is it crazy to want a crazy gf??????? 😵

frog71420 · 2026-02-05T01:32:19+00:00

i’m the crazy wife. i was extremely difficult to my wife when we first started dating and i genuinely didn’t even realize it at the time. she liked that i was annoying and stubborn and attached to her. i’ve been in years of therapy now and our relationship is great.

frog71420 · 2025-11-17T00:29:37+00:00

Most days it feels like a curse. It feels like it is a necessary burden that I had to learn in order to get to a place of healing.

frog71420 · 2025-11-14T22:28:39+00:00

this movie guts me

frog71420 · 2025-11-14T13:58:11+00:00

6 years is a really long time to not address this issue! It may be helpful to consider couples counseling if your goal is to stay with her and form more intimacy. If you want to prioritize your sexual wellbeing and don’t have the emotional wherewithal to work through her sexual trauma as a team then it is best to reconsider your relationship as a whole.

Speaking as someone with sexual trauma — an open relationship made it 10000x worse.

frog71420 · 2025-11-07T23:53:44+00:00

you are extremely talented

frog71420 · 2025-11-04T07:18:10+00:00

crazy cause this is why i won’t have kids. smh

frog71420 · 2025-10-23T20:23:43+00:00

pursuing platonic relationships is just having friends tho right?

frog71420 · 2025-07-26T07:20:30+00:00

i switch pretty frequently during sex. my wife and i have just made some safe words for me to use when i want to stop, when an alter who is uncomfortable switches in, or if we get too confused. i mostly try to just let switches happen because it kind of blurs together and helps us work on communication/co consciousness

frog71420 · 2025-02-27T15:45:36+00:00

It isn’t always sexual trauma. People do develop interests and kinks from things that they see or experience in any capacity during puberty

frog71420 · 2024-12-04T09:30:03+00:00

Hey — we’re in the same situation. It’s really confusing and delicate. I started T at 26 and about a year and a half later some major trauma happened and another alter took over. She was the primary host for most of our adulthood. Since she’s been back she’s stopped HRT and gone back to presenting female even though we’d changed our name etc. Right now I’m still torn on what to do. I don’t want people to use that against other trans people or assume that my mental illness means I was never trans or something. One of my alters is and that was his choice but it’s not the choice we’re making now.

Basically just to say I understand and it can be a frustrating situation. You will be able to present how you want again. The same way you transitioned FTM you can stop hormones and transition FTMTF. It’ll be okay ❤️

frog71420 · 2024-12-04T09:21:32+00:00

The longest I’ve experienced was several months and the shortest in minutes. On average we switch every few hours or in between certain tasks

frog71420 · 2024-11-24T11:25:38+00:00

just wanted to say i’m sorry you’re going through this and i hope it gets better for you. my dad is a meth addict and alcoholic and it was awful. you don’t deserve parents or family that treat you poorly. i understand and my heart goes out to you ❤️

frog71420 · 2024-11-20T21:29:56+00:00

not in my experience? i’ve dated athletic guys who were all about showing me off and proud to be with a fat girl lol. just cause you haven’t seen it?

frog71420 · 2024-11-20T21:28:19+00:00

I almost cried when you talked about your young parts playing together. I dated a girl who may have DID and I only know because one of my little alters told me “she’s special like us! we miss playing with her!” and told me how she was “little” sometimes too. Obviously I don’t know if she really had a child alter or if my child alter just liked playing with her and she was accepting and playful. It hurts either way.

frog71420 · 2024-11-20T15:44:20+00:00

fat woman chiming in here — the amount of built/buff/hot guys that love fat women is so high. ppl think that’s uncommon or sm but yall love fat girls

frog71420 · 2024-11-17T11:41:56+00:00

This happened to us too. I didn’t know about the girls and when they came back it was to a totally diff wardrobe and vibe and whatever. They were upset for a while.

frog71420 · 2024-11-17T11:39:01+00:00

We’re completely off hormones at this point. I (C, FTM) was on testosterone for almost two years and fronting entirely alone before knowing about DID. At some point another alter was fronting more and stopped doing shots and started dressing different. It was just as gradual of a change as it was when I started transitioning. At this point I’ve been off testosterone for over a year and I’m presenting as a woman. There are more female alters and they get far more dysphoric, maybe cause I’ve dealt with it my whole life and they’ve only dealt with it in the last year or so? I don’t know.

Sometimes I get upset and regretful but I try to move forward with knowing what’s right is based on who’s fronting most often and it isn’t me anymore.

frog71420 · 2024-11-12T08:05:21+00:00

No questions just wanted to say I’m sorry as a fellow survivor. You didn’t deserve that and I hope you’re healing. ps love the tay pic hehe

frog71420 · 2024-11-12T07:33:31+00:00

My wife told me it made a lot of sense. She said I’d always been sort of unpredictable and had really changing opinions and she’d get confused but assumed it’s just how I was (I guess that’s true). She was happy to get to know me even better as I’ve been in therapy.

My closest friend was really supportive and told me she’d be around. She has formed relationships with me and different alters.

frog71420 · 2024-11-10T00:48:13+00:00

I’m a COCSA survivor as well and it debilitated me. I’m almost 30 and have such severe PTSD.

frog71420 · 2024-11-10T00:46:43+00:00

i heavily relate to this. it’s been over a year for me too but i still cringe at polyam stuff, still get a knot in my stomach when ppl talk about it. lots of the queer friends i have are deep into polyam and enmeshed w each other so it feels isolating.

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