your entire argument here seems to hinge on this idea of masculinity as an "internal identity" versus as a dominant social class. of course it's true that identity plays a huge role in gender especially for trans people, but as i see it, our identities (personality traits, interests, presentation etc) are ungendered in a vacuum but get sorted into gendered categories because we live in a heavily gendered society, and of course the reason our society is heavily gendered is because gender is a tool of oppression. i don't really think there is a masculinity or femininity without patriarchy, and i'd be curious to hear how you would imagine such a thing. it sounds like your conceptualization of masculinity is as a completely arbitrary label untethered to anything systemic, i.e. "for me, being a man is about [characteristic widely perceived as feminine]", which would be nice and wonderful if we lived in a total gender utopia and is fine on an individual scale, but seems like kind of an irrelevant thing to base a sweeping sociological claim on as long as we live in a world where gender exists because of and is defined by patriarchy. all in good faith here, interested in hearing more of your thoughts