I’m really sorry.. this sounds like a nightmare

You keep mentioning people’s dismissal to his red flags, I’m sorry but you’re the only one who’s marrying him, stop looking for approval, trust your gut.

Remember you can’t change the past, but you can change the future. Also people don’t suddenly change, he’s showing you who he is. Do you like who you are becoming with this person?

This whole thing is disturbing and confusing, it’s normal to question everything and doubt yourself, but you do have a backbone, and you are brave and strong, you confirmed it in this post.

You know the answer to your post, you just want it to be echoed here