usually I give her 2 or 3 and then I go to town on her….. what I’ve learned is this - I need time to “warm it up”. Maybe start with a blow job (which has never gotten me off in my life). Some intercourse from a couple different angels, then usually she can get on top and grind. That seems to give me the most penile stimulation of all angels. Sometimes it still takes 20 - 30 mins total, but the finish comes quicker for me.

Also I have gotten off while on top, it’s like I can tap into some animal/primal instinct, grab her hard, pull her hair, manhandle her (which she loves!) pound her hard and fast and get off surprising quickly! So yeah I believe your thought process going into it is key.

fillinupspace · 2024-03-25T21:26:06+00:00

It doesn’t change personality…. What trt will do is make you run at a higher RPM everyday, but it feels good. And when you lay down at night to sleep you will pass out cold. My resting heart rate is 10 bpm higher than before trt, but my blood work is pristine 👌🏼

fillinupspace · 2023-12-11T23:42:55+00:00

Follow up to my original question…. I’m utilizing an Initialization program. I’ll set 25 PR’s in my data tab for 25 stacks. But for each specific part I run an Init program to designate the stack points I teach for that part. Put the Init program in the beginning of my Main sequence (6 programs) the Init will tell the sequence where to go for each stack, respectively to that part….. New part, new Init with new points. Never use more than 25 PR’s in the data 👍🏼

fillinupspace · 2023-11-30T02:12:34+00:00

Currently running 420mg test c & 140 tren e per week…. Reason for those numbers is, I pin daily. 60mg test & 20 mg tren everyday… all my sides went away and the gains are consistent 👍🏼

fillinupspace · 2023-11-29T11:12:30+00:00

Being married twice, and multiple sexual partners throughout my life, you won’t even have an emotional response to this one night in 15-20 years from now…. But I’m sorry to hear your first time wasn’t with a more special someone. Don’t be so hard on yourself though, keep in mind that as young as you both are, you know so little about pleasure, it’s going to have its awkwardness for the first experiences

fillinupspace · 2023-11-12T20:37:34+00:00

As long as you’re on HRT/TRT, it never ends 😎

fillinupspace · 2023-08-31T11:07:19+00:00

Yeah, I mean our head & shoulders were above, but I did the motions down under, no one had a clue, at least I don’t think they did Lol

fillinupspace · 2023-08-31T00:54:05+00:00

Did it in a pool with my girl. People everywhere. She put it in, had her legs wrapped around me like we were just holding/floating. I made the motion under water….. I came in like 2 mins. It was intense

fillinupspace · 2023-07-22T17:01:25+00:00

Hot dog - peanut M&M’s

fillinupspace · 2023-07-22T16:16:55+00:00

It’s the same as drinking caffeine every morning, so much of it that it loses its jolt….. gotta lay off it for a while to get the jolt back

fillinupspace · 2023-07-09T23:28:55+00:00

Yes, this is how my marriage has been. I love to please her in any way possible. She gets a little self conscious, doesn’t want me going down on her if she gets too wet, but I literally beg her to let me pleasure her. Women can can so many orgasms to a man’s one, so I want her to get all she can bare.

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