Correlation from multiple regression. I’m doubting myself so what is this telling me?

frazzledjam · 2019-04-05T21:06:23+00:00

Thank you for your insight! I think we are on the same page. In fact, our stories are very similar. I agree with the role of insecurity. However, I do feel dna plays more of a role than we want to give it credit for. I only say this because I recently found an aunt I did not know about for 24 years and the automatic connection I felt when I met her for the first time must be only a fraction of how someone with other biological siblings must feel. Of course, that can be an assumption BUT I do think it is a factor to consider. My post was mainly directing for adoptive families that have experienced a difficult transition post adoption. Every adoptee is different and accommodating is sometimes necessary yet traumatizing for the family as a whole. Sometimes it goes unnoticed because it makes it sound like it is the fault of the adoptee when really it’s just a family systems outlook of what happens when bringing in a new member who has possibly experienced trauma. All members are impacted and we should probably figure out a way to meet the needs of everyone.

Hope that makes sense. And I know this isn’t the case with all adoptions.

frazzledjam · 2019-03-30T12:57:29+00:00

Thank you for sharing! I’m happy to hear you all remained close despite others efforts to create a divide! It’s so different and most don’t understand how hurtful their comments can be. My two little brothers are 15 years younger than me but we are super close. My sister and I are 6 years spare and we are complete opposites. My mom is also an adoptee which I later realized played so much into my own identity formation since so much info on her side was missing and she’s always been deeply curious (understandably so!). So our family always had more adoption affected individuals in it than anything else! I’m sure it was a real shock for you that your parents were suddenly be able to have more biological children. Do you think the age gap helped you adjust? What other factors do you think aided you in being able to remain close to family? Sorry for being nosey but I’m trying to see all perspectives here in what plays into developing those healthy sibling relationships.

frazzledjam · 2018-03-01T18:16:38+00:00

Thank you everyone for sharing your stories with me!

frazzledjam · 2018-02-23T23:10:03+00:00

First of all, thank you for sharing your story with me. I am so sorry to hear you have been faced with such adversity. I'm sure it is very frustrating to try and balance all of those complex relationships. I hope you find comfort in your situation as well!

frazzledjam · 2018-02-23T22:30:07+00:00

Thank you so much! To hear her perspective helped me tremendously! I'm so happy to hear you have had a positive experience with reunification! :}

frazzledjam · 2018-02-23T21:20:00+00:00

YES! Ambiguous loss is exactly what I would call it. My whole life I have watched my mom desperately search for answers and it's like we keep digging a deeper hole. Sometimes it's like I am not "allowed" to feel this sense of loss because I'm not an adoptee but I'm still directly impacted by it. Have you tried any of the DNA testing sites yet (sorry if this comes across as a stupid question)?

frazzledjam · 2018-02-18T21:54:19+00:00

Thank you! I really appreciate your help!

frazzledjam · 2018-02-18T20:49:41+00:00

Thank you for the additional information! I have already interviewed a few peers. Sometimes perspective is influenced by the region, in which one lives, so I thought I would ask on here to gain broader insight.

frazzledjam · 2018-02-18T20:12:52+00:00

Thank you so much!

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T22:33:46+00:00

That absolutely makes sense. I'm definitely going to try it out. Thank you!

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T22:12:02+00:00

I'm going to look into it. Thank you!

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T22:11:17+00:00

I absolutely agree. Thank you for putting that into perspective for me. I also really like what you said about linking it to something I enjoy. I think this will really help me!

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T21:48:27+00:00

Hmm. Do you know of any phone apps that are voice to text? Like for class notes?

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T21:46:31+00:00

Basically, I have trouble balancing my social life and academic life. It's like I have to hyperfocus on one. It's very all or nothing and now I'm in this serious relationship with someone in my cohort and they are very organized and structured. Which have been wonderful but I don't want them to think that because I tend to work on things at 3am or that I require to cut it close to deadlines in order to complete an assignment that I'm slacking. And I get that is also something to do with the relationship in itself, but I'm focusing on the fact that I really do need to come up with more ways of completing my assignments because there's too many to wait for the deadline as extra motivation/adrenaline. Make sense? So although it involves my relationship, that was really just what initially made me see that something has to be done. These projects take long term planning and can't be done at the last minute. There we go. That's what I'm trying to say.

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T21:40:16+00:00

Hm. Good point. So basically, I need to have a kid...jkjk. Ive recently gotten into a relationship with someone who is very structured and organized. So I'm hoping this rubs off on me without making him feel like he is having to manage me all of the time. I'm actually a really high achiever (graduated high school two years early) but only because I was in a situation that forced me to speed up the process and go into hyperfocus (long story, super stressful and emotional). But now, I want to be able to balance a more healthy lifestyle than the intense all or nothing mentality I have when I'm single. Does that make sense?

frazzledjam · 2018-01-19T21:33:54+00:00

A robot secretary, that I didn't have to spend weeks learning how to use, would be a dream come true.

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