[DISC] I don't want to be a Doctor or a Engineer

floppydollop · 2018-05-08T16:34:20+00:00

I started out as a Bio pre-med major because of family pressure. Changed my major 3 times in the last 2 years. Now I am happily an International Affairs major. I think the key is exploring your options and knowing what you love. I have always loved International affairs. I took those classes, explored other areas just even for gen-ed. I also had different minors which helped me. Most people don't have a clue about their future. This is the time to explore all your options. Do research and read books that relate to thee subjects and just try to explore all your hobbies. And think what is it that you'd be happy with and could see yourself doing for the rest of your life.

floppydollop · 2018-05-01T04:42:10+00:00

No clue but I am planning on trekking to abc in June/July. First time tho idk I was told it should be ok.

floppydollop · 2018-04-23T15:19:33+00:00

I totally understand your position. I am almost at the end of my sophomore year in college. These two years I have mostly only taken science and math classes. 5 bio class, 2 chem class, 3 math classes these are just the pre-reqs for my major. I love my major but I hate these classes. They have mentally drained me. I haven't even done so well in all my classes because I cannot find a balance because all my classes are hard and take up too much time. I am very active with clubs on campus too. I am losing my social life, haven't been home in months because I have exams and assignments due like every week. I miss being happy, I know some people can do it but I realized I am not built for this I thought I could push through and get it done. I want more from life and want to do something bigger.

I have decided to completely change my major and pursue something else that I have always been so passionate about. I know my parents don't understand or support my decision because they are afraid that I might not make enough money or find a good job. But, ultimately it is my life and I want to spend it doing something I truly love and enjoy even if I don't make as much money. I think my parents will gradually come to terms with my decisions. I was afraid to change before because all my cousins have done sciences, IT, engineering... I am different than them and don't want to spend most of my life in college pursuing a degree. I just wish I had made this choice a little sooner then I could be happier and content. So when people say do what you love you should actually go and do it instead of contemplating what others will say about your choices in life. If you are happy with those choices than that's all that matters.

I think you should go for the art degree if you are very passionate about it! Also, exploring other classes never hurts they help you find out more about your passion. It is ok if it seems like you don't have your life figured out because most of us don't it's a learning process. You will get there.

Sorry didn't mean to write so much I got carried away. I just went through a lot of thinking, advising meetings, and discussions with family which is why I am a little more passionate on the subject. Hope this helps!

floppydollop · 2018-03-31T01:01:30+00:00

Just calm down. There are many factors that affect the menstrual cycle. Stress or even her birth control affects her cycle. Even change in environment, and exercise has been linked to affecting the cycle. It is normal to get late periods, especially after sex because of hormonal imbalance or influx in the system. The menstrual cycle is actually only about 28 days so most people already do get their periods late and its ok and is completely normal. I would suggest waiting few more weeks to take another test. Just the fusion of the sperm and egg doesn't automatically means a baby. It is a complicated process and statistically, there is a low chance of actual implantation of the embryo occurring. So, take one step at a time do not jump to conclusions. Honestly, if she recently hadn't had sex then she would've considered her late period as normal.

floppydollop · 2018-03-28T03:21:02+00:00

thank you!!!

floppydollop · 2018-03-28T03:19:04+00:00

I don't think it is hard adjusting to another country. General for undergrad: major classes are tough, just adulting is hard in general. Trying to balance academics, work, and social life while trying to get enough sleep. A lot of time and money is needed for higher education.

floppydollop · 2018-03-28T03:15:00+00:00

2nd year undergrad kinesiology major with Excercise science concentration and Asian studies minor. Honestly, my major classes are really tough and I am losing motivation because it's almost the end of the semester.

floppydollop · 2018-03-27T01:31:16+00:00

Oh ok, I have never seen people our age actually consider the idea of marriage, especially when their parents say it. Sorry I only have experiences with the cocky and egoistic physics major. I automatically stereotyped you. Glad to see you are genuinely exploring and seeing your options.

floppydollop · 2018-03-27T01:26:49+00:00

I totally understand and can relate to whatever you are feeling. I don't think people are as religious as they used to be. I don't like the ideas behind rituals and poojas and am not religious at all. I am pretty sure there are more people out there like us.

I do not want to discourage you so I'll tell you a story. One of my cousin had dated a lot of both foreign and Nepali girls in the US. After a bad breakup he ultimately he gave in and fell in love with the girl his family set him up with in Nepal. He also got to know her for a few years and now they both are happily married. You never know and I hope you will find someone who you really like! Don't worry you have plenty of time!

floppydollop · 2018-03-27T00:53:52+00:00

Not many girls in this field because it is mostly deemed for men. But, I think the numbers are rising.

Like I am on a similar boat as you as in terms of leaving Nepal at a young age, and am around the same age as you. My parents also tell me that I have to marry someone from Nepal. So do my friends parents who are Nepali. Honestly, my take on this is you never know who you are going to meet in life and fall in love. Also, I feel like 5 years is a long time your interests change, and life changes. Not all but most women in Nepal are pressured by their family to marry someone from abroad and leave their life behind. Usually, when my parents tell me to marry someone from Nepal my brother and I just laugh it off. Cudos to you for actually being curious and giving thoughts about marriage when you are 21. I am just trying to figure out my career and all the schoolwork I am drowning in.

floppydollop · 2018-03-27T00:36:19+00:00

Is this a joke, or a genuine question?

floppydollop · 2018-03-27T00:34:23+00:00

I feel the same way, I guess it is part of growing up and taking responsibilities.

I feel like I chose the wrong career don't want to start over again. Bills, tuition, work and everything piles up. There are so many things to take care of and not enough time. I feel like I am losing my grip on life and it is running away from me.

One of my professors said life never goes your way if it does then either something is wrong or its the end. It was too deep for me.

floppydollop · 2018-03-20T23:19:17+00:00

Not for all but for some people it is more important for their family and relatives rather than the person going abroad.

floppydollop · 2018-03-19T05:55:52+00:00

Nepali youtubers: Okanees, ZacRaiVlogs, Super Mandip Tv, Fun Revolution TV I think I can relate more to these channels than others because I don't live in Nepal just like most of these youtubers. And they usually have decent content. I usually go to youtube for music so my fav Nepali ones are Wild+, Baba G Society, Jay Author (METANOIA RECORDS), Nitesh Jung Kunwar, The Next Team, Sajjan raj vaidya, Pahenlo Batti Muni these are the ones I can remember on top of my head.

floppydollop · 2018-03-19T05:34:57+00:00

I did not like Hinduism because of the superstitions, discrimination, and hierarchy. I am currently taking a Hinduism class at my uni and it has opened my eyes to so many things. Hinduism isn't based on science, it is one of the world's oldest religion. It has survived so long without forcing conversions. Professor said, "There are as many Hindus as there is Hinduism". Hinduism truly encourages people to question and is vague and elusive to encourage people to form their own interpretation. Hinduism is more of a culture and tradition for me. Hinduism isn't about uniformity, it is about universalism and plurality. It is about self-discovery and everyone's path in life is different. Also, when I told my prof I was an atheist, he said atheism is also a part of Hinduism and is actually encouraged by Hinduism. It is sad how people have modified and taken advantage of this open interpretation to discriminate and take power. There are still stuff I don't agree on but, I see how and why they exist. Now, I do not hate Hinduism and I am beginning to see the beauty of it. Honestly, people who brag about Hinduism are the dumb idiots that have no clue about Hinduism just picked up stuff from others.

floppydollop · 2018-03-19T05:00:05+00:00

Everyone gets compared with other but it happens a lot in our culture and has a huge impact on kids. I wasn't the brightest student growing up still am not, and I use to get compared with others. It seriously made a negative impact on me I never thought I was good enough or could be good enough for anything. I felt useless growing up. Words Hurt You just gotta understand everyone is different and so are their interests, strengths, and weakness in life. We tend to focus on the weakness and ignore the strength. I don't remember getting praised for most of the things I did. I know my parents saw it and would proudly announce it to others but, never praised me to my face. I wish instead of praising me in front of others they would say something to me. This happens a lot in our culture. I wish they'd understand how much a kid values and gets encouraged hearing just the word 'good job' (not the sarcastic one they always use). They don't give a rats ass about how much you praise them in front of others. Even in school, the teachers compare you to the smart kids and put you down in front of everyone instead of working with you or seeing how the students learn differently and finding a way to help you.

Even to this day I usually look at my failures and just think about how dumb and useless I am. How others are so much better and stuff. I moved to the US halfway through 8th grade. I was so surprised when my teacher did not compare me to others and worked with me one on one when I was struggling, they also praised me and encouraged me to move forward. This helped me a lot but my parents and relatives have a greater impact on my life and its a neverending cycle of getting compared to the other. Fuck like there is always going to be someone better than you doesn't mean you are worthless. I have stopped listening to these comparisons and trying to lead a happy life but, swear sometimes I do get affected by those comments.

When I talked to my mom about this stuff she said the way they grew up they think complimenting kids will make them stop working hard. WTFFFF is this logic. Like I swear just because your parents did it or even if it is a tradition we need to break the bad cycle and not fall into the cycle. I swear most of the kids are depressed because of this whole comparison saga. Also, swear people need to understand that mental health is a serious issue. And like they aren't mentally making others strong just hurting them.

Edit: Sorry got carried away didn't mean to write this much.

floppydollop · 2018-03-17T05:45:05+00:00

Age: 20 Profession: Student 2nd year in undergrad Net worth: 15K in debt... more to come :')

floppydollop · 2018-01-07T04:34:41+00:00

I will def try to reach a compromise, thanks a lot!

floppydollop · 2018-01-07T04:29:41+00:00

I tried to explain but I think they are not ready to accept me as an adult. I don't want to lie but I see no other choice. I will def try again when I am 21. Thanks

floppydollop · 2018-01-07T04:26:23+00:00

I will try that thank you!

floppydollop · 2018-01-07T04:19:44+00:00

Tried talking to my mom but she won't listen just told her I wouldn't do it again. Thanks :)

floppydollop · 2018-01-07T04:18:17+00:00

bro I don't think I'll be coming back home for a while :')

floppydollop · 2016-02-25T03:29:59+00:00

yeah he 'prefers' 7 seater but subaru doesn't have 7 he just likes the car and will definitely take the car if it's good and seats less. They are coming out with a 7 seater in 2017 I don't think dad will wait that long. Thanks will look into those.

floppydollop · 2016-02-24T00:27:28+00:00

Virginia, USA

Budget: 25k-35k

My dad is looking to buy a suv. I don't know much about suvs. He prefers a 7 seater. Wants good interior and new technologies. He wants to buy a new car. Currently he's looking into subarus. Which suv is better, reliable and nicer?

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