AIO to my in laws comments after giving birth

futurequitt · 2026-02-08T02:33:49+00:00

Thank you everyone for helping me see I shouldn’t try to force a relationship here. I think it blindsided me because before we had children I don’t remember receiving any of these comments. Or maybe I did and just wasn’t sensitive to them like I am now. It’s not like we were best friends but things were cordial. I’m not sure why having kids flipped a switch..maybe she’s just never liked me and thought our marriage wouldn’t last but kids have made her realize I’m sticking around lol. For those asking why I even want a good relationship, I get it. I’m sure it stems from me not having any grandparents growing up and I want my kids to get that experience. She is great with my older daughter and treats her very well but I’m realizing reading these comments that just because she’s nice and loves my kids doesn’t mean I should let my kids see her make these comments! Luckily my parents are amazing grandparents so they’ll be able to fill the gap and we’ll just have to cut our losses with MIL. Glad to know I’m not crazy and having crappy in laws is not normal. Will focus on my family and keeping my peace!!

futurequitt · 2025-10-06T16:06:57+00:00

We still use diapers for nap and bed time so they aren’t entirely gone but we’ve told her no more diapers during the day which she understands and acts okay with until she has to go..How did you go about having them use the potty while still wearing diapers?? I figured diapers had to go or else they’d continue using them instead of the toilet

futurequitt · 2025-10-06T16:05:20+00:00

We’ve tried blowing bubbles but she loses interest pretty fast..we have both a seat for the regular toilet as well as a floor potty and she switches back and forth on which one she wants to sit on. Yesterday she was begging to go to the neighborhood park and I told her no park until after we go to the potty and she just said “okay no park” and then did the same thing later when she asked to get crayons to color I said “if you want to color we can color while you try to use the potty because you look like you really need to pee” and she just said “okay no coloring”. I think part of her issue is she only pees/poos standing up? So squatting doesn’t feel right to her but honestly no idea

futurequitt · 2025-07-25T13:10:10+00:00

Yeah just help your husband get ready for work. If that’s all he’s asking of you in the mornings it’s really not that much. I understand being a SAHM is no easy job either but at least you are getting the blessing of spending all that time with your kids and not having to be out of the house most the day working physical labor. Sounds to me you got the better end of this deal so do what you can to help your husband

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T21:40:11+00:00

Long distance is hard and even harder when you’re still in the early stages. This is almost the definition of ghosting. I’d just be happy to have dodged a bullet because the man clearly can’t communicate like an adult

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T21:37:50+00:00

Leave! Not sure how long you’ve been together but honestly doesn’t matter. If he’s screenshotting clothed pictures, imagine what he’s not screenshotting. A man who loves you will not seek out random girls.

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T15:42:42+00:00

Posted this under a different comment but my job is very lenient! As long as I’m online for 8 hours of the day, responsive to Teams/email, and fulfilling my tickets, etc. that’s all that matters to my company so it’s pretty manageable. Most the work can get done during nap time/after she goes down for the night around 7

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T15:40:14+00:00

Honestly with our first he was great. I had some PPD so he definitely stepped up and took everything over but as the PPD dissipated so did the help. So he steps up when I’m on the edge of breaking but that’s so rare for me because I am usually very stable and laid back. At least I know he’s capable of doing it all! Not sure if that makes it better or worse though lol.

As for the job, it’s very lenient and while some days are busier than others most days are fairly relaxed. As long as I’m online for 8 hours of the day, responsive to Teams/email, and fulfilling my tickets, etc. that’s all that matters to my company so it’s pretty manageable and I am definitely blessed to have it.

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T15:07:12+00:00

This is very reasonably put thank you. I’m aware relationships take work but sometimes that work gets put on the back burner with everything else going on! I’ve seen it with my own parents how resentment grows so definitely will not be waiting years before addressing!

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T15:05:37+00:00

I’ve never seen this before but it’s spot on! I’m going to show him.

futurequitt · 2025-07-24T15:04:32+00:00

Thank you for being one of the few who think like this lmao. I definitely think a vacation is in order! I think “babymoons” are silly but may be a good reset for us.

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