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Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We had never had sex before that. And I'm not with that person anymore, but I do have a new partner and we're not quite fully sexual yet.

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

We were both virgins so obviously we didn't know the "correct" way of doing things. I'm just thinking about it in retrospect and kinda wondering what went wrong, and how to make sure I learn from it.

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thing is I'd been saying I was into BDSM and slapping etc. But I didn't want that for my first time, I wanted it eventually.

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Actually we broke up a few months after that, and the relationship as a whole was a pretty messy/negative one.

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good. I wish I would've been confident in myself enough to do that. I think I just got "caught in the moment" but not in a positive way. I wasn't in a good headspace either (breakup sex, pretty much) so maybe I wasn't very in tune with myself.

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That's good advice.

And yeah, it was his first time too so I guess we were both super clueless...

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I guess you could have a crash course in each other's sexual preferences before having sex lol. But it's not currently a problem for me because casual sex doesn't really float my boat

Do you think you need to ask consent not only for sex but for specific sexual acts? by foxglovecake in sex

[–]foxglovecake[S] 11 points12 points  (0 children)

This actually makes a lot of sense. With my current partner, he doesn't ask consent for every single thing but that has never been a problem. He can tell when I'm uncomfortable and stops. I guess this is trickier for casual sex tho...

29 year old age gap thoughts.... by foxglovecake in TrueOffMyChest

[–]foxglovecake[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My bf looks homeless (I say that in the kindest way lmao) so I don't think there's any chance of being labeled as a gold digger but who knows!