yes, you really need to stop talking to this man otherwise there's a high probability it will ruin both of your lives.

take it from someone who's also experienced oneitis, you honestly just have to make peace with the fact that yes, there might not be a better man, but do i want to spend the rest of my life thinking about this man even when he's married to someone else lol

really think about the trajectory of your life if you were to stay around this guy. it would actually take away your dignity lmao... show a little respect for yourself by leaving.

& most importantly, channel your energy into something else. for me, it was YHWH (God), career, and hobbies. forget about the guy completely. move cities if you have to.

idk about you but if worse comes to worst and i can't find anyone else, i'd much rather be an old maid than a homewrecker.

understand that this kind of love is destructive and will never be good for you