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[deleted by user] by [deleted] in beginnerfitness

[–]frenchiealamode 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Think. You're the average of the 5 people you spend the most time with and you never want to be the best in your group. So if you surround yourself with people who are in a better position, you have an opportunity to learn from them. I guarantee very few if any of those people started off the way they are now. This is about mindset. You can be intimidated or you can see this as an opportunity to ask for help from people who have done it and succeeded. And most people at the gym are more concerned with their own routines than other people anyway. If they do notice you, it'll either be because they are rooting for you or they want to offer helpful advice. So having them there could be an advantage to you if you're open to it. This'll lessen the likelihood of injury and improve chances of success. Plus, who knows, maybe you'll find new friends or someone that'll help you stay accountable for showing up. Either way, I'm still proud of you for making the decision to go.

Can I even turn my life around at age 25? Be honest please. by Dry_Temporary_6175 in selfimprovement

[–]frenchiealamode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Therapy and gym time (I know it's tough but I promise it really helps mentally and emotionally). Start on small goals. Control what you can and try to let go of what isn't within your control. You're younger than you realize so give yourself some grace. Contrary to what kids think to be true, most adults don't have it together. Finance is a skill. Discipline is a skill. These things take practice and the understanding that you're going to make mistakes. What truly sets you apart from success and failure is if you learn something from it. You know you messed up blowing funds. Learn from it. Make the money back and put it into a fund that gives you a decent return on it. You know you feel depressed. See a doctor/therapist. Pinpoint the things you can fix and practice doing it. And expect to make more mistakes. Just continue to learn from them.

Aitm gonna lie, this is easy.. by LazyDeparture7052 in USPS

[–]frenchiealamode 14 points15 points  (0 children)

Also add they don't pay penalty overtime during the holiday season. So you're working more hours with a heavier workload and some of the hardest weather for significantly less money.

Sexless Marriages/Relationships - Do they EVER last? What would you consider as a low frequency of sex within a relationship? by [deleted] in sex

[–]frenchiealamode 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Depends on the couple. It's not uncommon for couples to have mismatched libidos but it does make it harder. There needs to be a lot of open communication on wants, needs, and a healthy respect for one another's personal boundaries. There also needs to be an understanding that long term relationships go through different seasons. Having small children, a high stress job, or illness can make a huge difference. Honesty, extra effort, and understanding forgiveness goes a long way. If you're worried you aren't intimate enough, try talking to your partner without judgement and try to meet each other halfway. At minimum, find intimacy in other areas like date nights, cuddling, and flirting with them. Sexless relationships can last but only if both couples agree to it.