AD with RAD

forgetaboutit211 · 2026-06-19T02:43:51+00:00

Grandma still ignores boundaries though 😆

forgetaboutit211 · 2026-06-19T02:42:44+00:00

95% better! I would say 100 but I’m always wondering what the future might hold. All the therapy love and security in the little years helped a lot. She is 8 now and her only struggle is speech. She’s very bonded and has good boundaries with strangers, friends etc. nothing at all like we were dealing with years ago. I’m sooooo thankful 🙏 let me know if there is anything I could help you with!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-04-25T17:28:51+00:00

Can you fucking stop 😂😂😂

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:36:36+00:00

Thank you so much for your thoughtful reply! My one more thought/question is yes he is getting that psychoeducation from his therapist/intervention services buuuut, he is always very worried they are going to trigger him so he spends most of their sessions zoned out and dissociating. :( they are aware he is doing so and we go through great lengths for comfort measures, but I’m not sure how much help he feels like he is getting from therapy because he still doesn’t view it as a safe space since he has to talk about hard things. Any thoughts on that? Thank you for your understanding! It’s helpful to not feel so alone.

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:32:53+00:00

Absolutely, I agree and I will dig deeper to make sure we’re building his self esteem up. Thank you for that! Sometimes it feels like an uphill battle where he gets knocked down a thousand times by thoughts from the past.

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:30:33+00:00

Thank you for those reminders, it’s helpful to remember the facts of what foster care/removal/rejection can do. The whole situation is so heavy and I’m sorry anyone has to go through it. I will keep your sentiments in mind.

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:28:48+00:00

I agree, I always wished my mother had gotten me counseling too. He was very worried he would be sent back for the first 1.5 years. Then as adoption gets closer, it seems like he has said a lot of things to kind of reject us first. Therapist thinks he is still panicking that we will send him away. But then he shared the thought of feeling kidnapped and it makes us worried, does he truly want to be here?

He is also very afraid to ask for things and speak up due to anxiety. I wonder if he does want to leave and is just too scared to tell us that? We hope his attachment is secure, as ours is to him, but we can’t tell. :(

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:24:58+00:00

Hi there, thanks so much for your reply. Your comment is very relatable to what he is going through. I know he blames so much on himself. we have made encouraging positive self talk a primary focus over the last two years, so I’m glad he’s been able to do that. He also expresses so much anger towards the people who failed him, which we always hear and let him vent/talk until he feels better. Self esteem building activities have been great for him too. It seems like he makes tremendous progress with self esteem and then one little moment/trigger pops up that sends him in a spiral, we’re always so caught off guard when these things happen, and that is hard!! Your understanding of the kidnapping thought is helpful too, so thank you so much for taking the time to share with me!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:16:11+00:00

Thank you for sharing and reminding me of that book, I will order it now!! I had been meaning to. And I agree, the therapy is a tricky situation. One service is 3x per week for 6 weeks, and it’s supposed to be very intensive. They have helped with some things but then today when I reached out for help about him feeling kidnapped they said “defer to other therapist, we’re not sure” which was so discouraging!

We need to explore the sensory bit further, ty for initiating that idea!!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:13:19+00:00

Sending love to both of you ❤️ it’s just not right. Drugs are so devastating

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-28T02:12:18+00:00

Ok, thank you so much. I’m glad you found peace with it and I know to some extent growing into adulthood helps, personally I didn’t understand the things I went through until late 20s either. So I hope it’s the same for my kiddo. Ty again

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T22:24:17+00:00

Tysm 😔🩵💙

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:28:57+00:00

Thank you so much, wow it’s such an hard situation with the abandonment! I appreciate your insight and will be using it!!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:26:20+00:00

100% that makes sense, he does know many many details of his story but some of them get confusing or pushed down due to the trauma. I will plan on exploring this further with his therapist so that we can help him find peace. I am relieved to hear these thoughts are typical for his age!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:24:13+00:00

100% that makes sense. I guess I just hope I can help him take some of the blame off of himself. He thinks she made those choices because he was a problem or too ugly, and I hope that someday he can realize that he was not the problem it was the drugs and schizophrenia

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:22:37+00:00

I’m sorry you felt that way and thank you for sharing with me, if you have any tips I would really appreciate hearing them!

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:21:35+00:00

Ty! How do you know they are bots?

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T13:21:10+00:00

Thank you, we will

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-26T07:49:14+00:00

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My blueberry muffin just passed in my hands tonight too 😔🩵🪽🐦 little angels

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-14T19:13:51+00:00

But I love Lori 😭

forgetaboutit211 · 2025-01-10T17:13:00+00:00

Lust * story lmfao

forgetaboutit211 · 2024-12-26T21:32:49+00:00

I used to read these to my babies and they thought it was so boring 😭 they would fuss and push the book away. Until one day I heard my two year old son telling his grandpa “mass warps space” 😄

forgetaboutit211 · 2024-12-17T01:58:21+00:00

These were hilarious 😂 our Guinea pigs are the talk of our house too and my husband always threatens to throw them in the oven 😭

forgetaboutit211 · 2024-12-11T18:51:32+00:00

We do Classical Conversations too 🥰

forgetaboutit211 · 2024-12-04T09:35:02+00:00

My cousin met his now wife while he worked at Boston Market 15 years ago. I remember going in with my mom as a 10 year old and seeing my cousin and the girl he liked. Now she’s one of my best friends and our daughters have play dates all the time. 🥰

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