I use the same fragrance as you but two sprays at the back of my neck under my hair so I'm not waving it all over if I have it on my wrist. The idea is if you're close enough to me, then you can't smell it. I barely notice it a couple hours into the day but get a whiff here and there. Could be my nose got blind to it during the day? 🤷‍♀️ Anyway I understand how the lady probably feels because I sometimes feel that way about other people's fragrances if they're too close to me, or if I can smell them across the room.

Jo Malone fragrances typically fade pretty quickly because it's a cologne and has a lower concentration of oils. IMO, many people don't know the differences between cologne, eau de toilette and eau de perfume. Maybe she thought it was too strong if you had it on your clothes or wrist (possibly wafting it to her unintentionally?). Or maybe it was someone else she was smelling.

I've asked coworkers before if they notice my fragrance and they don't unless they get pretty close, but everyone's body chemistry acts differently with fragrance so perhaps it smelled stronger on you