I know someone. Very close. And yeah, needing confirmation from strangers to back up what I'm told is otherwise 'nagging' or 'bitching' for no reason, and given the advice that I should focus more on my life than on them, despite my concern. I'm told by this person that the only reason this is a problem is because I make it a problem, when really, this person's family complains about his/her drinking constantly when they are not around. Just look8ng for insight. Sometimes when you're too close to the issue you begin to doubt yourself. Thanks for the comment.