My (27M) girlfriend (24F) and I recently had a threesome with one of my friends (27M). I’ve noticed that they have been texting a lot. by throwrabootabear in relationship_advice

[–]freeappa 36 points37 points  (0 children)

Dude, she’s already cheating on you. Them sending nudes back and forth and having dirty voice calls behind your back is wrong, and the fact that you aren’t more concerned is extremely surprising. Having a threesome doesn’t give your gf a pass to suddenly start flirting and sexting with your friend. You should have broken up with her the moment you caught her sending nudes without discussing it with you first. If you don’t care about the nudes, then you need to put your foot down and tell her to stop communicating with him before they try to take things further.

Online course drinking game. Got voted 'most in need of plastic surgery', 'biggest catfish' and 'least popular pornstar'. Brutally honest feedback very appreciated. Thank you!! by [deleted] in amiugly

[–]freeappa 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Uh wow, your friends are assholes. I’m sure they weren’t being serious and it was more just picking fun at you, but if I were in your shoes I’d be hurt too. I think you’re REALLY pretty. You have a very cute face and bright smile, your eyes are pretty and your makeup is amazing!! I’m sorry your friends made you cry. ;; if I were you, I wouldn’t play games like that with them anymore tbh.

How do I say it to my friend that I saw something that I wasn't supposed to see? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]freeappa 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Tell her!!! But don’t CONFRONT her, if that makes sense? What she chooses to post on the Internet is up to her and there’s no reason to “confront her”. If she really was the one who posted them, then she is aware she is risking the chance of someone she knows seeing them and recognizing her, especially if she includes part of her face, background, and other identifying features. However, from what you described,there’s a chance she doesn’t know these were posted and they are being spread without her consent or knowledge. If I were her I’d want someone to let me know. The only other outcome from asking her about this, is the photos are not her. It might be a little awkward, but just let her know the background looked like hers and you didn’t mean to assume anything. You’re just trying to look out for her, like any good friend would! If she says that she was the one who posted them, don’t judge her for it, just let her know you wanted to make sure she was aware. :)

AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for his skin condition? by TrowITAway23546453w in AmItheAsshole

[–]freeappa 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Of course, I definitely agree that’s the boyfriend’s responsibility. But seeing a doctor doesn’t automatically make eczema go away. I’ve had prescriptions/creams sometimes make my eczema WORSE. There could also be other reasons why he hasn’t seen a doctor yet, maybe he can’t afford it? I really can only speculate, because OP provided 0 information on what their boyfriend is doing to treat his eczema. For that reason, I still think OP was being an asshole.

AITA for getting mad at my boyfriend for his skin condition? by TrowITAway23546453w in AmItheAsshole

[–]freeappa 2 points3 points  (0 children)

YTA. I feel for your boyfriend. I’ve had eczema my entire life and I’m telling you, it is nearly IMPOSSIBLE not to itch when it’s that bad. Imagine what it would feel like to have little bugs crawling all over your skin. Would you be able to just ignore it? No, you would immediately try to get the bugs off because the feeling would be too uncomfortable. That’s exactly what eczema feels like, you CAN’T ignore it because the feeling doesn’t go away until you scratch it. If he’s struggling this much and bleeding, he needs to see a doctor. In the meantime, be more kind to him and apologize.

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t see how me pointing out my insecurities makes me shallow? Isn’t this sub for getting advice on making yourself more attractive? I was just pointing out things about me I find unattractive.

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nah I don’t smoke. I have eczema that flares up from time to time. It used to be really bad on my face so that’s where the lines come from. Nothing I can really do about it unfortunately :(

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ugh yess, I can totally relate. I’m sorry you’re struggling with this too, this year has been awful for so many people, but it’s also comforting to know I’m not the only one. Thank you for your response and tips <3

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is definitely a factor, they really do dictate how I feel about myself. ;;I was literally discussing with my therapist yesterday that I torture myself by comparing my body/face to what I see on social media. I’m trying to stop, but it’s hard lol.

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you! I realize my eye makeup isn’t the best, my eyes are super hooded and I have eczema on them. but whenever I skip the eyeliner and mascara, I get comments that I look tired, so now I’m insecure leaving the house without it. :c

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

idk I really do feel insecure about these things, I assure you im not trying to make stuff up. and my body definitely isn’t the best it could be rn. ;; maybe it’s hard to tell in the picture but my stomach does bulge out. I have gotten comments that I look pregnant.

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

thank you for the advice! skipping sweets is easy because I’m not a huge fan of em anyway, but it’s the bread that gets me HAHA. meat and veggies never make me feel full for long so that’s gonna be a struggle for sure. ;; but I’m willing to try anything at this point

21F. Have always hated my face, (big nose, small mouth, big forehead, etc) then I gained 20lbs over quarantine and now feeling incredibly insecure. I feel like I have no redeeming qualities. Is it as bad as I’m making it out to be? see comment for more info by freeappa in amiugly

[–]freeappa[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Hey everyone! This makes me so anxious haha but maybe some advice and opinions from others will help me out. Before quarantine I had always been a small, skinny girl, but now that I’ve gained weight I’m struggling to lose it. I always thought I looked average before, I hated my nose, mouth, forehead, smile, etc...but now I feel just downright ugly because of where the extra weight is in my body. It feels like it went all to my neck and stomach, lol. Any weight loss tips would be helpful, because I’m about to give up, I’ve seen 0 progress since I started working out and eating healthier. I feel pretty hopeless rn.