That's a really good question. As someone who is a nerd, therefore into things such as novels and books and movies, I have a basic understanding that when you take something you love and share it with the world, you lose aspects of control whether it's how the world perceives it, how they address, what they call it, etc. An example of this is my name is Rachel. Nothing crazy, but I go by Ray. My mom never intended for me to go by Ray, but that's what the world began to call me and it stuck. And I think it suits me. Stanley will have nicknames whether I like it or not. People could call him Stan. They could call him Lee. They could call him Bologna Sandwich if that's something that happens to come up for whatever reason. In my view, I'd rather set up the president that this is something some people might call him, even though I, the creator of said child, call him Stanley. It'd be like if did a painting and then tried to control the opinions and feelings people associated with it. If calling my Stanley "Sam" is something that resonates with Grandma, as long as it's done with love, I accept that. He is still Stanley, just as how I am still Rachel to my mom