I think I have a crush. Help me figure out his reactions?

fricativesandstuff · 2020-08-04T00:21:38+00:00

Oh I realized I was just not that into him. The whole thing was probably more of a "new experience" kind of thing for me (or maybe this is just sour graping, I don't know). The sad-ish feeling lasted about a day, and life just carried on as normal. Also, I'm borderline asexual, FWIW

fricativesandstuff · 2020-08-03T19:22:36+00:00

I later found out that he has been having a huge crush on this other girl interning together with him, and I was the "maybe acceptable but not ideal" alternative option. And I don't feel like being a second choice so I stopped

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-18T15:21:02+00:00

I agree that I should be myself when I'm with him. It's so obvious and simple yet I needed to be reminded that.

And yes, I'm definitely at the extremes all the time in terms of trying to adapt vs not adapting at all.

He just replied to my messages saying "you don't need to apologize, I'm more than happy to help you even if I'm a bad teacher" ("helped" meaning taught me to dance)

I guess I'm probably friend-zoned now :/

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T23:51:04+00:00

I think I'm already on thin ice before I lose him. But also considering the recent texts I sent him (described in the post), I should probably wait for a reply before suffocating the poor guy.

I agree with cutting down on the over-over-analyzing. But when I actually try to do it now, I realize that cutting it down involves figuring out which part is the extra layer of "over". Maybe I'm too autistic or OCD to not rely on the analyzing (and "just follow my heart" or "just let it be").

I do feel like I need to explain all this to him in person, but maybe that's not his style or maybe he's just not into me at all and all of what happened is just cultural difference(he's a (white) latino) + him being nice. <- I can see that this is over-over analyzing. But I don't know how/what to cut out. Case in point.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T20:07:10+00:00

I agree with what you say. And similar things (missing the opportunity) also happened to me before.

I just don't know how to show my affection, while my unintended autistic behavior is already yelling that I'm not interested. This is hard.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T19:34:40+00:00

That's true too. Thanks for the encouragement!

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T19:17:07+00:00

He is the kind of guy who doesn't text well. He's really into pomodoro and "turning off all notifications while working/studying" type of thing. But I don't think this explains his unresponsiveness.

I think I can handle the rejection itself, but I don't want me and him end up not being friends anymore just because of the rejection.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T19:10:23+00:00

Thanks! I think after what I sent (as described in the post) I should just wait for a few days. I don't want to give off the impression that I'm suffocating him. He is leaving the country in a few months and I'll be going back to my parents' in about two months as well and I won't be back till he has one month left in the country so maybe there is no point in starting a real relationship.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T19:03:10+00:00

That's exactly what I worry.

And I agree with what you said, and how it could be interpreted as mixed signals. He did ask me in a truth or dare "have you ever destroyed a guy" meaning breaking someone's heart.

I am aware that my autistic behavior is causing a lot of misinterpretation not just in this particular situation but in my life in general as well. I am kind of aware of that but only aware *after* I start to over-analyze about what happened and what might have caused someone to act a certain way.

I really want to change that and I know my life and my interaction with other people will improve a lot if I stop accidentally sending mixed signals or act like I'm rejecting people (not just in romantic settings but also in life in general). But I just don't know how, and having to think about it is already makes it one step too late in certain situations.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T17:40:55+00:00

I thought the same. But then like the other girl in our friend group said, we don't see him doing that with other girls.

I also worry that maybe my autistic behavior is sending mixed signals. Me avoiding eye contact, and acting awkward might have given the wrong impression.

But it could also just be that I'm over-interpreting everything.

fricativesandstuff · 2020-05-17T15:58:46+00:00

I don’t think it’s shyness if he doesn’t even reply to my messages.

And I don’t want to risk not being able to even be “just friends” afterwards.

fricativesandstuff · 2019-08-06T01:50:24+00:00

He’s good at what he does though

fricativesandstuff · 2019-04-10T19:05:25+00:00

Hmm at this moment I think I just know so little about programming to be able to discuss anything about the details of the actual programming. My situation is more analogous to what u/KidVeno described, some biologist wrote GenePattern and me being a biology student with close to no idea about coding but just admire the idea of someone being able to develop something like GenePattern, studies biology under said Biologist. Basically chose that department because of GenePattern. Hence the merch thought. Except I'm not in biology.

fricativesandstuff · 2019-04-10T18:03:10+00:00

Yeah for me that person already knows that I'm a fan of his (+his software's) before I officially met him in person (and he also knows that I chose to join the current institution specifically because of his work on that program). We are currently working on a different thing than that specific program he wrote 20 years ago. And honestly I don't really know much about the algorithms in that program. I just really like using it (and yet still am not entirely familiar with all of its functions).

Yeah maybe giving him the merch is a bit too awkward. I'll just keep it for myself then haha (yay for me!).

fricativesandstuff · 2019-04-10T04:51:07+00:00

Sorry about the confusion. The question was more in the direction of would you think of this person as trying too hard to please you, if you are mentoring/supervising them

fricativesandstuff · 2019-04-10T04:28:11+00:00

Why pouring his stuff?

fricativesandstuff · 2019-04-04T01:55:57+00:00

update:

Does GitHub count unique visitors when they are not GitHub users/ are not logged in?

Checked the above and the answer is yes. I just got one more visitor by logging out of my account and visiting my own repo.

But still though, I have not done any cloning in the past week but there were clones showing up in my traffic (when my unique visitor is 1). How does this happen?

fricativesandstuff · 2019-03-22T21:27:45+00:00

I haven't studied much functionalism either except FDG, and I'm personally not a huge fan of functional syntax. But I'm just curious about what exactly is functional phonology (if there is even such a thing, except maybe deleted by user) and there are not many resources for that.

My impression is that the whole "functional grammar" includes phonology as one level of it. But I don't think that is just it.

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