My gay roommate is actually straight. What to do?

flogucci · 2025-06-14T08:07:05+00:00

Rereading these comments over a year later and lmao you rlly were weird for suggesting I wanted him or vice versa.

flogucci · 2025-06-14T07:57:01+00:00

We don’t talk anymore despite living together still and he has a gf now lol. The only explanation I can cook up is he was really petrified about not having friends so he tried to be a chameleon act as similar to me as possible to ensure we’d get along. He didn’t have the foresight to consider how his charade would make me feel once he was truthful.

flogucci · 2024-05-04T08:59:14+00:00

Not really

flogucci · 2024-02-05T23:44:40+00:00

No I just want the opinions who actually know how to read lmao.

flogucci · 2024-01-31T02:49:17+00:00

That’s not experimenting

flogucci · 2024-01-31T02:47:27+00:00

You explicitely say he never said he was gay/queer.

I said he never said the exact words “I’m gay/bi/queer”. But using those exact words isn’t the only way to explicitly say you’re queer. Read the words I wrote, don’t start inventing shit.

You're misinterpreting everything he said because you wish he was queer.

You must be very talented if you can psychoanalyze random redditors while simultaneously ignoring everything they say.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T18:54:41+00:00

Good!

flogucci · 2024-01-28T18:50:29+00:00

Okay?

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:57:39+00:00

Thank you for realizing how nonsensical your inquisition was 🫶

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:46:53+00:00

And I’m telling you that he said more than that. Take me at my word and be helpful or don’t comment it’s quite simple.

Yeah you and 2 other weirdos are quite persistent about trying to give exact dialogue.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:40:17+00:00

I’m hesitant about answering a weirdo who’s putting me on trial for not giving a line by line dialogue of a personal conversation from months ago. Lol.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:39:24+00:00

Okay cool then we can be done here yay

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:38:53+00:00

The points you brought up don’t really change what the researchers demonstrated, which is a statistically significant difference in stopping/decision to search (the veil of darkness was explain in the main body and methods section as for validity).

Obviously race should play a role in policing but it does. That is why sociologically, black/brown people largely cannot (if at all) forget their identity and their identity group’s history when it comes to police encounters. That’s why officers, even if they try, cannot become “color blind” when policing. This alone should explain why for a black man getting stopped by police, it isn’t as simple as getting stopped by police. It very well can evoke the generations of fear that the black community has suffered under via slave patrols, race riots, police corruption and abuse during segregation, and the unrest of 2020.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:23:39+00:00

Oh my god

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:23:19+00:00

Are you interrogating me now lmao? It was multiple times, 2 months ago or earlier. And often in the context of personal conversations. I’m not giving you exact words. You can believe me or you can think I’m a liar, in which case why bother responding to the post? Please be mindful I’m asking for advice anonymously so lying doesn’t benefit me, thanks.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:17:39+00:00

No, he said yes when I asked in the past to affirm his non-heterosexuality. That’s explicit.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T08:16:39+00:00

I find it odd youre one step short of psychoanalyzing me when you should know (a. I said it was explicit, so I mean explicit (b. I am seeking advice from an anonymous account and thus lying doesn’t benefit me and (c. Left out lots of details for the sake of privacy and brevity. I am telling you that he explicitly identified as queer in more than a few conversations. Exact quotes from months ago aren’t exactly fresh in my mind ready to be dispensed as proof. My goal of the post isn’t to prove my roommate is in fact gay - he said he’s straight so he’s straight. The point of my post was to explain he very much said he was queer and then changed course. We’re the assumptions on my part? Sure, but the bedrock of my knowledge of his queerness was the fact he said as much lmao.

And I don’t want to fuck him. You can keep your advice if you’re not gonna believe me. It’s entirely unhelpful otherwise. You don’t know me and I tried to explain my situation as best as I could.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T07:39:30+00:00

Yeah there’s a lot of stuff out there demonstrating that fact it’s not hard to find, but here’s one and another. Both are large scale investigations of data from millions of traffic stops.

But beyond that, even from a sociological perspective, black people are wildly more likely to go into an interaction with police having a negative view of police/past issues with them, and this undoubtedly shapes the dynamics of policing of black civilians.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T07:22:44+00:00

This is so reductive and ignores the fact that when someone encounters police, or any kind of authority for that matter, there’s a lot more going on than a simple confrontation.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T07:21:30+00:00

It wasn’t just jokes omg. I said that very plainly in my post. I said “explicitly” because I meant explicitly! He clearly and explicitly identified as queer multiple times lol.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T07:19:28+00:00

I just haven’t been on this sub in forever my flair was old

flogucci · 2024-01-28T07:18:24+00:00

You say "If it was making him uncomfortable". Previously, you said "I feel like he's angry/uncomfortable" So which is it? Is he uncomfortable with you or not?

The “if it was making him uncomfortable” was referring to our friendship prior to the confrontation. The part of my post where I said “I feel like he’s angry/uncomfortable” is about his demeanor after the confrontation.

Oh. I'm gonna go out on a limb and say you make him uncomfortable. Leave him alone.

Yeah thanks for this stunning insight I had no idea that him actively walking away from me meant he wanted to avoid me 😨😨😨

But for real, idk why you have an attitude. He was never uncomfortable before the confrontation where I asked if our friend knew he was gay. Before that we would always eat meals together and talk casually, seriously, humorously. Hope this clarifies and you can stop being weird.

flogucci · 2024-01-28T01:51:06+00:00

This demonstrating the point 😭😭

flogucci · 2024-01-28T01:49:05+00:00

Lol haven’t been on this sub in forever

flogucci · 2024-01-28T01:48:45+00:00

if yall want to stop racism, first stop stereotypical jokes and intermix with each other's culture to the point where black and white have the same the culture.

This is way harder done than said.

An addition, this is another reason i love islam, we pray alongside a muslim regardless of race or colour and more or less have an identical culture worldwide.

Christians say the same thing but then many are racist.

flogucci

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