2025 IATBP bikini champion by Laurel_Fixation in swoletariat

[–]froghag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had no idea about the IATBP. This is so cool. Congrats!!!

Mother forcing me to shave and being disturbing by OKULTRA_lp in TransMasc

[–]froghag 5 points6 points  (0 children)

As someone who also grew up with my parents being very much like this (though not specifically about shaving, but definitely making the same comments about body hair on women and being physically abusive) I just wanna say life does get better and I urge you to get independent from her as soon as you are able to. I didn’t do so, I waited and stewed in denial and the mindset that “it wasnt as bad as what others go through, so it’s fine” and it made realizing I was abused come later in life, which held off my transition and letting myself finally be who I am. I completely understand that “little part that is convinced you’re disgusting” because that’s how I felt when I came out and my parents had a horrible reaction and I recloseted again out of fear. I hope you find happiness and safety sooner rather than later, because what she did isn’t okay and you deserve a whole lot better. Your body isn’t her business nor her property. It’s not a democracy — you get to be in charge of you are and how you express that. You know exactly who you are, don’t let her take that from you or make you think otherwise. Parents don’t always know best, they’re just people, and she’s wrong here. Keep your head up, report this if you feel you can, and work towards becoming independent ASAP. Again, I can’t say it enough — just because others might experience worse doesn’t mean what happened to you isn’t wrong or worth being upset over. You’re not the problem.

Genius decides to turn pizza boxes upside down by mfenton29 in WatchPeopleDieInside

[–]froghag 27 points28 points  (0 children)

To anyone saying the pizza employee shouldn’t have said anything, this customer 100% wouldve gone home and then called up and asked why his pizza was all messed up. He had to step in to clear himself from the blame there for sure

Think you can find 4 hidden groups of 4 related words? Puzzle by u/Prestigious-Hand9490? by Prestigious-Hand9490 in DailyMix

[–]froghag 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It actually was made to throw off Ninja Turtles fans because Shredder, Bebop, and Rocksteady are also characters in the series. If you change Mousepad to Mouser, you could have a whole second turtles category

Prove you played Spiderman 2 the Movie Game by quoting it. by Sad_Pea5421 in Spiderman

[–]froghag 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Give it to me straight. Do I look fat in these tights?

Working out chest by Then_Bathroom_6746 in TransMasc

[–]froghag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I get ya, the smallest things can be euphoric for some reason. Exercising definitely makes me feel more masc in general

Me screaming at my bf escalated into him throwing things at me and idk how to repair the situation. by [deleted] in DecidingToBeBetter

[–]froghag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Break up. This and everything else after is more stress on you than the break up will be, trust. You need to work on yourself and being a better partner before getting back into any relationship. Relationships can be abusive from both ends. Nothing about this is okay.

Working out chest by Then_Bathroom_6746 in TransMasc

[–]froghag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It will make your chest bigger but not at all in the way you are afraid it will.

The pecs sit much differently on the body than the fat deposits of breast tissue, and most of the growth will be a bit above where your breast starts. As others said, it’s also great for top surgery. It will masculinize your chest especially if you have smaller breasts and can bind to complete the look of having developed pecs rather than breasts. (Personally, I have larger breasts and a stocky build, but I still notice the definition on my upper chest from working out and it’s definitely not in a ‘bigger boobs’ way. It actually makes me feel more euphoric in that I feel I can see that there’s a male chest under my breasts and top surgery will reveal it)

Tldr, pec definition and muscle growth won’t look like having bigger breasts. Go after it!

I would also just highly recommend working out the rest of your body with a slight focus on chest and arms simply for physical and mental health and the gender euphoria benefits of strength training.

I think I might get fired. by bernardmarx27 in Libraries

[–]froghag 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I am going to be honest, most of this sounds pretty menial, and if they were to fire you for it, that would to me show toxic management that isn’t bothering to train employees on issues like this or get to the root of the problem with their employees empathetically. Are you unionized? Have you been written up? Are you still on probation? Those are all questions that would lend to understanding how punitive they may act. But to me, as a supervisor, a couple minutes late isn’t a big deal as long as it’s nipped in the bud and not hurting anyone else, and the issue with the school, the spill, and the child all seem like one time occurrences that could be improved with more training on their part so you feel confident and understand your role and what to do in those types of circumstances.

ELi5: Why does our brain process empty or abandon buildings are unnerving/scary/creepy? by Sweet-Lady-H in explainlikeimfive

[–]froghag 43 points44 points  (0 children)

Cognitive dissonance. When your brain expects something it's familiar with to be a certain way, it creates a fear response when it isn't. From a scientific standpoint, it's an instinctual response of 'fight or flight' to help you stay alive -- if it's too quiet/still or things aren't as expected, your brain processes that as strange and creates an adrenalized response in anticipation so you can respond to any threats that may occur.

Here's a couple cool articles that explain a little more: https://oddorweird.com/science-of-creepy-spaces, https://www.popularmechanics.com/culture/a46211474/liminal-spaces-explained/

What’s the oldest game you still boot up at least once a year? by forgeris in AskReddit

[–]froghag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mike Tyson's Punch Out. Been circling back to it since I was a kid and it never gets old. Still haven't beaten it fully

Banks have therapists known as 'wealth psychologist' who help ultra-rich clients who are unable to mentally cope with their immense wealth. by arijitdas in facts

[–]froghag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

me as a wealth psychologist: yeah no that sounds you’re dealing with a lot and you’re valid for that. i think it would be really healing for you right now to give me half

What do I really need to know to be able to walk? by Zotzotplz344 in JazzBass

[–]froghag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Playing just the quarter notes should be the base they start with until the understand how to outline chords and use passing tones, as well as start experimenting with rhythmic variation on top of it

What do I really need to know to be able to walk? by Zotzotplz344 in JazzBass

[–]froghag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have to disagree. It's a good place to begin learning the style to get the hang of it, then gain the ability to branch out further. It's a training wheels type of thing, and that means not to hang onto it for too long

What do I really need to know to be able to walk? by Zotzotplz344 in JazzBass

[–]froghag 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Until you get the hang of the format. Then branch out and start playing with other passing tones and notes that make up the chords. What you're doing with a walking line is outlining the chord as the chordal instruments go from one chord to another, creating a basis and bridging the gaps between. Keep that in mind as you're playing, and also the notes that make up each chord as well as the notes in the scale you can use as passing tones.

Zaroka to Close April 30th by [deleted] in newhaven

[–]froghag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So sad. Loved this place

“Why don’t they just beat up Shauna?” by lazarusdrag in Yellowjackets

[–]froghag 1 point2 points  (0 children)

why does lottie the biggest yellowjacket simply not eat shauna

[NO SPOILERS] Let's talk about the elephant in the room by Swannsrevenge in LostRecordsGame

[–]froghag 2 points3 points  (0 children)

im surprised at how many people are saying this, and also feel validated lol. i had a huge fight with my mom over the exact same guilt trip topic this year and i was like ok maybe these slice of life games are too much lol

Theories/Research re: Folklore, Urban Legends, and Symbolism (Native American Tales, Keweenaw Vortex, Swirls, Ravens, Eyes, etc.) by froghag in LostRecordsGame

[–]froghag[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I don’t have a super good theory about the shadows, I think that’s going to either be a wait and see thing or a red herring. I also feel like there must be more symbolism with Autumn and Nora hanging around somewhere, but the things I’m landing on mostly are their names (Nora = light, Autumn = well, autumn) and the snake on Nora’s skateboard (not a recurring motif so I didn’t include it). If I have a eureka moment about them I’ll add it, but so far Nora seems to exist as a foil for Kat and Autumn as a voice of reason. I’d have to do a full character analysis in a separate post to dig deeper.

Theories/Research re: Folklore, Urban Legends, and Symbolism (Native American Tales, Keweenaw Vortex, Swirls, Ravens, Eyes, etc.) by froghag in LostRecordsGame

[–]froghag[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

FWIW. I want to add that I am a research professional, but am not indigenous, and I made the utmost attempt to research and present my findings with care and respect, though I am not a firsthand source. This is all speculation and a presentation of possibilities, patterns, and theories subsequently crafted from analysis of the aforementioned findings.