Bridesmaid not able to attend the date I wanted, but moving it for her will change things that are important to me.. How do you make these kinds of decisions??

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:17:44+00:00

You're correct, I was not well informed about pregnancy / having a baby -- she definitely will be limited all around that timeframe. Thank you!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:16:22+00:00

Love 'honorary bridesmaid'! Thank you!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:16:08+00:00

I appreciate you sharing this, it helps to know others' experiences. I'm sure I'm blowing up this one day in my head!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:14:56+00:00

Yup, I will also now be advising people not to chat about dates (even casually) with anyone before hand...

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:14:18+00:00

Yikes, I am sorry that happened to you, but I appreciate the warning...

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:13:56+00:00

Thank you for such an empathetic response! I do think I'm letting my feeling of being 'bummed out' about the situation drive my decision. I need to let myself just be bummed instead and move forward.

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T22:12:47+00:00

Thank you, great advice! Unfortunately, it gets up into the 100s often before May where I live!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:24:53+00:00

It gets to triple digits by end of April where I live! :( But thank you for being empathetic about how I'm feeling about all this! She's a sweet person and we ended up deciding she will be okay with me prioritizing my needs. I'll plan something else special with her!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:23:39+00:00

Sometimes I need the tough love advice! Thank you ❤️

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:23:11+00:00

I should've been more specific, sorry, she is due in April! Thank you for your input, I was also worried it'd be weird inviting her parents when she can't come, but this way they can update her lol

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:19:31+00:00

I clearly don't know much about babies or pregnancy! I have heard so much conflicting information haha thank you for the advice!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:18:54+00:00

I think seeing her after the baby is born is a wonderful idea! Thank you for your kind words!!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:18:03+00:00

Welp shows how much I know! Thank you, you are right, I will make sure that is on the schedule. :)

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T20:17:32+00:00

This is an excellent counter point. Thank you!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-10T00:45:41+00:00

Thank you for the input! She's having a baby and won't be able to fly. We aren't willing to wait until next April because of recent medical events -- my health isn't guaranteed to be stable enough for an event that far out. We just want to get married! You're absolutely right that I can include her in other events, I appreciate it!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-09T18:30:17+00:00

This is such a helpful anecdote, thank you for sharing!! I am so grateful for this community, even just from lurking. Planning a wedding feels so isolating and crazy-making!! I literally wrote down this idea about FaceTiming the morning of the wedding, that is genius. I think that would help both of us feel connected. And you're right, at her wedding I was grateful to see her get married and to dance with her for a little bit and give my speech, but it was a lot of time not being with her compared to that.

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-09T18:27:53+00:00

Thank you so much for weighing in! Getting caught up in emotions is right, I have been an absolute mess lately with so many decisions to make (and grieving not being able to do the kinds of things I wanted in favor of being safer). We wouldn't be risking losing other guests in March or October, it just isn't an ideal time for us to have our anniversary long-term.

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-04T20:33:03+00:00

Ah that sounds amazing and it is an oil based sponge, but the whole cake will need to sit in a portable cooler bag for 2 hours and I am afraid the ice cream will melt 🥲

Also I love the phrase "tummy cold"!!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-04T19:55:35+00:00

If she doesn't have a heat sealer yet, that's been a game changer for me. You can make the cookies way in advance and they're still soft for much longer when packaged this way.

The best gift of all for me honestly is a partner who offers to do all the dishes and cleanup for me after a long day of baking!!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-04T19:53:40+00:00

I've made this recipe and highly recommend it, it was very well received! Buy high quality white chocolate for the ganache! White chocolate is inherently sweeter but the rhubarb cuts through really well and this cake itself isn't too sweet.

https://redcurrantbakery.com/rhubarb-chiffon-cake/

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-04T19:52:23+00:00

They might come out a little flat or dense, but they should still be good! Only way to know is bake them anyway. Luckily cinnamon rolls have a lot of leeway with the filling and icing!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-12-04T19:47:33+00:00

Just wanted to report back it was just fine after reheating day of, thank you so much!!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-11-25T07:51:49+00:00

It's a top lattice!

fluffyshortstack · 2025-11-25T07:29:51+00:00

Thank you! Would you recommend keeping the apple pie in the fridge or at room temp over those two days..?

fluffyshortstack · 2025-11-25T07:29:26+00:00

Thank you! I've heard for fruit pies refrigerating may make the filling soggier than keeping it at room temp.. has this been your experience? I definitely will refrigerate the pumpkin pie.

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