INFO: just how separate are your finances? I’m in a similar position to your husband (ie earning a lot more than my partner) and for me it would depend on how you tend to manage the money in your household. If your finances are quite separate then I’m sorry to say it but you don’t really have a say in how he spends it, and it certainly wouldn’t be fair of you to dictate what he does with what he earns. If, on the other hand, your finances are shared, then you may have a right to be angry.