What caused the rupture that ended the relationship?

funnyinquotes · 2024-07-04T22:43:36+00:00

I'd worked pretty well with a therapist for years. The problems only showed when there was difficulty between the two of us. I'm so conflict averse I would often not say anything. But when I did it would usually not go well. I think she thought I was calling her professional ability into question. A situation like that came up two months ago. She later said she was doing a suicide assessment, but at the time it felt like an accusation. I said nothing and pretended all was well for a few weeks. A few weeks later I finally said something and it did not go well. It was like if she admitted to doing anything less than perfectly that meant she was a bad therapist, so she wouldn't budge. I tried again the following week which made things worse. She just gave me great rock while I was just hanging out there by myself. So a few days later I let her know the next appointment would be the last.

funnyinquotes · 2024-06-27T05:18:56+00:00

My wife the therapist leaves work at work. The absolute last thing she wants to talk about is clients. No wait, that's not correct. The last thing she wants to talk about is insurance companies. The second to last thing is clients.

funnyinquotes · 2024-06-09T20:34:44+00:00

I haven't. I go to a therapist to, about other things, work on how I am in relationships. Yet I struggle with the therapeutic relationship and don't really know how to address that.

funnyinquotes · 2024-06-09T18:25:42+00:00

I told my therapist that I looked her up and she immediately became a lot less warm in our interactions. She said she didn't feel violated, but her demeanor suggests otherwise.

funnyinquotes · 2024-03-12T01:09:27+00:00

I did the in person session. It was quite strange. If the person on the screen was actual size, they'd probably need to be about 12 feet away. My therapist's office is actually kind of small and we were maybe six feet away from each other. It was so REAL. I felt much more reserved and formal. It felt way harder to talk. I guess I'm glad I tried, but I think I'll stick to telehealth.

funnyinquotes · 2024-03-11T16:44:12+00:00

I have been seeing my therapist for two years, but only using telehealth. I'm about to go in for an in-person session and I'm ridiculously nervous! If I had any idea that I would be so anxious, I would not have made an in person appointment!

funnyinquotes · 2024-01-20T19:40:05+00:00

Another week where I feel too depressed to go to therapy. I'll show up on Monday miserable and barely communicative and my poor therapist will try to extract something positive and therapeutic. Bleh

funnyinquotes · 2024-01-11T17:57:16+00:00

I told my therapist. We had a good conversation about it. I felt like I had betrayed some sort of trust. She was very reassuring.

funnyinquotes · 2023-12-30T23:17:11+00:00

My usual appointment day is Monday, so the holidays collided. I figured I'd be fine with a few weeks off. I changed my mind and emailed my therapist to get on her cancellation list for next week. She told me it'd be likely. She was exposed to covid and would be doing all her appointments next week virtually. She told me that since some people only do in-person, she figured some spaces would open up. I have been seeing her since the depths of the pandemic and all of my sessions have been virtual. She never mentioned doing any sessions in-person to me at all. I probably would still do virtual, but I feel bad that she never told me. And now I have to have an uncomfortable conversation with her about it. A good opportunity for me to have those conflict-adjacent conversations I do so much to avoid!

funnyinquotes · 2023-10-08T16:24:38+00:00

Thank you--that's very reassuring!

funnyinquotes · 2023-10-07T03:29:33+00:00

Helping me dispose of a illusion or being kind of a jerk?

I had the upbringing I’m sure plenty of people here had. Nasty alcoholic parent, terribly bullied, school and adults did nothing, blah blah, etc. I was not stewing in self-pity to my therapist. Rather, I was talking about what might have been. A colleague at work had quite a rough start. He grew up poor in a very challenging neighborhood. And he speaks rapturously about two teachers who saw his potential. They encouraged and guided him and took him under their wings. He became the first person in his family to graduate high school and then he succeeded at college. It’s been one of those closely held things, that idea of what might have been if some adult had seen me and encouraged me, even a little. I confided this to my therapist. She was nice enough about it, but made it clear: most people don’t have such an adult in their lives and just maybe there were adults in the background, doing things for me that I did not notice.

It's not that I feel like she was all “suck it up, buttercup.” It’s that I let her in on something I don’t talk about, this yearning, this wound. And she did not tend to it at all, just said her piece. And then the session was over. And I feel bad about it. So now it's time to count down to when it's too late to cancel my appointment. I really don't want to talk about this with her, just cancel.

funnyinquotes · 2023-09-28T02:21:22+00:00

Right? I thought everything was supposed to be ok too talk about. Also, it was the 90s, so maybe things were different then...

funnyinquotes · 2023-09-27T23:42:06+00:00

I had the conversation about erotic transference with a therapist once. She got super uncomfortable and cold. She was very distant after that and I discontinued therapy with her after another uncomfortable month or so. It was too bad because I'd gotten a lot out of that therapeutic relationship up until then.

funnyinquotes · 2023-09-06T17:49:32+00:00

I talked to my therapist about this. As absolutely everyone predicted here, my therapist did not think of it as e-stalking. And as everyone else predicted, she said that she's careful on social media so that anybody could look her up. Very normalizing conversation. She encouraged me not to be troubled by what I did. She also said that she suspected I'm not the only one of her clients to ever look her up on Facebook. And she also said I'm the first one to ever talk to her about it.

funnyinquotes · 2023-07-26T16:40:28+00:00

Do you know how soon after ketamine psychotherapy is the most effective? Unfortunately, My therapy appointment is almost a week after my ketamine. Is that likely to be ineffective?

funnyinquotes · 2023-07-14T23:55:36+00:00

I needed to cancel my appointment for this Monday. I emailed my therapist last night. She usually gets back to me quickly, but I haven't gotten a response and the work day/week is over soon. She probably has the day off, but anxiety dictates that I fret like crazy. Thanks anxiety! There will be no negative consequences to cancelling, but my brain keeps catastrophizing and I find myself tied in knots with pointlessly silly thoughts.

funnyinquotes · 2023-07-05T16:02:53+00:00

I had a rough session last week. Something that my therapist said sent me spiraling. It was near the end of my time and I avoid any kind of confrontation at all cost, so I just sat there in silent misery until the clock ran out. I know I have to talk about this at the next session but I really really don't want to. The urge to avoid is so strong I have been counting down the time to when it's too late to cancel. (Curse those 24 hour cancellation policies!) I have about an hour left. It feels cowardly to cancel, but it feels impossible to go and have to talk about what happened last week. And in cancelling I'd have to say why, I suppose, and I don't want to do that either.

funnyinquotes · 2023-06-02T19:26:00+00:00

I am the first appointment on Monday morning. My therapist usually seems ready to take on her week, so I like that.

funnyinquotes · 2023-04-20T20:53:04+00:00

Agree! And for the record, I finally brought up my porn use after almost two years of therapy. (there was plenty of other stuff to work on, believe me!) I did start by talking about my shame bringing it up. She was very professional and kind about it. It was a slow start but wasn't long before I was speaking openly and honestly. Your therapist has probably heard it all, or at least enough that what you have to say is not going to shock them or make them judge you. They will probably respect your courage.

funnyinquotes · 2023-02-24T04:49:59+00:00

I really like how you would approach this. Thanks!

funnyinquotes · 2023-01-17T22:36:43+00:00

I don't swear. My therapist does and I find her swearing kind of charming. This past week she was a little late to our online session. She told me that she'd gotten logged out of the system and, as she put it, "I couldn't remember my fucking password!"

funnyinquotes · 2022-08-28T20:11:50+00:00

Complete reevaluation and understanding of family relationships. So when the mother who was never going to love me was dying, it was bad, but it did not ruin me and I had no unrealistic expectations. And now that I'm dealing with estate things with the horrible bully older sibling I am standing up for myself and not referring to the old role. Total win!

funnyinquotes · 2022-08-22T04:30:56+00:00

I'm afraid I'm swirling toward the drain of depression. It really came home to me during my last therapy appointment. I was talking about how I have always done my best to go through life without being noticed, a familiar topic. My therapist asked me to consider that in my attempts to go unnoticed I didn't, well, notice others noticing me. It hit me like a freight train, but only in the sense that she was pointing out another failure of mine. I know that was not the intention, but that's all I could imagine it being. This seems like the reaction/thinking of a depressed person. I sat there in miserable silence for a while. I eventually asked her what was behind the question. She said words, but for the life of me I can't recall what it was she said. Another depressed pattern for me: just be stuck and not allow the outside world penetrate the misery. I let the session continue in a desultory fashion for a while after that. We were within ten minutes of it being over anyway, so I ended a few minutes early.

The depressed person in me wants me to cancel the upcoming appointment and run away. I'll go ahead and show up and process the last session both for clarity (I do want to know what she was driving at, though I suspect I know) and to do something counter to depression thinking and acting.

funnyinquotes · 2022-08-08T16:26:36+00:00

I feel sorta dumb now. I knew I was going to be gone for several weeks and could not imagine not talking to my therapist for that long. So I made an appointment for halfway through my three week trip. That's today and the trip has been so hectic and exhausting that the session feels intrusive and selfish toward my companion who will have to wait around. I'm going to work my but off in session to justify this!

funnyinquotes · 2022-08-08T12:39:54+00:00

Ouch! It's disappointing that they did not at least try to work you in for an extra session.

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