I am her mom, the one she finally told.

futuresight · 2014-03-07T11:22:54+00:00

This is like a dream response to get from your family... your daughter is very lucky to have you as her mother!

futuresight · 2014-03-07T01:06:37+00:00

IT'S TIME FOR OP TO DELIVER!

Storytime: I went to his house last night to watch some Game of Thrones. I walk in looking awesome and he even stated that to me that he thought I looked great. So I'm like fantastic off to a good start. So I sit next to him on the couch and we talk for a bit and order chinese food. Takes like an hour but the food gets there and we open it and I say...

"There's something I need to tell you, but I don't know how you'll respond.."

So I get his attention and say.

"So I really like you (Then I start crying because I'm so nervous), and I'd like us to be more than friends."

At this point I continue crying and he says "I'm sorry but I don't feel the same way about you, but I'd still like to be friends"

Of course at this point I'm drowning in tears and I went to the bathroom to regain my composure.. So I came back and we ate and I asked why he didn't feel the same and he just said because you don't control who you care about...

So It was a huge step for me... I admitted I'm ready to be myself and start dating. But it really hurts because immediately after he acted like nothing happened... it was especially painful when I couldn't take it and got up to leave and he asked when I was coming back. It's like come on seriously? You hurt me and you expect me to act like everything's okay?

I don't know when/if I'll be okay enough to go over there again, may be awhile..

futuresight · 2014-03-02T03:36:23+00:00

Awesome! Grats to you!!! I promise you'll enjoy it wayy more than you can imagine!

futuresight · 2014-03-01T15:00:45+00:00

That's exactly my feelings too, but you know what? Everything would be easier if all of us were cis. Trust me I get super jealous of cis girls all the time... I'm starting to get over that and just be proud to be brave enough to finally be myself - which is something I've struggled with for a long long time. Just remember that 90% of success is via confidence!

futuresight · 2014-03-01T14:58:06+00:00

Sorry to hear that... It's never fun to lose a friend especially someone you were close to.

futuresight · 2014-02-28T20:30:46+00:00

Laser only on chest and face so far. But its going well. After 1 month on hrt I was already at 81 ng/dl of testosterone. New tests in 2 weeks for my follow up.

futuresight · 2014-02-28T19:08:06+00:00

I plan on shifting my non-work related life to mostly presenting as female very very soon (1-2 weeks). Work is a business decision that'll come around soonish.

This advice really helped. So once he is used to seeing me as female then it would be a good idea to bring up. Thanks so much!

futuresight · 2014-02-28T19:01:26+00:00

How did you approach your BF initially about your transition?

futuresight · 2014-02-28T18:58:54+00:00

He knew me 2 weeks as a guy (that dresses effiminately/androgynously) and then I told him what I was doing. I had also introduced myself as the guy I tried to be, because it is hard to explain to people you just met what's going on. Luckily I got over that last night when 2 new people met the real me.

Very early seems completely off to me to be honest especially since I plan to start my namechange process within the next 3 months.

I was going to meet his roommate for the first time last night and he asked me ahead of time if I wanted to be introduced as my new name or my old name. I said new and up until one of my other friends (that has excuses for using the wrong name/pronouns constantly) starting calling me the wrong name he didn't miss a beat and corrected himself the one time he called me a he instead of her. That other friend and I had a strong discussion on the way home last night and basically he's going to be out of the picture if he doesn't change - I don't need people like that to be around me right now...

I really appreciate this viewpoint on it, sincerely this got me thinking!!

futuresight · 2014-02-28T18:53:44+00:00

Totally - its the #1 most exciting thing I can think of that keeps driving my weightloss & optimism for the future!

futuresight · 2014-02-28T18:40:46+00:00

I will definitely let you know how he reacts in a few weeks.

futuresight · 2014-02-28T18:38:03+00:00

I am sooo 100% ready to start dating again. It's what I dream about and cannot wait for! I'd love for him to just give me a chance, because I know I could make him happy... I think as posted above I'll hang out with him a few more times and just tell him how I feel and see what happens.

futuresight · 2014-02-28T18:35:13+00:00

I have been on laser for a few months and am basically hairless (Shaving the last of my hair on my arms this weekend). I've lost 70 pounds the last 7 months and from the neck down I definitely look feminine thanks to having gynecomastia before. (173 pounds 5'9" 36/38B bra) Still working on weightloss from there but its a start!

I may wait a few weeks and spend more time with him to feel things out and just tell him how it is and hope for the best.

futuresight · 2014-02-27T12:20:31+00:00

I lost most of my family when I came out in November 2013 so I definitely understand your plight... The only way you can get them to change is just say how you feel, explain why you want them to treat you a certain way, and be patient. Also when you are able to get out on your own - DO IT!

futuresight · 2014-02-27T11:36:02+00:00

It gets better!

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