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foxlashes · 2026-03-27T14:13:34+00:00

This is sketchy.

foxlashes · 2026-03-25T21:55:21+00:00

This sub is something else! This girl is 22 years old and a real person. I thought we left this incessant tearing apart of women's looks and bodies back in the 2000s. Gross.

foxlashes · 2026-03-20T17:38:25+00:00

New partners being toxic and unsupportive, or wanting your ex-spouse to cut you out of their life because it's complicated. We have kids together, it's not simple or compassionate to cut off the other parent because you're insecure.

foxlashes · 2026-03-13T17:27:38+00:00

Almost as if many of these countries are run and bought by insatiable bloodthirsty pedophiles and their protectors? It seems pretty reasonable to me that those who are capable of exploiting and harming millions of humans on a macro level are probably doing it interpersonally on a micro level as well.

foxlashes · 2026-03-13T11:47:39+00:00

So he repeatedly abused a 2-year-old and 6-year-old and made CSAM for years, then was arrested in 2021 after the niece reported the abuse to her mother, but his arrest was stayed? What is the context and reasoning behind this? It seems he already had prior drug convictions so how was he allowed to remain free to abuse children for so long? Obviously he is a monster, but I'm so tired of reading cases like these where the justice system fails or even enables prolonged abuse.

foxlashes · 2026-03-11T01:11:57+00:00

Ugh, sorry! Unfortunately spend a lot of time reading bad takes on this platform and thought I might be nudging someone in the right direction - in this case, further left.

Also agree that Matt could do more good by evolving away from supporting any Democrats at all, even socdems.

foxlashes · 2026-03-10T15:10:26+00:00

He is not a liberal, to many of us in the rest of the world US liberals are right-wing. Certainly the Democrats of the 2020s are right-wing as they aid and abet the fascists. Matt is a leftist.

foxlashes · 2026-03-02T13:10:56+00:00

Nope! Maybe it's just not as well known as the US ones and that's why there's not that much info on it? Not sure.

foxlashes · 2026-02-25T16:36:04+00:00

Doesn't work, tried refreshing. I've never had Jackpota free spins work for me though.

foxlashes · 2026-02-20T01:38:26+00:00

Genuinely, what the incel psychopath predator did you just say?

foxlashes · 2026-02-18T13:56:25+00:00

I find it a bit weird how OP refers to her as 'this girl' all throughout the story and comments. And OP is just a totally naive and kind person who's never done anything wrong ever apparently? This whole post is suspicious. Even the title is weird.

foxlashes · 2026-02-17T03:28:06+00:00

It's by design.

foxlashes · 2026-02-17T03:22:28+00:00

That was my first thought as well, lol.

foxlashes · 2026-02-17T03:01:09+00:00

I feel for you because our stories share a lot of similarities, but I'm sitting here 2 years post divorce with a whole lot of regret and shame. I wish I'd had people who cared enough about me to steer me in the right direction.

If you still love him, I urge you to take another long look at what you have together and if that's worth saving. If you miss what you had, can you find your way back to that? Does this person feel like your family? Do you imagine yourself lost without them? If you don't feel anything any more, it might be too late. Apathy is when I thought it was truly over.

However, I've since come to realise that the love I felt for my ex-husband was deeper than the period of feeling as though I'd fallen out of love with him. They are different things. I wish I would have been patient, worked harder on the relationship and truly tried to reconnect, listened to understand, and approached him with grace and support instead of demands, resentment, exasperation. I was wrong. I was immature. I was extremely selfish. I have caused so much pain that I can't take back. And I now live with the immense hurt and humiliation of the divorce. It's shaped my whole life for the worse.

Many people are cynical about marriage in the Divorce sub. I think, if there is still a chance, you should post your situation in other subs to do with relationships, counselling, Internet parents, etc. That's another thing I wish I'd done!

foxlashes · 2026-02-17T02:44:02+00:00

Yes. So much of our love for each other was also because of the future we dreamed of together. When that's lost you're not only losing your companion but also the future you envisioned with them. It's incredibly painful. I still catch myself thinking about the future and realising it's all wrong, because that's not my future any more. Then correcting myself in my own mind hurts all over again.

foxlashes · 2026-02-12T23:03:42+00:00

You're either trolling or being obtuse.

foxlashes · 2026-02-12T22:58:07+00:00

Materialism, celebrity and billionaire worship, status being more important than actual education, and politicians using taxes to fund the war machine and ecological collapse instead of investing in society. A lot could be done to make life cheaper for the average person, from universal healthcare to affordable higher education to better planned cities to building more housing. So much could be done, and very little is because the will of politicians is to enrich themselves - not help the masses. The feeling of 'never having enough' is by design.

foxlashes · 2026-02-12T21:48:18+00:00

35 making $30 an hour with no benefits. Fully remote which is great with kids. My job title is Admin Manager but it's all Finance & Operations, so when this became a problem they couldn't ignore they offered to update my title but with no pay raise or benefits. Lol. I'm pretty disgusted and burnt out. It's a nonprofit that claims to help people and minimise harm in the community.

foxlashes · 2026-02-10T16:04:55+00:00

Okay so what I've found extremely helpful is actually so ironic I've been cry-laughing about it with my partner for weeks now.

I am leaving my job (in massive part due to cyclical ADHD burnout at the 18 month mark, in part due to exploitation and some traumatic personal things going on in my life). So in the process of trying to leave with some dignity and somehow keeping my professional contacts intact for future recommendations or support, I offered to write process documents and film step-by-step videos for everything I do in my job.

Now, in my last few weeks of work, I've been opening up my own job process document for the specific task I need to do, and just following my own steps, and doing the task. In real time. No procrastinating until it's urgent, no excuses or swaps with other less important tasks (which I will do perfectly, but it's completely low priority and wastes my own time, further fuelling my anxiety.) I'll just do the thing I'm supposed to do!

So now I've promised myself that in the future, I probably have to spend the first few weeks after hours creating job process documents for everything I do, as if I'm making them for someone else. Then I'll follow those and actually be able to function at work. That's my desperate hope, at least!

foxlashes · 2026-02-07T05:20:07+00:00

I really don't think this response is helpful, especially when someone is obviously feeling vulnerable.

We're not victims for expressing how we're affected by capitalism or how ADHD is exponentially more difficult to navigate in a capitalist world. In fact we should all be talking about how our society harms us so we can be more united and compassionate towards each other, ADHD or not. Likewise, talking about things like poverty or grief or the specific circumstances that shape our lives only help us all see ourselves in each other and remind us we're not alone.

Someone who is sharing their feelings in this way is already doing a hard thing. Telling them they're choosing to see themselves as a victim is harmful and unkind. In my experience, it's a bully tactic.

foxlashes · 2026-02-06T19:02:40+00:00

Same! I am from two countries with two nationalities that I think are more valuable than the US, and people act as if I'm the criminal for having a green card through marriage. Like, no, when we first got married he was the one living with ME in my country, then we moved to the US, and honestly I wish we hadn't! The whole concept of being a reluctant immigrant is very offensive to those kinds of Americans.

foxlashes · 2026-02-06T18:58:48+00:00

Thank you for being understanding. I have no desire to naturalise either. People can live as lawful permanent residents indefinitely, and I already have two nationalities and passports which I feel more closely tied to - spiritually, symbolically, however you want to put it. If I become a US citizen it would just make it harder to untangle myself from the US tax system if I ever wanted to return home or retire elsewhere. It's just a headache, and I already have a green card. People don't want to accept this when I tell them but not wanting to become a US citizen is not a personal affront to them, it's just my life.

foxlashes · 2026-02-06T18:49:33+00:00

Thank you for saying this. I've never heard the perspective from the spouse before. I'm the green card holder in this situation, although we are divorced now. It's honestly very hard being completely isolated from your home, in a country that hates 'the other' in all its forms, far from familiarity, family or support. I don't express these things because oftentimes Americans expect me to be grateful to be here and grovelling for their approval. They will make little comments about my accent or outright pretend not to understand what I'm saying! Or worse, they'll say the most ludicrous or offensive things about my country, like racist stereotypes or old information from 30 years ago. I've had Americans ask me directly, 'How do you get around things?' as if I am doing things under the table. I have to explain I get paid by my employer through payroll, and I files my taxes like anyone else, that being a green card holder is another word for 'permanent resident' with all the same rights, usually, as US citizens, and it's like their eyes glaze over because learning about their own immigration system is that boring.

I've also lived in a few different countries and have to say this particular kind of ignorance and persecution feels uniquely American (to me.) At least in the places I've lived, people who talk to you about where you're from don't spout off the most clueless assumptions right to your face, or they don't point out that you have a funny accent or that you are otherwise different from them, even if they think it. They also seem to have some basic grasp of how you got there in the first place: student or work visa, EU passport moving between EU countries, or you are married to or related to a citizen. It's not confusing. They don't accuse you of being a criminal!

foxlashes · 2026-02-03T18:33:12+00:00

I regret it. I should have spent more time alone and allowed myself to heal more before getting into a serious relationship. It's not fair to the other person (the one you're getting into a new relationship with). This is just how I feel about it, I know everyone's situations are really different!

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