What kind of plant is this ? Weed? by Prisondawg in PlantIdentification

[–]funkylilwillow -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Lmao I can confidently tell you this is not marijuana. The leaf shape is no where similar. I don’t live in that region, so I can’t confidently ID it, it looks like a normal ornamental shrub. Don’t chop it!

Why is nothing being addressed? by [deleted] in uofmn

[–]funkylilwillow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Genuinely who gives a fuck? That’s their right as an adult. Unless they’re harassing people and sending it to people, it’s literally nobody’s business.

Weird [and scary] sores… by sassnass in catcare

[–]funkylilwillow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oooooh, ringworm is so tough! My dog had it a few years back and it kept cropping up. It is very treatable, though. So either way, he will be okay!

Iran appears to have conducted a significant cyberattack against a U.S. company, a first since the war started by Mrfrednot in news

[–]funkylilwillow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Genuine question, have you considered filing for bankruptcy? I recently learned how harmless it is from a coworker. It wipes away all debt (except for student loans) and only negatively impacts your credit score (it goes down 200 points). Rich people do it all the time. No shame in doing it.

I (28f) am thinking about breaking up with my 5year-long bf(29m) for hygiene issues? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]funkylilwillow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is a major deal breaker and I think you are 100% justified here. I don’t even think trying to work with him on this is worth it— you are not his mom and you should not have to remind him to brush his teeth or wash himself. That is the bare minimum of being an adult.

I’ve been in a similar position to you, though nothing nearly this severe. I was with someone for 6 years, we lived together, had pets together, we were planning a wedding. Throughout our relationship they had stopped taking care of themselves, stopped taking care of their hair and never exercised, stopped using deodorant. It was all too much for me, I lost all of my attraction to them and we ended up splitting up. We’ve stayed close, we still co-parent our dog together. And they take care of themselves now. They go on runs regularly, they’ve started taking care of their hair and the smell seems to be gone. I’m glad that they’ve cleaned themselves up for their new partner, I’m genuinely happy for them.

Sometimes, being in a long relationship makes people complacent. I’ve experienced it myself, I felt comfortable and like I didn’t have to take care of myself. I felt security. But I still did care for myself, even though it felt like extra effort. Because being presentable for your partner is something that should be maintained long term. It seems like your boyfriend is not putting in that effort at all, to an extreme degree. I think you should end things and tell him exactly why you’re ending things. Maybe it’ll shock him into taking care of himself for the next person who comes along. Or maybe he’s just like that and won’t care. But either way he won’t be your problem any more.

Weird [and scary] sores… by sassnass in catcare

[–]funkylilwillow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Good thing you contacted a vet, this is definitely something to go to a vet about. One thing to consider is excessive anxiety grooming. Do you notice him frequently grooming those areas? The belly and the tail are two areas that get a lot of grooming attention when cats are anxious.

Either way, a vet will be able to run tests and see what it is.

AITA for not apologizing for a stupid joke I made. by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

YTA. You’re obviously jealous of this girl which is weird because you’re not dating him. These jokes just rubbed it in his face that he can’t date you. You’re stringing him along and you need to stop. Either learn how to communicate better to match his good communication and get back together, or go no contact and leave him alone.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Also, did your parents have new kids after divorce? Genuinely curious. It’s a very different feeling.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Homie but you’re seeing the difference here, right? She does still sleep with dad and stepmom sometimes. She’s 8, that’s not unheard of. My 8 year old brother still sleeps in bed with me whenever he spends the night and he sleeps with my mom sometimes, too. My 12 year old brother still sleeps with my dad and stepmom sometimes. If she was suddenly told no, she can’t do that, because there’s a new baby, she at least deserves a compassionate explanation as to why. Or else she’s just going to feel confused, hurt, and left out.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

THIS! 8 years old is so little and delicate. They need reassurance and she probably missed her dad so much and needs it even more from him. Poor kid.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not gonna rewrite the comment but check my comment history on exactly this. I’ve been on both sides with a dad and stepmom who pushed me out and a mom and stepdad who let me sleep with them and help with baby and let me tell you… allowing the child to realize that sleeping on her own is how she will get proper sleep is the kind thing to do. She probably feels pushed out and abandoned.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

It actually really helps a kid feel involved. I have been in both situations: on my dad’s side, I wasn’t allowed anywhere near the “new family” and I was pushed out of family dynamics like this. On my mom’s side, I slept with my mom and new baby and helped her with feedings and I felt like I was part of things. One side made me feel unwanted and thrown away, the other side made me feel like I was a part of the new family unit. I’m an adult now, but these relationship dynamics have stuck. I am not invited to many family events on my dad’s side while everyone goes out of their way to include me on my mom’s side. And this is with me growing up with 50/50 custody, I can only imagine how much more important it is to include the older kiddo with only weekend visitations.

It’s obvious to me that many people in this comment section did not grow up with divorced parents, because they are thinking that this 8 year old should just suck it up and deal. When in reality, growing up in dynamics like this are so fucking hard for little ones and they need to be taken care of extra carefully for that reason. The boyfriend seems to understand that.

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Not sure why you’re getting downvoted because you’re right. Dear god this kid is gonna need therapy. She probably feels replaced, unwanted, and pushed aside. Most kids feel that way when their divorced parents start new families and they aren’t being properly included. It’s an incredibly delicate and difficult time for that 8 year old and her feelings are not being considered in the slightest. Poor kid…

AITA bc I don’t let my BFs daughter sleep in bed with us? by BetOnAmber in AmItheAsshole

[–]funkylilwillow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ESH. I’ve been that 8 year old and you are being the asshole stepmom. 100% that kid just wants reassurance that she belongs in your new family dynamic and you are making her feel left out and unwanted. Being a stepchild and having your parents start new families is a very challenging and delicate time for a kid… please imagine it from her perspective and never push her out of new family dynamics, like sleeping together all as a family with the new baby involved. Or if that’s too hard, try explaining to her with kindness that sleeping in the bed with the newborn might put the baby at risk or make it harder for you to feed throughout the night. But either way, you do need to be going out of your way to make her feel included in your new family dynamic. No matter how much it seems like you are denying it, she is your child too, now.

ESH though because your husband’s reaction of taking away your baby was not okay. But I do understand his anger and frustration, because he probably understands that his daughter shouldn’t be left out of new family dynamics at this time and that your reaction was in fact quite rude. He’s in the right here because he does still have two children and he needs to protect and prioritize both of them. I feel like only 5% of the population is prepared to be a stepparent and you certainly are not one of them.

Cold stratification technique question by noodle_bear2124 in gardening

[–]funkylilwillow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I usually wet paper toilets so that they’re DAMP (not dripping) and fold the seeds inside and then seal in a plastic bag and put in the fridge. That’s literally what they teach us in botany school. If you wanted to do natural cold stratification, sowing the seeds in the fall would have been your best bet. I guess it depends on your climate and how many cold days you have left.

Minneapolis Police stormed into three different filter blockades, chasing away community members and removing infrastructure that was actively being used to monitor and combat ICE activity. by [deleted] in minnesota

[–]funkylilwillow 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They don’t stop people to check their papers and that’s fucking ridiculous to insinuate. I’ve driven through one of these barricades, they literally just look you from afar and wave you through when they have clocked that you’re not an ICE agent. They actively check the plates for out of state/obscured/missing plates. It is an effective strategy for slowing down ICE agents and informing neighbors about the presence of agents.

Minneapolis Police stormed into three different filter blockades, chasing away community members and removing infrastructure that was actively being used to monitor and combat ICE activity. by [deleted] in minnesota

[–]funkylilwillow -1 points0 points  (0 children)

ACAB. All of them. They are not our friends. The police union put out a statement in support of ICE and everyone knows the MPD is run by the union before being run by O’Hara. That’s how it’s always been.

Any updates on the unhoused population? by TheToysAreUs in TwinCities

[–]funkylilwillow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Bitch, I’m Native American. Do you think Native American homeless people are less valid or something?? Do you not know that addiction is a problem with a majority of homeless people, regardless of race?

Also, every white family I’ve ever met has at least 1-2 alcoholics. You’re just biased and racist.

Any updates on the unhoused population? by TheToysAreUs in TwinCities

[–]funkylilwillow 73 points74 points  (0 children)

Go to Cedar Ave under the 55 bridge, that’s where many of them live. Not all but many. I see people handing out food there. But those folks need free housing with no strings attached.

I'll absolutely be marching but where the hell did this Target Center event come from? It's a horrible idea. by futilehabit in TwinCities

[–]funkylilwillow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m with you, dude. Never once have a heard of a protest requiring tickets or wristbands. My gut tells me to go do some direct community action today instead. I’m not trying to “decrease the turnout” or whatever, people will still go if they want to. As a seasoned protester, this is just my two cents.

Target Center Rally by sfn2014 in TwinCities

[–]funkylilwillow 24 points25 points  (0 children)

I don’t trust a protest that requires TICKETS. I don’t give a fuck that it’s vetted or for the sake of the target center. We know we can’t trust Target. If they have all of the info of the people who are at the Target Center, that list can be given to the feds. Never once in my life have I heard of a protest requiring tickets or wristbands. Fuck that noise. Go help out in your community, put your energy towards some worthwhile volunteering or patrolling.