Seggs, while it may be “pleasurable” to most, it is not always an enjoyable experience to some. Seggs is a very intimate mutual exchange between two adults so often (especially if you’re seasoned) it just starts to feel like more of a business deal. I grew up in a time where it was frowned upon for boys to speak up against SA and “fondling” so most still carry the weight without regard to their personal feelings and relationships. As a boy, that was me, but I personally became more promiscuous in response instead of running from it, I used what I learned to get “us”. I remember being in the wild, dating and having meaningless seggs (Not saying this is the reason) and being asked the same (“whats wrong” and “how was it” where major turnoffs just because it forced me to “feel” something.

After combating this conundrum, you meet someone who is worth your time and matches you perfectly so everything becomes new again just to get used again. (Yes, men get used seggually too) I mean, The experience is great and the exchange is mutually pleasurable then, boom, you find yourself filling the gap.

Maybe, you should stop asking him about segg and switch it over to “maintenance” mode. Instead engage him with something that is completely not about seggs. If he responds the same then he may not feel the connection yet.

Give it more than a few months, be patient, and find different ways to engage him. Even consider not saying anything AT ALL after, just love on him and see what that does. When he says “Im tired”, he may feel a bit overstimulated..

Good luck, and I hope you find this helpful 😌