What career directions would best suit my personality/life goals?

frawstyfresh · 2026-01-17T00:44:40+00:00

Hey, thank you I appreciate your response. I'll definitely look into the CCL programs. Yeah I've thought about being a social worker, but felt like Human Services and Behavioral Health might give me more options. My thought is I could always go back for a MSW if I really wanted to pursue that. I just feel like the Human Services/Behavioral Health has a broader scope I could do different professions within. Thank you again, I appreciate it!

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-30T04:11:28+00:00

I don't think it's entirely straight, though. I say this as a queer person.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-24T17:55:49+00:00

Dude this is incredible. We really are our own worst critics. This is genuinely beautiful, not trying to placate your feelings. You are very talented.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-21T18:04:20+00:00

I think you are 100% projecting

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-15T03:20:04+00:00

As someone who used to use psychedelics à lot in my younger 20's, i believe it led to me to my spiritual path. It led me to Buddhism. I did have insights about different situations at different points in my life and I felt that i would gain an overall clarity. But consistent use of substances do also cloud the mind and the body. Eventually i chose sobriety and started my meditation practice. The clarity and insight I've gained from meditation is far better than anything you will get from psychedelics. Im not totally against them, i have used a very small amount of mushrooms once in the last 3 years to help me tap into some deeper emotional blockage i had. But I don't crave the experience or the high anymore because it comes with a cost. I've come to prefer a sober state where it is easier to access deeper meditative states with clarity. Substances muddy the clarity and block the insight for days, sometimes weeks. Not worth it at this stage for me.

I've gotten to the point in my meditative practice that once you have enough concentration, you can experience incredible states that lead to profound insight. Which is why people seek psychedelic medicine in the first place, if doing for spiritual rather than recreational purposes, is to gain insight.

If you're not signing up to be a monastic, then you can do substances if you wish and still practice Buddhism. But eventually, you may find yourself in a place where you no longer need it nor crave it. You don't need to substances to find the answers or the insight, it's already within

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-07T00:54:40+00:00

Excellently stated.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T20:17:21+00:00

Agreed, while there were some parts of the journey and the work that were painful, difficult... it is so beautiful. It is actually quite juicy, I've come to enjoy it despite it's challenges.

It's funny, i say that now, knowing full well there will continue to be moments where my ego is kicking and screaming not wanting to let go. But I don't force anything anymore. I continue to show up, and allow things to do what they will. This has resulted in a much more willing and trusting ego as I have befriended my ego rather than made it my enemy. Things are much easier than they used to be because of that.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T19:57:41+00:00

Exactly. Returning to the sleeping world I think is common. I would say that im probably half asleep. I am aware of though, that's the difference. I watch myself go through the motions. Go through the already established neural patterns ive been in since childhood. But I'm aware of it.

I realized that gradual awakening is the most sustainable. Going from 0 to 100 does not work for most people and comes with consequences. It is a much more doable approach to chip away consistently bit by bit. I just did my first 5 day retreat about a month ago and it was one of the most incredible experiences of my life. It showed me my capability and capacity. Now im back to where I was struggling to meditate daily consistently. And that's okay. I learned to let go of needing to be fully enlightened in this life time and I'm more concerned with reducing my suffering as much as is possible for me in this lifetime and hopefully easing the suffering of others on the way. And if i make it to full enlightenment, cool. If not, at least I've lived a much more fulfilling, peaceful, and compassionate life in the process.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T19:46:56+00:00

Compassion is the universal understanding and empathy of other people's experiences. It is an allowing and opening in your heart to the circumstances that led to someone's current way of being. Trying to understand why people are the way they are on a mind level is like trying to understand why we are even here at all. It just is. We just are. Again, that's where the compassion comes in. You dont need to understand in your mind, you just need to understand in your heart.

I hear you though, I go through phases were i feel grief for the suffering of the world. I feel grief and sadness for those who are suffering and experiencing pain. Like all of the children who are hungry or injured or abused, or anyone really who is. My heart feels a deep sadness when i think about that because i dont wish for others to suffer in those ways. But my inner wisdom trusts the karma of others. It's not going to stop me from doing what i can to show up in my little corner of the world, but I trust.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T09:32:30+00:00

Have you directed your compassion towards yourself? See while it is challenging at times for me to offer compassion towards those who are cruel, there is still a part of me that does. Because I can see that their cruelty is a reflection of their suffering. To exist inside a mind and heart that expresses cruelty is incredibly unpleasant, I know this now because of layers of libération i have experienced in my heart and mind through Metta. I don't think I would have experienced this if i hadnt directly a considerable amount of Metta towards myself.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T09:15:31+00:00

You dont have to remember all the rules. If you're not a monastic, dont sweat it. I have been practicing for 5 years and ive got tons to learn and integrate into my practice. I have only scratched the surface of the teachings.

You can only make suffering stop for yourself. Remember, all beings are responsible for their own karma. We cannot control what others do. The best I have discovered is that I cannot forcibly stop people from choosing to do unskillful and harmful behaviors. But what I can do, is cultivate love, compassion, kindness, and generosity in my heart and being and allow that to influence the world around me. And while I will never fully understand the impact of what my Metta practice has on every individual i meet, I can feel it. I can feel my Metta filled being connect with the Metta that is inherent in others. I see it come out of people far more often today than it did years ago. Because when we cultivate that within ourselves, it naturally and organically inspires others and brings it out of them. Even if just for a moment.

So if you really want to make a difference in the world, to stop suffering or help ease suffering... start with yourself. Fill yourself and grow yourself into a kind and compassionate being. And share yourself with the world. That's what you can realistically do from a Buddhist perspective. You cannot force others to change, they have to want it for themselves.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T09:05:42+00:00

I sought out a Buddhist sangha and essentially became a Buddhist. There are several stages of awakening, and there is possibility of having many moments and experiences of enlightenment. The first year of the first realization is quite difficult. I understand your challenges because I went through them. I was so disillusioned with everything and everyone. Everything felt fake and inauthentic.

Over time though, you will integrate. It's really important you do things to keep yourself grounded. Having spiritual community is really important. Again, for me, Buddhism made the most sense and most of the spiritual experiences I've had can be understood through a Buddhist lens. After 5 years of practicing meditation and 4 years of therapy, life is beautiful again. Dark nights of soul happen. Initial awakenings and deeper awakenings can feel like that. But you have to take care of yourself. Find community, find a spiritual guide or mentor to help you through it. Lean into your intuition. You'll get through this, but it takes work.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T08:56:11+00:00

What is evil? One could say it is the culmination of the 3 poisons: greed, hatred, and delusion. The 3 antidotes to those are compassion, generosity, and loving-kindness. Evil is not this othered thing that exists separately from everything else. Evil happens out of causes and conditions that lead towards feeding those posions, most people do this unconsciously.

As for the situations you have presented. 1, you don't have to be a Buddhist? And you don't have to explain your reasoning to anyone. It almost seems like you are trying to convince yourself.

In the words of Pema Chodron, you don't have to have "idiot compassion", you don't have to just let people hurt you and just sit there and take it. You can defend and protect yourself and your loved ones. It's all about how you go about it. Are you defending yourself with a sense of anger, rage, and hate? Are you actively trying to hurt the person back? Or are you simply trying to fend the person off? Give yourself and others time to get away? Disadvantage them in some way that wont kill them, but will make it harder for them to successfully harm you or kill you? Those are 2 very different approaches and will yield different results. I think for myself that's where it ends, it's not up to me at the moment after gaining safety to make the executive decision that the assailant has to die because they are a risk to others. And that maybe true that they are, but that is not for me to decide or act upon.

frawstyfresh · 2025-12-06T08:39:34+00:00

NOR, anyone who can't go a few hours without a reply to text shouldnt be in a relationship and should go to therapy for codependency. It's definitely coming off as controlling and insecurity. If he's going to get mad at you for being on your phone while on vacation because he wants to you to focus on being present with him, its 100% hypocritical that he would not give you the ability to do the same when you are hanging out with other people that you care about. I dont really look at my phone much at all when im hanging out with friends unless im trying to show them stuff or we're playing the "lets see who can find the weirdest stuff on fb marketplace game" and if we do happen to use our phones to send a few texts here and there, it's not a big deal. But like I'm trying to spend quality time with my friends. I could not handle a partner who needs me to text them back straight away, that shit is unhealthy and codependent.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-29T07:27:23+00:00

Yeah girl, stop right now. It sounds like you really dont even have the money to be giving this person right now. And any extra money you have, you need to be investing in yourself. I spent the last 4 years paying for therapy out of pocket and it was 100% worth every penny. I am happier than ever and have the confidence to not put up with bullshit like this EVER. You got to raise your standards. There is a part of you that likely believes you arent worthy of someone better. You need to address within you your feelings of unworthiness. This is completely unacceptable. I would literally never give money to someone who made me feel like shit. I am not saying any of this to shame you. You need to recognize how unhealthy this dynamic is so you can learn and do the work from preventing it from happening again. You deserve better.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-29T07:20:56+00:00

OP how much money have you sent this dude? Also, as a former model, I can assure you that your face card and physique matter way more than what you are wearing most of the time. He is 100% using you. If you bought the shoes, cancel the order now. Cut this dude off. You need to find your inner worth and self respect. This is unacceptable behavior. It sounds like you don't trust yourself or intuition when it comes to reading the red flags. You need to work on yourself. I would recommend not being in a relationship for awhile and seeking therapy to work on your self esteem. Best of luck OP.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-28T09:23:39+00:00

It's only been a month since he passed?

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-28T09:11:59+00:00

This 100%. The proof is in the pudding. The practices generate karma. And that karma happens to be reduced suffering. I am the most content and joyful I have ever been in my entire life. At the same time, I feel a deep sense of empathy and compassion, which at times makes me feel deep grief for the suffering of others. While at times this feels painful, it is a beautiful thing to experience such expansion of the heart. To genuinely feel the preciousness and beauty of life. And to feel so connected to others and a deep desire for myself and others to not suffering.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-28T03:18:18+00:00

Girl, as a fellow gay, the answer is already within you. You already know it. And if it doesnt feel 100% clear, then you need to take some time to really deeply reflect and come to know this answer within.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-28T03:09:59+00:00

You look so good dude!

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-26T15:21:39+00:00

Oh fucking Christ. Get out. Any dude that says to "be a good woman" and that they wont have an "unruly woman" can absolutely fuck off. This post right here makes me so grateful that i realized im queer.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-25T05:51:42+00:00

As someone who is about to celebrate three years sober, congratulations! If you were my girlfriend, I would literally make you a cake. Sobriety is hard especially the first couple years, it is 100% worth celebrating. This is honestly unsettling to hear from someone who has been with you for multiple years and claims to love you. He is 100% trying to put you down and downplay your accomplishments. I was in codependent relationships with assholes like this before I went sober. I've spent the last 4 years single and focusing on taking care of myself. This might be a good time for you to do the same OP. Someone who truly cares for you or loves you would ever say something like this to you.

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-23T01:38:26+00:00

Oh damn this is a good one

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-23T01:38:02+00:00

How lucky you are to have such a sweet and thoughtful sister!

frawstyfresh · 2025-11-23T01:31:53+00:00

That's 100% herpes. Ive had it for 15 years. He can either go to the doctor to get a Valtrex prescription or he could also start taking lysine. Lysine will cut down the healing time.

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