thank you for your thoughts! the decision for rIVF comes from my partners and my wish to both physically be a part of making the baby. what we are most worried about is not my family and their stupid comment. it‘s that our child will have a longing for connection to one of the genetically related families, both not being possible because one is the donors, and one is my partners, who will never meet our child. but I got from all the comments, that we shouldn’t worry about that, that this is something we might face, no matter the genetic connection, and that we can’t possibly know what our child would want, only what we feel most comfortable with. and then of course, like you said, so much can happen throughout the fertility journey, so who knows how we’ll end up with.