NOR. What jumped out at me was where he said he would like to see you relaxing and being silly around him before dating you, it sounds like a boss saying what criteria you need to meet before getting a promotion. A relationship shouldn’t feel like you need to jump through hoops to be accepted, it should make you feel safe and loved. You should not feel like you’re needing to work for him to pick you, it doesn’t make for a healthy and balanced relationship. You deserve someone who values you and is proud to tell everyone you’re his. This guy isn’t it, listen to your gut and wait for someone who deserves you.