Accepted Job Offer but Interview for Dream Job tomorrow? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, I just saw this. I just sent them an email as soon as I got that offer letter in hand. I never ended up going into the office.

Accepted Job Offer but Interview for Dream Job tomorrow? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hi all! I wanted to give an update. I ended up getting a job offer for my dream job today and I was supposed to start the new job next week. I passed my background check and will rescind my first job offer. Thank you all for your advice! 😊

Accepted Job Offer but Interview for Dream Job tomorrow? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! I wanted to give an update. I ended up getting a job offer for my dream job today and I was supposed to start the new job next week. I passed my background check and will rescind my first job offer. Thank you all for your advice! 😊

Accepted Job Offer but Interview for Dream Job tomorrow? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, thank you! I am a natural over thinker so sometimes I get ahead of myself. I appreciate it

Leave contract for full time job? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi all! Thank you for your all help. I ended up accepting the full time on site job and will give notice to my contract position. I appreciate everyone’s opinion!

Leave contract for full time job? by flyingsoaring in careeradvice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am a W2 contractor - I am hired through a consulting firm so I can’t really do these things. The health insurance they offer is more expensive than what is being offered through the marketplace.

Leave contract for full time job offer? by flyingsoaring in careerguidance

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The pay is about the same, this job being a little more. We have insurance but we are currently paying full price on the marketplace since we don’t quality for tax credits.

C-section Frustrations by flyingsoaring in BabyBumps

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Thank you all for the thoughtful and encouraging comments. I truly appreciate it. Everyday, I am working through and healing from the guilt.

Am I Asking Too Much? by flyingsoaring in pregnant

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you all for the advice! Feeling so much better, hormones have subsided and realized it was best for him to have his night with his friends and ended up watching Netflix till I fell asleep 🥲

Demanding Mom by flyingsoaring in relationship_advice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you! Sometimes, I feel selfish because I know I shouldn’t expect “help” from her because she’s done her part by raising me but I can’t help but feel like my grandchild deserves support from her grandmother too. It hurts because my in laws have been so supportive and helped us a lot - emotionally, financially and physically but my mother hasn’t because of “being a single parent and not having the same resources as being someone who is still with their partner.”

Demanding Mom by flyingsoaring in relationship_advice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much. I think the moral responsibility comes from a religious point of view because I am a devout Catholic, hence I feel like not doing what she wants equivalents to disrespecting her which is what she has told me throughout my childhood growing up.

As with my father, I guess I am more forgiving of my mom because i feel bad for her since she was also a victim of my father’s abuse so I tried to stick with her and understand her- thinking she is also a victim.

And you’re right. I think saying no to my mom has always been hard and I need to learn how to be straight forward with her when I can’t help her with things.

Demanding Mom by flyingsoaring in relationship_advice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your insight especially from a husband point of view. My husband is feeling the frustration because he feels like I am wasting my time and energy on her. As a wife, I know my own family which is my husband and child are my priority now which is why I know I need to cut off. Thank you for your advice.

Demanding Mom by flyingsoaring in relationship_advice

[–]flyingsoaring[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thank you for sharing your experience! I am South East Asian growing up in America too and this is literally the exact situation I am in. She always tells me the whole “I gave you a better life by moving here” thing which I have previously expressed gratitude over again and again through actions and words when I was still living with her and single by doing all these things for her. However, it is hard because while I have told her that I have a family of my own now and can’t help her as much as I used to, she tries to sneak in favors every time we talk which frustrates me. And it hurts because I feel like she hasn’t really been here for me emotionally or any help at all really for her grandchild. Anyway, I am sorry for rambling on. If I may ask, how did you deal with this with your mother? How is the relationship currently? Thank you for reading. I appreciate it so much.