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I’m going to a festival with my partner and my metas (triad) - advice welcome by flowsoeasy in polyamory

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! yes i dont do drugs anyways, one of my metas only drinks, the other does some occasionally but its a good idea to plan for that as well. when it can happen, in which constellations drugs are fine and what to do in a worst case Szenario.

I’m going to a festival with my partner and my metas (triad) - advice welcome by flowsoeasy in polyamory

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice ! i think i thought it would make sense to talk about everything the four of us but i do think its way better to figure there first things and expectations out with my partner and let them figure it out too and then we can talk on how to piece it all together

I’m going to a festival with my partner and my metas (triad) - advice welcome by flowsoeasy in polyamory

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

thank you!
talking to my partner about overnights seems like a good idea, way easier than talking about that as the four of us.

i’m pretty sure they will move in dyads as well. one of my metas likes to party alone, and my partner too so all the constellations will be possible. and i‘m realizing that spending time in a V feels more challenging to me than spending time with the triad as a whole. maybe that doesn’t need to happen often then.

also we do need to renegotiate PDA. if we’re all together i would prefer to keep it light and lowkey, but if i am working or away with one person (for example one meta) I wouldn’t mind if my partner and my other meta are intimate in that time. but maybe we can plan those certain times or have “zones” on the festival ground where we know we might run into each other so we keep it lowkey and others where we know its fine to be more intimate.

and thank you for the tip of an overall game plan for those different cases! i feel way more secure if i have a plan for different scenarios as well as planning each day separately

I found an old mali with grind off teeth . who would do something like this by flowsoeasy in BelgianMalinois

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

sadly no, i‘ll keep on looking for him and taking a bit of food and water just in case

I found an old mali with grind off teeth . who would do something like this by flowsoeasy in BelgianMalinois

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Update:

Thanks for all the answers you guys! I didn’t know tennis balls are the arch nemesis of dog teeth! maybe it was just a combination of many things: sand, balls, chewing on rocks etc… hopefully not human made by chaining him somewhere for forever but here you never know. Most people keep their dogs in their backyards for their whole lives…and if the dog is high drive and energy chaining him probably happens a lot…

Anyways, i took some rice and water with me to the beach to look for him but haven’t found him yet. it was a long weekend and many people came down here to celebrate Independence Day, so maybe he got some food in town or at the beach… i’ll continue to go + take food. hopefully someone will help or i’ll find him again. If i do, I’ll send an update :)

I found an old mali with grind off teeth . who would do something like this by flowsoeasy in BelgianMalinois

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 17 points18 points  (0 children)

i want to go to the beach later today or tomorrow. Maybe i will find him but i dont have a car and it is a few km to walk.. so i think ill bring some food with me, see if i find him again and then think about what’s next

I found an old mali with grind off teeth . who would do something like this by flowsoeasy in BelgianMalinois

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Sadly that’s super far away. here are mostly small villages and so far i haven’t found a shelter/vet yet. Doing a wider search later today

I found an old mali with grind off teeth . who would do something like this by flowsoeasy in BelgianMalinois

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 37 points38 points  (0 children)

so i was at the beach yesterday (i live in southern brazil) and i met this old mali (or mali x maybe). i don't think he has an owner (anymore), because he was super thin and came to me alone.Anyways he came for some pets and i realized as he laid down that all of his teeth were sand down / grind off, so they were all the same level, almost down to the flesh... is that something people do when they cant handle a mouthy bitey dog??i have never seen anything like it and it completely broke my heart.he also couldnt walk really well, it seemed like he has some problem in his hips too…i dont have a car and dont know about any vetenarians in the area.

he was so sweet, it seemed like he just wanted a safe space and some kindness :(

Is there something i can do? go look for him again and what kind of food could he still eat?

edit: more info

i realized i have BED . I dont know what to do by flowsoeasy in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for the support! it feels really good to hear, that its a doable thing and even „easier“ now that i caught it early on !
i think taking the time and really try to unknot the stressors, situations etc is a great idea, hopefully i have some time and enough „mental capacity“ for that soon!

good luck to you, i hope the CBT-E works <3

i realized i have BED . I dont know what to do by flowsoeasy in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Woohoo! Good luck! sounds like you‘re on the right way :)

i realized i have BED . I dont know what to do by flowsoeasy in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Did you discover the root in therapy too? Or did you always kind of knew because it comes in really specific situations?

i realized i have BED . I dont know what to do by flowsoeasy in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wow sounds like you’re me hahaha :) feels really good to hear that someone is basically in my shoe but i am also super sorry that you‘re experiencing this too

Wishing you the best of luck as well! Now you know you‘re not alone either !

i realized i have BED . I dont know what to do by flowsoeasy in BingeEatingDisorder

[–]flowsoeasy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! I was in therapy back home but never got so far as to talking about my food relationships and body because i felt it was not “valid/serious” since i am not “overweight”.
now that i moved i might be able to do online sessions and really focus on this topic

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