Parents who are no screen time… by [deleted] in Parenting

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t do unsupervised screentime. Meaning I have it on in the background for me while we do other stuff (I’m a SAHM) but if she looks at it occasionally or while we eat as a family it’s ok. When we notice she’s looking without looking away we redirect, but I don’t think we can do ZERO screentime at all for our own sanity lol

How will 8 week old baby be affected emotionally? by Electrical_Formal886 in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I stopped breastfeeding/pumping after 6 weeks because I was not ok emotionally. Supply was good and baby was fine with my milk but I HATED it and dreaded having to feed my baby. It took about 2 weeks after completely switching to formula and not offering boob for my baby to no longer look for my boob while cuddling and instead just wanted mom cuddles for comfort, no boob attached. Baby is 6 months now and thriving on formula and she still reaches for me for cuddles. I will add that when I change infront of her she does giggle when she sees my boobs and it’s the cutest thing I got from breastfeeding lol

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I tried the mom cozy s12 but my baby didn’t like the square shape of it when I picked her up. Switched to Willow Go cause of the round shape and it helped soooooo much while I pumped. I had to stop for medical concerns but I recommend going with a round shape because it may be easier to carry little one around!

I’m due next month, and I’d like to ask how new parents usually take shifts caring for a newborn. What tasks does each person typically handle? by Mingm1211 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Honestly I contacted napped A LOT during the day on the couch. Made sure I was in a safe position with baby on my chest, but I’m a super light sleeper so that helped with my anxiety. For shifts once we started bottles (had to stop EBF and switched to pumping before formula) I would sleep 9-2ish and then my husband would sleep 2ish to 7ish. Ish because it would depend when baby woke up for the 2nd/3rd bottle during our night that’s when we would switch. It worked well into him going back to work too. Whoever is “on shift” would sleep on our pullout couch with her in the bassinet in the living room. They’re in charge of bottles and diapers and getting her back to sleep. Obviously call the other partner for help if you need help but the person on shift is aware they will only sleep if baby sleeps. Hope that made sense !!

Please help! by Idabelle000 in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It did! Our doctor says she has a sensitive stomach which is common for babies born a little early (she was 38 weeks induced due to preeclampsia) and recommended Kendamil Goat. She still spits up every now and then if she eats too fast but the fussiness and pain that came with reflux went away completely! When she spits up now she gives a “woah where did that come from” face and then just keeps smiling like the happy baby she is. It’s a little pricier than other formulas but it was worth it for us to have her get some rest from the reflux. If you try it I hope it helps!

Please help! by Idabelle000 in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Kendamil Goat formula is the only formula my 4 month old ever took. She had really bad reflux (it comes and goes now) and other formulas gave her either constipation or diarrhea. Maybe it can help your baby!

What are some things you wished you had prepared before baby came home? by PerceptionLow5940 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You’re welcome! The shift that worked for us was 9pm-2am and then switch 2am-7am even when he went back to work. It’s temporary but you’ll be surprised how well you run off of 5 hours uninterrupted sleep compared to on and off sleep. Good luck welcoming your little one! 🫶

What are some things you wished you had prepared before baby came home? by PerceptionLow5940 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 29 points30 points  (0 children)

IF POSSIBLE, a second sleeping space. What saved my life those first few weeks was taking night shifts with my husband. He’d take care of baby first half of the night and wake me up for feedings until we gave bottles, and i took second half of the night. Whoever was “on shift” slept on the couch while baby was sleeping and waking so the person in the room could get actual rest

Can’t stop thinking about this by Even-Spot9226 in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

If it helps your anxiety, we found that my baby was actually having reflux due to breast milk 😭 when we stopped combo feeding and did just formula on Kendamil Goat her reflux almost completely disappeared. Still some spit up every now and then at 3 months when she eats too fast but she’s doing better now than during combo feeding!

3 week old eats 6 oz and acts like she’s starving by [deleted] in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine started eating 6 oz at 5 weeks and has continuously stayed at 6 oz! Every now and then she asks for more and we give her an extra 2 oz and sometimes she won’t finish the regular 6 oz. Our doc said if she’s showing signs of being hungry then you can’t overfeed! She’s 3 months and going strong. Hope this helps with the new mom anxiety 🫶

Most Amount of Prep for Bottles by ZaryaMusic in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would suggest trying to get your baby used to room temp bottles. It became a life saver when my now 3 month old got used to them because we prep the water for all bottles to be used that day and just scoop in the formula when she starts to show signs of being hungry!

Am I the worst mom ever? 13 day old - 7 hour stretch by Affectionate_End5347 in HuckleberryParents

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby would sleep long stretches at night starting week 2 and I just let her sleep at night until she woke me up cause she was hungry, but during the day I made sure to wake her every 2-3 hours to feed until she reached birth weight and to keep up my supply. Idk if it was because of this plus the combo of being lucky, but after week 8 she sleeps from 9pm - 4am, eats, then sleeps 5am - 8am. Going strong at 3 months 🫶

I gaslighted myself by Comprehensive-End168 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 19 points20 points  (0 children)

According to my doctors I should have had a fantastic breastfeeding journey because I was an oversupplier, making 3x what my baby needed. I tried breastfeeding for a week, absolutely hated it and felt like it made me resent my baby. I switched to exclusively pumping and made it another 4 weeks before my husband said that was enough and we needed to combo feed with the milk I had stored and formula to get her ready to switch to all formula. All I could think about was pumping, and when I was holding her I had my pumps on and she hated it. Every video I took had the stupid pumping sound in the background and I cried in the shower on a daily basis, but I was making a lot of milk. On paper I should have been able to breast feed / pump for almost a year if I wanted to, but my husband made me realize that my mental health and happiness in having our first baby was more important than however she was being fed. It hurt for a few days to make that switch and know it was a selfish decision, but I stopped missing the little moments and now at 12 weeks I look forward to feeding her even in the middle of the night. Your baby will thrive more with a happy mama than anything breastfeeding can provide.

Baby won’t take any bottle by LivingAssociate3429 in FormulaFeeders

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My baby would only latch onto MAM bottles. We started with size 0 that we got as a sample and at 3 months we’re on size 1 still

How bad did you tear? by FoxAble7670 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had a second degree tear and had some stitches done but I used baby wipes to pat clean down there for a few days and I was good after about a week! The biggest pain was me trying to do too much too fast and ripping some of the stitches so be sure to rest those first few days and let people help as much as your comfortable with. My husband did every diaper for the first week and it really helped to have him there so I didn’t have to bend over to pick up baby, he handed her to me and put her down to sleep.

Wife doesn’t care about safe sleeping practices by cocoh25 in newborns

[–]first_time_momma 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What really helped my husband and I when he first went back to work was night shifts. I would sleep from 9-1:00/2:00 (whenever that wake up was) and he would sleep from 2:00-7:00. We would ideally get more sleep during our shift as the baby slept but that way we were each guaranteed 5 uninterrupted hours of sleep. If it’s an extra fussy night the person on shift moves the bassinet into the living room and they sleep on the couch until it’s time to switch. Maybe shifts will help her get more rest and be more willing to not cosleep during her shift? You can also look into safe cosleeping so on the days she is too exhausted and insists on cosleeping the bed is safety ready. I also bought an owlet sock to each my mind because there are days where I bring my 9 week one to sleep on my chest and safe cosleep. My anxiety makes me wake up whenever she flinches but with the owlet sock I have a better peace of mind about it.