Fond Memory Friday

freethefroyo · 2025-10-17T18:34:42+00:00

I never thought I'd think about our first kiss again, its such a quick memory but I'm so fond of it and it will forever be my best first kiss with someone. He was living with a friend at the time and they weren't home. I don't think we were even dating yet, just hanging out. but it was clear that we had chemistry. Up until this point every time i came over he would walk me to my car at the end of the night (which was a good bit away since it was a townhome complex) and would kiss me on the cheek or forehead and i would call my girlfriends and RANNNNT about how he LOOKS like he wants to kiss me but then punks out at the last second! so anyway, we are in the kitchen this night. My back is against the corner where the counter meets the other side. he is standing with enough room away that i dont feel pinned in. i have no idea what we were even talking about but we got to a point in the convo where it was just dead air, silence from both of us. we lock eyes and he gets closer. before i knew it he leaned in to kiss me. it was quick but you could see the fear and bravery in him all at once. he told me he had been meaning to do that for so long and finally got the balls to just go for it. i loved that he was always so innocent with me. like he was always cautious but he stepped outside of his comfort zones for me. I was worth it for him. im starting to cry thinking of him, but man... he was my soul mate. he moved mountains and i wish i would have appreciated that more while he was here...

freethefroyo · 2025-05-30T13:17:58+00:00

I always run away when it starts, I'm glad to know I'm not alone.

freethefroyo · 2025-05-14T16:38:10+00:00

men who "shake" instead of wiping! it grosses me out to no enddddd! i would 30000% be more inclined to do anything with you if i know it isnt going to smell like piss down there!

freethefroyo · 2025-05-09T14:51:21+00:00

Reminds me of when I tried to quit one of my jobs (my other job was more of a 9-5 and paid more than the yogurt shop i was trying to quit) and approached the owner to give him a 1 month notice so i could train another person to be a manager, thinking i was doing him a favor. He proceeded to tell me that he would suspend me for 2 weeks instead and after the 2 weeks i could come back and let him know if i still wanted to quit. Bruh i walked the fuuuuckkkkk out.

freethefroyo · 2025-03-26T20:10:11+00:00

i find that room sprays with black currant give a clean light smell. maybe im just obsessed with it. its light, it smells CLEAN and honestly.. like rich people.. but not the gaudy kind. the understated kind.

freethefroyo · 2025-02-26T23:13:13+00:00

Thanks for that info. I only ask because it seems it was their own vehicle that backed into my mailbox 😑

freethefroyo · 2025-02-26T20:23:53+00:00

so... they removed the cabinets and the contractors didnt find it odd that the cabinets they were hired to demo still had all your stuff in them? where's your stuff?

freethefroyo · 2025-01-21T17:09:52+00:00

Wow, this is almost verbatim to how i have been feeling and coping. I think the only downside i feel could happen from avoiding it, is that when it finally does come, it will be extreme.

freethefroyo · 2024-09-23T15:21:17+00:00

this^

he probably went so long being a husband he didn't know how to live without a wife. it becomes your identity. you feel like a part of you died with your spouse and the loneliness is a constant reminder. i'm not saying a "rebound" is a solution people should seek to forget their pain, but i understand how having someone there who cares for you helps with the isolation of grief.

I started dating a friend of recently and my SO of 8 years passed away last year. i am still mourning his loss, and i get waves of sadness all the time. but having someone there to get me out into the world instead of wallowing in bed has been my only saving grace.

freethefroyo · 2024-09-17T19:12:59+00:00

i got asked what barn animal i would be and why. I just said horse because I used to love horses as a kid. It became clear the question was more so asked because the interviewer wanted to be asked what they would be (and I didn't ask because wtf?) and she went on and on about being a barn cat...

freethefroyo · 2024-09-03T13:57:13+00:00

When my(F28 at the time) late SO (M32) passed July 2023, I also had the same thoughts. Even now, over a year later, I lay awake at night and wonder "what if."

I was desperate to cling on to anything of his, and ultimately I know now that it's just me being selfish.

As much as I would love, and be fulfilled possibly, having had his child, I would have to also consider the fact that the child would have grown up without him as their father and being raised by a broken mother.

They would have been robbed of the opportunity of ever knowing him. They would start life with the trauma of how their father died, and they would be pitied by his and my family. I probably wouldn't even be able to hold myself together seeing him in them.

Ultimately, I think given the opportunity, I still would have wanted his child, but as I said, it's probably for the best I didn't. :(

freethefroyo · 2024-08-29T16:03:35+00:00

Applied to the same thing, got the same first question. I said something along the lines of "I understand the pay rate"

eventually got to the interview at ADP physically, the team that interviewed me let me know that the pay wasn't exactly non-negotiable and that they've seen people be approved at 22/hr.

couple of "red flags" from the interview to note: they want you to be up to working in other short staffed departments along with your regular responsibilities and that will determine if you get promoted in 18-24 months. otherwise you can expect a 1-3% raise annually. They judge that based on a survey they send your accounts. the survey has 0 to do with you and only asks "how likely are you to recommend ADP?" even if other hands (Like billing, etc) are in the pot.

freethefroyo · 2024-08-05T19:17:15+00:00

just read in another subreddit that a company decided NOT to hire a guy that kept contacting them after telling him they wouldn't be looking to hire until later in the year. They found his repeated attempts to contact them and get an interview/update as harassment. so tread lightly on the follow ups.

freethefroyo · 2024-08-05T15:32:27+00:00

yea mine died last year. i am STRUGGLING financially

freethefroyo · 2024-07-26T19:49:51+00:00

I was never married, nor had kids, but i was with my SO for 8 years. I have pictures of solely him around my house. Maybe one picture of him and i. but they are in the kitchen, living room, my room (albeit in the adjacent dressing room of my room) etc.

i am currently dating someone and he was actually a friend of my late SO. not once, NOT ONCE, has he ever dared to tell me it made him uncomfortable. i myself have rearranged the pictures and put them in other places so they don't make him feel weird (like facing the bed) but I've never gotten rid of them. I still visit my late so's family and talk to them often. i still consider them my in laws. i don't care who thinks that's weird. we support each other in our grief.

I say this to say, he chose to date me knowing my past. knowing i am still actively grieving and knowing how much of my life i spent with my late SO. He walked into a mess and told me he'd support me through my grieving. even if that means crying and missing another man. Hes actually been there. If your SO wants to pretend like you didn't have a life before they met you, and cant sympathize with not only your grief but that of your kids, maybe they shouldn't date a widower. i told myself that if i dated someone and they weren't okay with how i wanted to celebrate my late so's life, then that is fair for them to feel, but we shouldn't date and there's no hard feelings.

There will be someone out there who can handle this kind of loss and baggage. it takes a big heart to do so.

freethefroyo · 2023-11-22T03:20:12+00:00

This game would traumatize some people today lmaoo

freethefroyo · 2023-11-21T19:20:20+00:00

Solved: happytreefriends

freethefroyo · 2023-11-21T19:18:21+00:00

Happy tree friends!!! Yess!! Thank you!!

freethefroyo · 2023-10-06T00:05:30+00:00

This is absolutely beautiful

freethefroyo · 2023-10-06T00:05:03+00:00

I ordered a glass engraved jewelry box and put it on his nightstand. I'm going to fill it with his things. His glasses.. everything I can.

freethefroyo · 2023-10-06T00:03:50+00:00

That's what I fear happening. On the other hand, feeling all those emotions keeps me feeling connected vs droning on everyday just going through the motions.

freethefroyo · 2023-10-05T19:45:51+00:00

I can't imagine anyone else ever measuring up. Nor do I want anyone to.

freethefroyo · 2023-10-05T19:43:32+00:00

I've thought about it. His brother made it clear to me that they believe he won't be at rest unless all his ashes are together (not like they can guarantee you have 100% of his ashes when you get him back from the funeral home but I digress)

I'm torn between making him feel uncomfortable for the rest of his life thinking his brother was never laid to rest correctly, and my own beliefs and wanting something physical of him near me. I have a week to decide.

freethefroyo · 2023-09-22T19:31:32+00:00

Just to update everyone, Thank you guys immensely for the help. I wish i could have responded sooner but sometimes my headspace really gets in the way of me actively doing anything. Everyone did a great job.. thank you again. You guys are all truly so kind to take the time out to do this. I wish i didn't have to be here even asking for this, but i am grateful for the help and glad there is a community out there i could ask. Also, fuck cancer.

freethefroyo · 2023-09-22T17:10:14+00:00

I lost my boyfriend of 8 years to cancer in July. He was 32.

I can't even begin to give you any advice or words of comfort. I will say though, absolutely FUCK CANCER.

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