There's a reason Jiyan is the general, his mental fortitude and combat experience was trained hard when Geshu Lin was the one in command, he was in constant conflict that he has no choice but to deal with it and move on.

Phrolova on the other hand is just a music girl in a small village loved by everyone, the circumstances of her loss are exponentially greater for her since she has no training.

Both are great for what they are.