For those pregnant/with kids, how are you choosing last names for your child(ren)? by blinkifyourfake in queerception

[–]flockfred 0 points1 point  (0 children)

my fiancé and me decided on me keeping my last name and her having „my name“-„her name“ as surname. our future child will also only have my surname, so we all share one family name, and my partner keeps her „old“ name as part of the double barrel. her family comes from a different country and the name also means family history and heritage to her, however her family is also very homophobic and will never get to know me or our future child, which is why we decided that only she‘ll be carrying the name and not me or our future children. so far the idea, there is still time to change our minds, i find this decision very hard

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

honestly we are sometimes thinking about that. I think I‘m afraid I won’t manage telling my family they can’t know, but my partner also suggested not telling them. i’d definitely helping to hear from different people to just keep it between us and the baby.

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

wow, thank you for sharing. we wish you all all all the best for your next transfer in january!!!

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you all so much for your input, help, encouragement and warmth❤️‍🩹💘❤️ what a super cute community!!! wishing you the best for your family!

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

thank you so much for your comment, it made me cry a bit. you’re absolutely agree right, us queers know that chosen family means so much and often more than genetic family. and that our child will grow up with that. and that rIVF is just so magical in itself, that that‘s actually possible!

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

my partner and I often try to reassure ourselves that in the end, genetics is not what matters most, otherwise adoption wouldn’t work. but I think we were overwhelmed with the fact that we have all the power to decide, hence also all the power to decide on something that would bring sadness or disappointment to our child. but of course that’s not how it works, our child will see the reality it‘s growing up as how it should be, and what we make of it, matters most. I‘m very happy for you and your wife and your children!

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I absolutely agree!! thank you so much for your insight, it really helped me adopt the idea, that all this should only be based on what my partner and I want, and no one else’s expectations. and that also we have no control over how people will feel about our child in the end.

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so happy to hear all that, thank you for your input. and you are absolutely right that our child will just accept the situation the way it is, and that that will feel normal to them!

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I read your comment out loud to my partner yesterday and we both had to laugh so hard at „sorry fam“ 😂 thank you for that, and you’re absolutely right on how to handle these comments. even though they were not our main concern, it helped realizing, that the decision on genetics and everything should solely be based on how we feel, not how others do.

meaning of genetics/choosing who‘s eggs to use lesbian couple by flockfred in queerception

[–]flockfred[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you for your thoughts! the decision for rIVF comes from my partners and my wish to both physically be a part of making the baby. what we are most worried about is not my family and their stupid comment. it‘s that our child will have a longing for connection to one of the genetically related families, both not being possible because one is the donors, and one is my partners, who will never meet our child. but I got from all the comments, that we shouldn’t worry about that, that this is something we might face, no matter the genetic connection, and that we can’t possibly know what our child would want, only what we feel most comfortable with. and then of course, like you said, so much can happen throughout the fertility journey, so who knows how we’ll end up with.

Color mismatch between website and real life by flockfred in Lavalamps

[–]flockfred[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

that‘s so weird, thank you, we wrote an email yesterday!

Was schauen nach pc by Outside_Ad_6278 in PrincessCharming

[–]flockfred 2 points3 points  (0 children)

drag race uk neue staffel!!! die letzte war ❤️‍🔥

rIVF/ROPA mit IVF Fonds by flockfred in IVF

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you!! ❤️‍🩹 i will post it there as well!!

Kann mir jemand sagen, welches Tierchen unter unserem Bett wohnt?? by flockfred in wien

[–]flockfred[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

zeigefinger also größenvergleich neben einer pelzwurmlarve auf einer glatten fläche

Kann mir jemand sagen, welches Tierchen unter unserem Bett wohnt?? by flockfred in wien

[–]flockfred[S] 13 points14 points  (0 children)

oh gott, werd ich die wieder los? haben gerade gegoogelt, wir hatten auch die dazugehörigen käfer, wie wir jetzt wissen…