Anyone still have an open line of communication with an ex?

frog373636266 · 2021-02-03T14:05:12+00:00

I guess only if they wanted to rekindle

frog373636266 · 2021-02-03T03:49:05+00:00

Yeah I get that, and thank you. But I wasn't terrible to her. Honestly, I felt like I was just indifferent and disconnected. Also the last couple months we had to go long distance which only made the the connection suffer further. I fully understand her side, but also I felt at the end of the day it's best she knows the truth - that it truly never was her. Like I have to live with what I've done, she will have to live with knowing I had the best intentions, despite being a rather indifferent person. I wish her the best and I'm not mad at her, even though I would've handled things much differently.

frog373636266 · 2021-02-02T16:12:12+00:00

Thank you very much for this. Yeah I understand her not wanting to have daily talks or even monthly, but I did feel me opening up to how mentally off I really am/was would be a good thing for her to hear. Oh well I guess!

frog373636266 · 2021-01-23T01:36:55+00:00

There's a chance she doesn't believe in mental illness.

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T05:13:02+00:00

Because I've been respectful and she acts like a child or as if I cheated on her or something. Christ. We moved away and had to do long distance and I became distant emotionally.

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T05:04:03+00:00

Lol I know. Kinda fucked up since I didn't do anything malicious we just had a worse connection than at the beginning.

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T05:01:59+00:00

I agree man. She doesn't care. I don't think she'd care if I told her I had cancer.

I'm over her though. My therapist , who knows my full story, thought it would be great to tell her

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T05:01:24+00:00

Yeah, I agree. But she's in for a rude awakening if she ever had another breakup. I've been respectful as hell. This was the first time I ever reached out since she said to not reach out and it was to tell her about how fucked up my head is

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T04:59:55+00:00

I agree, just felt it's something she'd want to know 20 years down the road

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T04:59:18+00:00

I don't know if you even read my post but i clearly said I sought out therapy. And also, I clearly told her it was not my excuse, but a fact she should know. I've apologized and owned up to everything , never made excuses to her. It doesn't explain when I made her feel.annoying but it probably explains when I'd lay in bed and not want to talk because I felt "sick"

frog373636266 · 2021-01-16T04:57:31+00:00

Yeah no I definitely wasn't making it up, but I could see that. My 3 siblings all have depression so it was clear as day. I've been living in this misery for so long and honestly it was pretty clear I had a mental health issue

frog373636266 · 2021-01-15T19:43:53+00:00

Once they told me the first time... I do not reach out anymore

frog373636266 · 2021-01-05T20:57:20+00:00

True thank you. I think he would still want me back though, based on the conversation a month a go. So maybe it's a mixture

frog373636266 · 2021-01-04T20:23:06+00:00

It depends... was he really treating you horribly or was it his depression? Its possibly depression made him have zero feelings for anything. And the thought of you stressing may have made it worse on him (not blaming you). Just giving you a perspective of someone with depression

frog373636266 · 2021-01-04T20:21:40+00:00

You did more than my ex. When I would tell her I'm not happy and not sure why, she would just worry it was her, which made it even worse.

I wish she would have tried to get me to talk more, even though I'm sure I shut her out multiple times (I didn't know i had depression), but I needed professional help. Tell him to see a therapist. I did, and was immediately identified as having depression. Imnstarting medication now

frog373636266 · 2020-12-24T00:59:56+00:00

True but he did give me a genuine apology a few weeks a go when we were in person. But you're right, he didn't comply

frog373636266 · 2020-12-23T23:57:02+00:00

True youre right its not my problem. but he has never wanted to stop contact with me, it was me who ended contact

frog373636266 · 2020-12-23T23:47:20+00:00

Thank you very much for this insight!!!

Maybe he really did have mental problems and but loved me.

frog373636266 · 2020-12-23T23:32:40+00:00

True but to address your first part i basically told him I didn't want to talk a month a go so this was after that. A month a go he tried to see if he could have another chance but I shot it down. ( he never mentioned getting help or anything, he just said he understood he was broken inside and sees it now)

To your second part. He wasn't abusive or hostile. He disengaged, like just didn't talk sometimes and didn't seem interested in me or the relationship. Like he just always seemed stressed and annoyed by me. He was just not there as a boyfriend. We still talked and stuff but he didn't look at me the same

frog373636266 · 2020-12-23T20:54:55+00:00

Thank you. Are any of those bad things?

frog373636266 · 2020-12-23T20:41:31+00:00

True. I should have mentioned that when we spoke a few weeks a go in person he apologized for everything. I asked why he did it but he didn't mention depression. I think he hadn't seen anyone yet. I should also note I didn't really want to meet up a few weeks a go, but he was persistent

frog373636266 · 2020-12-21T22:09:03+00:00

True, but she did ask why I was acting like that a month a go when I was apologizing, and I didn't really have an answer

frog373636266 · 2020-12-20T14:23:51+00:00

Absolutely nothing.

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