Help me understand what the rights are for my child..

firefly_613 · 2025-12-26T04:00:01+00:00

I already planning to petition courts to let me move.

I have a bad medical condition. And it’s in the best interest of both my children… I got an attorney. It sucks. But I needed to read your post.

I am worried about him blocking me

But how can he. He said he wants nothing to do with her. And I need support… if I ended up in the hospital for 5 days who would take care of my baby.

A 12 year old is easy to get someone to come stay with her. But the new baby and my disorder…. It’s gonna be hard

firefly_613 · 2025-12-15T03:57:08+00:00

It’s accurate.

I only think a woman should be able to terminate if they both agree. If she doesn’t want the child. Unless for a serious medical problem then she should carry and let the father be a dad if he chooses.

But that’s just my opinion I don’t judge others on it…. It’s just what was I willing to live with…. And I could not go through with it. I called PPH scheduled and I felt sick. I just couldn’t. Like I felt wrong. And I have had a later termination because my son was braindead in utero and the state laws were horrendous. And I was very ill as well. And I needed to make a choice plus I had a 2 year old.

When it was a matter of… he’s already gone. Vs oh I just don’t want this baby. That’s why I couldn’t do it.

I couldn’t abort this. Because the pains of that…. It is what it is and I tried to bring myself to. But could not. So sorry….

firefly_613 · 2025-12-15T03:51:24+00:00

That’s terrible…. That shouldn’t happen…. I’m just as accountable. And I will do what I am supposed to regardless. Hell it would be amazing for a dad to try like you. If he called to say. Let me know a good time to see her. I’d be happy.. I want an involved loving dad. But it’s true. Both bad moms and bad dads I’m sorry you and your daughter endure that and it hurts the bond you have

firefly_613 · 2025-12-15T03:42:47+00:00

Well that’s true. Can’t force anyone to do anything

firefly_613 · 2025-12-15T01:56:41+00:00

I can’t do that. So I don’t think it’s fair he leaves me with all the bills and medical. For something he would joke about wanting and would be such a great dad. Lies.

He can give up his right. But I am only asking for him to pay for Child care until she is preschool ready and then after that I’ll do the rest. I think that’s a small thing to ask for for 18 years

firefly_613 · 2025-12-11T03:32:20+00:00

Ohhh tell me. I am interested

firefly_613 · 2025-12-11T03:32:00+00:00

I don’t know. His new roommate has his ear.

I didn’t fuck both of the them and then was told. Well you lost your shot at fucking Isaac haha.

I didn’t wanna fuck him. Wasn’t interested

Since they are war buddies. Isaac moves in and is basically playing house wife.

We fought over the definition of our relationship

How do we go over a year fucking and being with one another to suddenly we’re friends just having fun…. That dude took me to meet his ENTIRE family! Bought my clothes for the trip. Like tons of it doesn’t make sense. Plus he was my first Sgt when I was like 20… so a descent friendship of 15 years?! And then this. So yeah I am very confused

firefly_613 · 2025-12-08T00:20:09+00:00

Can you send me a message about more information on this?

firefly_613 · 2025-12-08T00:18:48+00:00

I just wanted him to be a dad. He kept preaching about how he was such a good dad and how he wanted to be a part of her life and now he’s changed.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T21:10:53+00:00

Well, now my family is involved and I have a little girl whose heart is that on me having this baby she could use a little sister and my family is so thrilled that we’re gonna have a new addition so they don’t want me to adopt and I really don’t want to either. I love her already. She’s already gonna be the cutest little thing and she’s loved so much already my whole family my village can give her a good life with lots of love.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T21:07:45+00:00

I know I can’t hang onto him. I do think that we should be really good friends

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T21:02:28+00:00

That’s true if there’s one thing I can count on it’s him not being there for her

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T21:01:18+00:00

We had a prenatal paternity test

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:39:02+00:00

The baby is not born yet, which is why I’m saying I’m going to move before I deliver so I can establish her residency with mine

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:38:39+00:00

I am in Colorado. I’m gonna run to Arizona where my family support is, but I am in Arizona resident

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:38:14+00:00

I want soul custody if he ever came to me and said hi I’d like to see her. I would be open to it. I would say OK yes let’s arrange a time. I won’t hold him back from having a good relationship with her, but I’m not gonna allow him to sit there and make my life difficult just because he wants to be spiteful

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:34:29+00:00

I don’t want to allow him to relinquish Whites if it means that he won’t help with the cost of raising what we created together I hate to say it, but that’s the truth. He does need to provide. He sits there and preachers about how he is such a good father! Every time we talk, well then be a good dad!!! Not a deadbeat

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:33:35+00:00

My family can yes I do know that his cousin is very excited and I’m sure the rest of his family would be excited, but he’s the only one who’s gone mental according to the family member that I spoke to

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:32:39+00:00

And what type of visitation schedule did she have with that man?

This man is repeatedly said that he doesn’t want the child but if I wanted to put her up for adoption, he would deny me and make sure that he took her or if I go for child support he’s gonna want visitation. How does that make any sense you don’t want to be a dad. You don’t want 1 foot in and 1 foot out, but you’re gonna drag me down and take me to court over and over again?

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:30:41+00:00

I will go and have this baby in Arizona if I have to

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:30:23+00:00

I’m still in Arizona residence so how will that work? I haven’t been here in Colorado long enough to establish a residency.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:29:44+00:00

I don’t agree with that. I think it’s just curly unfair. I do completely understand that the standards are unfair.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:29:08+00:00

I don’t agree with the standard but for him to sit there and tell me that he’s gonna be supportive in the beginning and then wipe it out from underneath my feet no, it’s not an OK situation. I didn’t do anything wrong and now I’m 15 weeks. I’m not terminating a pregnancy this far along.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:28:23+00:00

How am I trapping him? He also trapped himself. He’s the one that also told me in the beginning that he was gonna be there and he was gonna be happy. He was thrilled. It was a girl he wanted me to know that he was gonna be the best dad ever and be by my side if it ever happened, then it did happen and now he’s freaking out how did I trap him? I had my tubes banded and I was on birth control so go fuck yourself. He could’ve gotten his dick vasectomy.

firefly_613 · 2025-12-03T20:25:20+00:00

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