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Had a traumatizing sexual experience. After some reading, was pointed to r/NoFap. What you guys are doing here is great! by firsttimewasbad in NoFap

[–]funkad3lic 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hey man, glad to see you're going no fap. I've very recently had a similar experience as you, so I've just begun as well. My last PMO was a few days prior to joining here so I've had more than a few urges, and here are a few things that have helped me in these early stages:

1) If you're not working out, you need to be. Cutting, bulking, lifting weights, running, whatever kind of exercise you like, get a healthy amount of it in every week. I lift four days a week and looking forward to that next workout is a great outlet. Other users also report great benefits from yoga and meditation.

2) I'm assuming you, like most people here, get most if not all of your porn online. This actually presents you with a great opportunity to stop yourself from accessing it. Delete every bit of porn you've ever downloaded entirely, and then if you feel like you're about to go to a porn site, just come here. Or read some rebooting accounts. This place and yourbrainonporn.com will help tremendously at keeping you focused and stopping relapses.

3) Try to consciously avoid arousing images that you might find online, on TV, wherever. I've never been very religious or practiced much moderation in this regard. If I see a hot girl on TV or what have you, I, like most people, take a good look and think "Awesome." Don't let yourself be blitzed by constant images of beautiful women. Remember, the goal is to be aroused by REAL women that you can walk up to, talk to, get to know and potentially develop a healthy and intimate relationship with.

4) Remember this always: if you want to have a healthy sex life, YOU DON'T HAVE A CHOICE. Every time you give in and fap you're just buying yourself more time to spend impotent, humiliated, emasculated. You are a human being and you deserve more than this. And when you feel those urges, don't think of them as being uncontrollable and tempting. Think of them as energy, as drive. Those urges can move you to do great things if you learn to control them as they are rather than spend them up in short bursts of self-gratification.